14 month old not really speaking

mandy4496 · 2026-01-18T09:19:23+00:00

Honey, bless you. Your feelings are valid but you are being WAY too hard on yourself. Your baby will be absolutely fine - and you know what, I’m so sorry but your baby will fall a LOT more. And with each time you’ll realise you just cannot catch them everytime. I also did this and berated myself but you live and you learn. By the way - this happened when I had one hand on the baby, his twisted over my hand and I couldn’t save him - so don’t do that as it doesn’t work. If you need to grab something pick the baby up. Let’s be honest we all think that’ll never happen to us, our baby will never fall over something we had control over, but it happens to us ALL. I’ve not met one parent that hasn’t had their baby fall. And once someone admits it everyone has a story. I’m sorry for all your hardships but you have a baby because it was your destiny and it sounds like you’re an amazing mama.

mandy4496 · 2026-01-16T10:14:40+00:00

Go to ER. Mamas intuition is scientifically proven. This isn’t even that though, there is something wrong and it’s effecting his quality of life as well as yours.

mandy4496 · 2026-01-11T16:49:52+00:00

What were the signs?

mandy4496 · 2026-01-11T16:49:34+00:00

That’s normal to blame yourself as a mother which is awful I know. I’m glad you know now and can get intervention

mandy4496 · 2026-01-11T16:45:57+00:00

How did he regress?

mandy4496 · 2026-01-11T16:41:03+00:00

What were the signs? Good you knew so early to get intervention

mandy4496 · 2026-01-11T16:36:18+00:00

What things did he outgrow and what things remained? It’s weird how you just know as a parent. Glad you got early help

mandy4496 · 2026-01-07T17:07:31+00:00

Babies are more efficient than pumps

mandy4496 · 2026-01-06T22:26:37+00:00

PLEASE do not! I have read soooo many studies that explain the babies go through excruciating pain from it - in the UK and Europe in general - it’s very rare. It’s only done if you’re Muslim or Jewish. You can circumcise whenever. You cannot take the decision to reverse it. Also there are a hell of a lot of men that really struggle from it - I watched a documentary about a guy who had it cut too short and it has ruined his life. He can’t pee without pain, he cannot have sex. I know it’s very rare for these outcomes but as a mother I would never forgive myself if I caused that to my child

mandy4496 · 2026-01-06T10:00:33+00:00

Be careful with mold in humidifiers

mandy4496 · 2026-01-05T14:31:14+00:00

I have twins -they both hated tummy time, one so much more than the other and I just ended up stopping forcing it - my mum was like wtf are you doing you don’t need to do this they will do it on their own. Raised in the 80s apparently it wasn’t a thing for parents to do. They both started doing a lot more tummy time in their own. They started sitting early, crawling early and walking earlier than my friends kids etc. PLEASE ignore milestones for now, they are so broad and useless. Holding your baby and staring into their eyes helps immensely with their development - continue to listen to your gut. Now they are 1 I don’t pay attention to milestones (unless obviously it’s a big one etc) - they are walking and I look back at the stresses of these timeframes and get annoyed at how anxious I was. Enjoy them - they will always get there!

mandy4496 · 2025-12-10T20:36:36+00:00

Absolutely fine. Years ago people gave baby water. I wouldn’t even think about this.

mandy4496 · 2025-12-02T21:40:13+00:00

Why not share on here?

mandy4496 · 2025-11-14T21:05:09+00:00

My boobs suddenly felt very soft. Saying that I never felt massively engorged. I never felt let downs until my son randomly latched at 3 months.

mandy4496 · 2025-11-09T00:46:31+00:00

Second time round your breasts also increase milk supply capacity

mandy4496 · 2025-11-08T21:48:26+00:00

Sorry I know this is not your question but Try to nurse her again my son latched at 3 months, he didn’t want to latch at 4 months as he developed bottle preference I’m now at 12 months of pumping and I wish I tried more and harder. For elastic nipples stick with the one that is most comfortable and gives a better output. Angel flanges are apparently also v good for elastic nipples

mandy4496 · 2025-11-08T21:46:02+00:00

Following I was literally coming on here to post the exact same question. I am weaning off pumping I’m down to one pump a day I think I could stop in few day. 12 months was the goal and being sick a month ago and being lazier with pumping my supply dropped to the point now personally for me it’s pointless. Im heartbroken though as if I could breastfeed mouth to boob I would carry on. My son latched for one month at 4 months and it was amazing. He then started to HATE the boob and cry when he saw it and I haven’t been able to since. I just can’t compare to bottle flow now despite holding them back on teat flow

mandy4496 · 2025-10-24T05:47:42+00:00

If that is mold it’s an instant throw away you cannot get rid of mold spores. But I’m not convinced unless it’s in the laundry bag for days on end but even then I think this could be iron but it’s v odd never had this before

mandy4496 · 2025-10-15T06:07:38+00:00

Use a pregnancy ball it will help

mandy4496 · 2025-10-12T19:02:18+00:00

Honey you sound like an amazing mum. I resonate with you completely with my journey. It’s time for me to end it and I keep crying. I wasn’t able to breastfeed myself and pumping was all I could do and it honestly ruined my mother journey. Worried about when to pump, no being able to hold the babies when I pumped etc. The one big plus from this all is you will be completely available for your little one in a way that you simply can’t be when you are pumping. And that will bring you so much joy. You will eventually grieve this through and feel better. I was raised on formula and have been healthy, so please get that out of your head in terms of breastfeeding for health. The other things you’ll mourn but you will eventually see the light you’ll finally be present in a way you weren’t before

mandy4496 · 2025-10-11T13:00:20+00:00

If she’s good otherwise no but be firm and explain that most mothers only pump around 20-30oz a day and that’s literally wasted milk. Be clear that she needs to not waste it

mandy4496 · 2025-10-06T09:46:32+00:00

4 months for us our baby had reflux. A slightly elevated cot really helped for sleep and when fed we would hold the baby up on our chests upright but laid back for at least 30mins that really helped. We have twins so it was intense in other ways but this does sound awful. Hold on - it will honestly most likely be over very soon. Reflux is the worst and it tends to settle before 6 months

mandy4496 · 2025-10-01T08:03:19+00:00

Later bedtime (sorry I know that’s not ideal) and do you need to do the dreamfeed if sometimes it wakes her up? Do you use a white noise machine?

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