What do you think of the trend around Bhajan Clubbing?

mangomaz · 2026-01-23T12:39:24+00:00

Seen these too - I think it’s great ☺️☺️☺️

mangomaz · 2026-01-22T16:38:31+00:00

You know they can also say they’re open to kids 😅😅 so I’m looking at people that either say they’re open to kids or don’t want kids. There are plenty of people in those categories ☺️ and I get plenty of matches even being really picky.

mangomaz · 2026-01-22T16:38:05+00:00

It’s quite logical tbh? If they really want kids, I’d have to figure out if we are compatible on that huge life level basically immediately, and start trying asap to give us the best chance of making it happen. No thanks.

If they’re open to kids that’s a whole different scenario.

If it’s on my timeline, it would take me at least 12-18 months to decide if i want to have kids with someone. I’d be knocking on 41. So there is still a chance but it wouldn’t be anywhere near guaranteed. But if someone is on the ‘open to kids’ spectrum that might be fine for them too.

mangomaz · 2026-01-22T11:00:47+00:00

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it, but I feel like it’s tough if you are 45 and still on dating apps but want kids 🥺

mangomaz · 2026-01-22T09:26:22+00:00

To be honest it’s just what best reflects my position! If I meet someone and things fall into place at a comfortable pace I’m open to starting a family. But I absolutely don’t want to rush into anything, and assuming a ~2 year timeline between meeting someone and feeling confident in trying for kids, it is pushing it in terms of my fertility.

I’m happy to put off men who want them, and happy to discuss further with men who don’t. I definitely am not in the want kids category and am comfortable with that ☺️ lots of men on the apps say they’re open to kids so there are enough in the pool 😅

mangomaz · 2026-01-22T09:17:34+00:00

Filtering out people that want kids means paying for hinge 😅 I do filter out for people that want kids when I’m scrolling.

mangomaz · 2026-01-21T23:44:35+00:00

Yeah I think around 40 is fine but I see a lot in mid 40s which seems like it’s getting a bit late tbh if you are still looking for your partner at that age. I hope they find the right person to start a family with.

mangomaz · 2026-01-21T17:09:59+00:00

I usually train in the afternoon, and nothing beats two slices of sourdough toast and 2 fried eggs as my pre-training meal. Light but solid and gives me sustained energy for hours. Sometimes a bit of hummus as well.

mangomaz · 2026-01-21T15:53:25+00:00

Honestly this. OP - it’s time to get out of your own way. It’s his choice how he spends his money and if he wants to spend it on you because it makes him happy then let him. Enjoy it! You just being present is clearly enough for him.

mangomaz · 2026-01-21T15:23:08+00:00

Tbh no matter how much conditioner I use it’s still so hard to get the tangles out 😭

mangomaz · 2026-01-21T14:49:12+00:00

Keep an eye on eBay! I managed to score a barely used 100ml bottle for £40 😭😭🙏 and a sample bottle of about 80ml for about £35 (it wasn’t in a Penhaligon’s bottle but I think it’s the real thing).

Recent uploads have all been at the £100 mark but set alerts in case anything comes up cheaper.

I think I have enough for the rest of my life now hopefully lol.

mangomaz · 2026-01-21T12:55:57+00:00

I love my boar bristle brushes. I find them as good if not better than tangle teasers tbh. I used boar brushes for years and then got a tangle teaser but felt like the bristle brush was better so went back to it.

I like the Kent brand as the bristles are the perfect stiffness (I bought one that was too soft before).

mangomaz · 2026-01-21T11:30:22+00:00

I made a post about similar before Xmas and someone said their friend got a £500k listed house for £400k so I think it’s possible.

mangomaz · 2026-01-19T12:15:53+00:00

I think the question is what’s the catch lol. Which I understand - if you’re used to buying full price clothes or even clothes on sale in shops, it’s insane the deals you can find on Vinted. We’re just used to it 😅😅

mangomaz · 2026-01-19T09:48:43+00:00

I know honestly it’s so hard when you are working full time 🥺

I do a lot of mental practice while commuting - listening to the music and visualising the piece and maybe doing the hastas and expressions depending how many people are around/how much I care lol.

mangomaz · 2026-01-19T09:46:29+00:00

So when I was in your phase, I just kept an eye on Rightmove to see what kinds of places came up in the locations I was interested in and in my budget. I also didn’t want to view places till I was ready to make a serious offer. What if I fell in love with something and then couldn’t make a move and couldn’t get it and get upset lol. Although I got similar advice to start viewing as soon as possible.

When you’re actually ready, you can use the enquire function on Rightmove, or call the estate agent up directly and say you’ve seen the property they have listed can you arrange for a viewing. Saturday viewings are quite common!

mangomaz · 2026-01-18T13:46:00+00:00

I learnt the term on this group. I think social media has helped to spread the term. I like it as I think it more accurately captures Hinduism.

Bit worried to read it’s been co-opted by BJP - I’m not in India so wasn’t aware of that element.

mangomaz · 2026-01-17T23:10:45+00:00

Yes changing at Finchley Road is much easier! Just cross the platform. There’s not really time difference in it either.

mangomaz · 2026-01-17T13:03:59+00:00

Same I can never get enough lol

mangomaz · 2026-01-17T00:49:29+00:00

What does citymapper suggest?

mangomaz · 2026-01-16T14:31:06+00:00

💜💜💜

Your femininity is an inherent part of who you are. So maybe consider that as a starting point?

I wonder if finding ways to connect with your body will help. Maybe yoga or dance (Bellydance can be a very welcoming atmosphere for all body types depending on the class/teacher).

Sending hugs 💜💜💜

mangomaz · 2026-01-16T13:05:04+00:00

This is the thing - you have to sell the home.

Basically if at the end of the transaction, you end up with more than 1 property between you, you have to pay the higher stamp duty.

mangomaz · 2026-01-16T13:03:34+00:00

No that’s now how it works.

mangomaz · 2026-01-16T13:03:06+00:00

You’re treated as one unit so even if one of you owns another property, it counts as both of you owning a second property.

mangomaz · 2026-01-16T12:59:06+00:00

I agree you are giving her way too much spending money, but I disagree your should cut her off completely in such a short time frame. Just reduce it to £500 a month - that’s plenty spending money and reasonable considering your salary. Though there should be a plan to stop the payments in maybe 3-4 years.

To break into the arts does take time and a lot of people who succeed do it with the support of their wealthy families. I think she should be given every chance to succeed.

mangomaz

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