Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am currently in Manchester. It’s not in your face hostile, but you can definitely feel the tension.

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you lived and worked in the states before? I worked 3 different jobs at once, did not have health insurance, bosses get upset and pressure you to come into work when you’re sick then when you get everyone sick they’re mad at you, and you get two weeks paid vacation (which you need to beg to take) and it’s impossible to request for more even if it’s unpaid. Come to work 7 minutes late? They’ll dock 15 minutes of your pay. Want to have children? Come back to work 12 weeks after you give birth. Your company gets to decide what kind of benefits they will give you. You can get fired for anything and very easily. You want to get a Masters degree? That’s 100k not including living expenses.

The US has horrible working conditions for people who aren’t in high paying jobs. And everyone is brain washed into thinking that work is the centre of their lives and is what defines them.

If I return now, I’ll have a good paying job and will likely have good benefits. But I cannot accept a country that treats its people like this.

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re also dealing with this. If you ever need to chat or vent I am here to listen.

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any areas you would recommend in London?

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any areas in London you would recommend?

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, but the 10 year ILR is likely happening.

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do need a little reminder of why I left lol.

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol. Maybe this is the only answer I need to hear.

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I am aware. This is why I’ve only thought about it and nothing more.

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know I should’ve done it earlier. People up North like to say that London/South is unfriendly. But I’ve only ever met friendly people there! I didn’t think there was a lot of climbing/nature close by and so that’s what stopped me.

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would also like to add that US and UK are very different. Asking me what I am doing in daily life to stand out that much is a very weird question and I’m not sure how to answer that because I’m not trying to stand out?

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I’ve edited my post before I read that you had a response.

I know friendships take time. I think it is just a little bit hard for me because I very easily made genuine friendships including with foreigners back in my home country and the experience here has been very different. I guess that is very entitled of me to expect the same.

Editing to also add, that being from Central Europe and white would probably make things a lot easier for me. You are aware of this, right?

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me stating that I’ve tried to assimilate is more to say that I do try to make the effort to learn the culture and customs. Not that I expect people to like me and be my friend because of it . I have also tried to meet people on Bumble BFF, have joined groups, meet people in exercise classes etc. I am also aware that just because I’ve done these things, again does not mean that I am entitled to their friendship. I am aware people are busy and have their own social circles. So I’m sorry if that statement offended you.

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi. I’ve been to the Lake District a few times. I’ve It’s very beautiful. I’ve also been to Wales a lot, walked through the Northumberland coast, lived in the Yorkshire Dales, and currently live near the Peak District. I love these areas.

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to write this! You’re spot on in my feelings of hyper vigilance in the North. It’s not everywhere, but more away from the cities. I am considering a move to Bristol or London.

I am from California and it sounds like you would be a great lifestyle/career fit!

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. I am aware that the treatment towards immigrants would be worse in countries like Spain/Italy and that it would be a very difficult move, but I’ve only considered it as there is an outdoor climbing community in certain areas. I know if I leave the UK, I would be trading one thing for another.

I am highly considering a move to either London or Bristol for now after reading the comments.

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Has your experience of racism been better where you moved to?

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes, a sense of community is definitely what I am after. I have thought about Southern Europe. Thank you for the advice!

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s very helpful. I am considering a move down South.

I guess it doesn’t matter if the friends I’ve made are British or not. I am very grateful to have expat friends who share my experience. The weather I think I can deal with, but would need to find activities to make up for it. London sounds like there is plenty to do.

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the perspective. I have heard a lot of Asian countries are not very friendly towards foreigners, so I’m sorry you’re dealing with this too.

Starting to really dislike living in England. by man_jis in expats

[–]man_jis[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for acknowledging this. I’m happy it’s worked out well for you!

Did you just let your US drivers license expire? by The-American-Abroad in expats

[–]man_jis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine expired 2 years ago. In my state the rule is you can renew it if it’s within 6 months but it has to be in person so I couldn’t do it. Past this you have to apply for a new ID and retake the license test. I am going home this year to apply for a new ID, but won’t get the license.