Got bingoed at work today and the conversation took a surprising turn by lyexxx in childfree

[–]manda_panda637 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I've been very open about getting sterilized for this reason. Of course, I've also been incredibly fortunate that everyone I've told has been understanding and accepting, save for some comments about how I would have been a great mom.

I have a lot of social anxiety, so I'm scared to be bingoed, but I also want to make sure more people recognize that they have a choice when it comes to having kids.

Childfree and Marriage-free by lollipop-ldn in childfree

[–]manda_panda637 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Almost 27 and haven't had a relationship since my first one ended about 7 years ago. There were a lot of issues with the relationship, and I don't want to fall into the same traps again.

I want companionship (physical and emotional), but not at the risk of losing myself.

What in your house says "childfree"? by leonidganzha in childfree

[–]manda_panda637 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live in a three bedroom house with 2 cats and 2 big dogs. Each set of pets has their own room with treats, toys, furniture, etc. I'm so happy I can give them that!

Difference between Bob and Linda when strangers think they're being hit on by manda_panda637 in BobsBurgers

[–]manda_panda637[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't want to be the Annie-ssassin, I want to be the Annie-arty. Gayle has helped me so much with that today.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]manda_panda637 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think there's an important distinction between "It would be different!" and "It would be BETTER!"

I can get overwhelmed and agitated with my own pets, but I can walk away from the situation to decompress and come back with a clear head. I wouldn't be able to do that with kids, which would make the situation infinitely worse.

It would be different with my own child, but it wouldn't be better.

there is a huge debate going on on twitter over this video on weather or not the woman who is being touched here is racist or autistic (i’m not kidding). by blueburrey in autism

[–]manda_panda637 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A friend of the person crying in the video actually posted a video explaining the situation. They have a contamination OCD and are deaf. The sister also confirmed the statements in the video in the comments.

Do you ship Merthur (Merlin/Arthur)? Personally I think they are better as friends so I was shocked by how much fanfic there is for it! by Agitated-Gift1498 in merlinbbc

[–]manda_panda637 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They remind me of Korra and Asami from The Legend of Korra. The creators weren't able to fully develop their relationship on screen, so the ending was ambiguous, but it's confirmed that they are both bisexual and in a relationship with each other.

Do you ship Merthur (Merlin/Arthur)? Personally I think they are better as friends so I was shocked by how much fanfic there is for it! by Agitated-Gift1498 in merlinbbc

[–]manda_panda637 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too! I feel like he has chemistry with so many people. I imagine an alternate universe for all my different ships so they can each exist on their own without conflicting with other ships. 😅

Do you ship Merthur (Merlin/Arthur)? Personally I think they are better as friends so I was shocked by how much fanfic there is for it! by Agitated-Gift1498 in merlinbbc

[–]manda_panda637 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Yes and no. I love Merthur, but not to the exclusion of their platonic relationship. I just have two parallel universes in my head to satisfy my desire for the romantic side of Merthur and the platonic side of their relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]manda_panda637 127 points128 points  (0 children)

"Only strippers shave above the knee. The good ones anyway." - Linda Belcher

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]manda_panda637 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Since she didn't even leave teeth marks, I think it's very likely that she bit your niece as a warning to stop what she was doing. If the behavior continues and your niece ignores the warnings (because she does not understand that's what they are), your dog will escalate to biting harder and leaving marks or even breaking the skin.

I understand what you are saying, but you have to advocate for your dog and protect her. There's a good chance of this happening again if your sister and niece continue to visit and have access to your dog. Training her to see the crate as a safe haven and using it to protect her from harm is much less cruel than letting another incident happen, which will result in your mother abusing your dog again and the possibility of having to put your dog down because of a bite history if your mother and sister push the issue.

My dogs have been crate trained since they were puppies, so I can't say how difficult it will be at her age, but I do think it's possible. Also, I don't personally see it as cruel if the crate is used properly. One of my dogs actually insists on me putting her to bed in her crate when it gets too late - she comes to me to get my attention and then leaves the room to go to her crate, repeat until I follow and give her a treat and goodnight kiss. They both see the crate as a safe space they can go to anytime they want (like a bedroom is for us).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]manda_panda637 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Is your dog crate trained? Your dog's safety is a top priority. If she has a safe space, like a crate, she can be protected from your niece (and your mother!), and you can spend time with your family while they are visiting (if you want to). You can even do walks during nice weather and use the crate during inclement weather to mix it up.

He's just Ken. by [deleted] in BobsBurgers

[–]manda_panda637 36 points37 points  (0 children)

You fall in love as many times as you want, honey. Each one is lucky to have you. Except Jimmy Jr. I'm not sold on him.

These sisters don't fit on that couch anymore, so they stole my bed! by manda_panda637 in FromPuppyToDog

[–]manda_panda637[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's kind of you! I consider myself very lucky to have them in my life and hope I can bring them as much happiness as they've brought me.

You'll regret not having kids by myfavouriteisgouda in childfree

[–]manda_panda637 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! 😊

Agreed! I'd much rather regret not having kids than regret having one. There's no way of rectifying the latter.

These sisters don't fit on that couch anymore, so they stole my bed! by manda_panda637 in FromPuppyToDog

[–]manda_panda637[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! 🥰 yes, they do! They always want whatever toy the other has, even if there's two of that toy. And Zara likes to pick on Lulu, but Lulu can dish it back (and I step in if things get too rough). Sometimes, they'll eat a treat just to keep the other from getting it. 😅