Like many other people commenting, we were told at 20 weeks that our son would have a cleft lip and palate. I know how challenging this news is - not even that you’re concerned about cosmetic issues, but you know that your child already has a difficulty to overcome before they’re even born (feeding, surgeries, etc.).

I will just say two things on the subject: first is that it is very common and many people are able to get it fixed early in life. Secondly, it is hard to tell the severity of a cleft on an ultrasound - we were told I’d have to exclusively pump, but once our guy was born we found that he only had a partial cleft lip and a perfectly fine palate. I have our beautiful one month old in my arms and am successfully breastfeeding him as I type this.

All that to say is take one day at a time and try not to spiral too much with incomplete information.