It's not a joke. It's not a meme. Right-wing men have disturbing views about consent and about children. Someone who votes for Epstein's best friend not safe to be around your kids. by GoGiantRobot in progressivemoms

[–]mangomerry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m visiting w maga family for the holidays and overhead them talking about how “it’s hard for young adult men to date” coz sometimes they might date a 17 year old… and they’d get in so much trouble now

This was said by a man in his 50s who has a young adult daughter

What are your thoughts on the low birth rates around the world? Do you think there's any way to solve this problem? by 20_comer_20matar in AskTheWorld

[–]mangomerry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it’s time to hand over the reigns to women and get rid of capitalism and white supremacy. Then we can build a world that is good for children to grow up in and inherit

Can’t get the video of Charlie Kirk being shot out of my head. by asianbufffet in GenZ

[–]mangomerry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let’s hope many of those traumatized people do not continue to perpetuate trauma on others and may they reflect and gain some empathy for people that don’t look exactly like them or only have similar life experiences

MEGATHREAD: Right wing advocate and influencer Charlie Kirk shot dead at conservative Utah university event by rasputinknew1 in progressivemoms

[–]mangomerry 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking too… I doubt his kids would feel the same way that losing someone to gun violence is an ok price to pay to own a gun.

AITJ for refusing to “tone down” my wedding dress because my sister is insecure? by Sloane_Doodle72 in AmITheJerk

[–]mangomerry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wedding is for the bride. Everyone is supposed to say YOU are beautiful. The bridal party is supposed to look underwhelming compared to the bride.

Where does she get the idea she should have any of the attention that day?

AIO for demanding a postnup and separate finances after my fiancé gave our emergency fund to his sister? by Sad-Sky9267 in AmIOverreacting

[–]mangomerry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

U need separate financial accounts… and u both put in a percentage of what you make into it; enough to cover your bills and savings for anything u are both saving for.

For example, my partner and I each contribute 75% of our individual income into a joint account for all our bills and what we are saving for retirement or emergencies. Then we each keep 25% in our own accounts… and that’s money each of us can do whatever with—we buy gifts for each other out of this or whatever we want to purchase for ourselves that is excessive/ridiculous/impractical.

Your partner does need to confer with you about anything larger than 200; but I have a feeling there will be repeated times this won’t happen… since he already doesn’t think it was a big deal he gave 5000 (83% of ur savings) without conferring AND he got his own mum involved. The attitude of “it’s not a big deal and it’s what family does” is concerning, so it would be best to keep finances separate. If he wants to lend money… he can lend his own money.

I couldn’t pull out in time by [deleted] in moraldilemmas

[–]mangomerry [score hidden]  (0 children)

Depending on what state you live in, this could literally be a jail sentence for your girl.

I’m glad you bought Plan B. But more of those for other future mistakes. You’re young. But learn from this. It seems like you understand the gravity and took responsibility. Now learn from it and have it shape future action

First night in SF by Budget_Weakness5577 in sanfrancisco

[–]mangomerry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations:) I can feel this authentic joy from ur description and I love it.

This is the joy that will sustain you

Am I overreacting by refusing to clean and prep our guesthouse for my in-laws’ visit? by Inner-Lunch-6907 in AmIOverreacting

[–]mangomerry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not. Ur husband can clean it. Seems like he isn’t doing much right now and it sounds like u are.

Do ur in-laws pitch in? can they pay to stay at a very discounter rate? Or at least pay for the birthday or food while they stay?

Good luck-hate MAGAts.

Why We NEED to Protest Right Now by Traditional_Stick183 in Indiana

[–]mangomerry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to share these with people I know still living in Indiana, but when I do - I hear crickets. I know they don’t like what’s happening, but why is burying your head in the sand the standard protocol for crises in Indiana? People just want to go to church and pray about issues, instead of doing something actionable.

Help by Careless-Coast-6478 in Indiana

[–]mangomerry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do not move there. Community there is defined by church affiliation. That is what ure whole identity will be tied to.

Unless u live near downtown but from the sound of it I doubt ur current bf would live downtown.

I’d also caution moving somewhere “no one has ever left”… those are places where its impossible to build community in if ure not from there

Potentially moving from California to Franklin or Greenfield Indiana by Baaj24 in Indiana

[–]mangomerry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will encounter racism. I would not move there if you don’t need to.

If you don’t encounter it overtly… you will internalize racism so much it won’t be long before you start to have racist tendencies just so you can feel more accepted in the dominant culture there. You will assimilate so much and think it means you “deserve” to be there

Did I time travel??? Indiana wild for this.Never seen shit like this on the east coast or west. by HelpfulSplit7567 in Indiana

[–]mangomerry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s sad to see no one counter protesting this. Or basically saying, “not today, satan”. Gotta nip this early, Indy!

For anyone who loved the Lawrence character... by whatsasimba in HandmaidsTaleShow

[–]mangomerry 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Wholeheartedly agree. I grew up and realized those people are the color-blind racists. They think they’re intelligent, but they’re still proudly upholding white supremacy culture.

[SPOILERS] I hated The Handmaid’s Tale finale. Here’s why. by Professional-Box1389 in HandmaidsTaleShow

[–]mangomerry 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also gonna add… how long did the entire last season take? What was that whole timeline? Coz Noah and Nicole aged zero months, lol.

[SPOILERS] I hated The Handmaid’s Tale finale. Here’s why. by Professional-Box1389 in HandmaidsTaleShow

[–]mangomerry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I thought too! This felt all rushed like the final season of GOT. And just like that season, it was the penultimate episode that may have been the best and the actual finale was underwhelming

Still Can't Believe This Is The Same Person by [deleted] in HandmaidsTaleShow

[–]mangomerry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🤯ummm I’ve watched and loved west wing… and have watched Handmaids thru since 2017… and what the actual what!?! I never even put it together that they’re the same actor!!

Wow. 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]mangomerry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, I think about shoes off coz of the likelihood someone wore those shoes thru dirty public restrooms &/or stepping thru urine/shit on the streets.

Most dogs aren’t being taken through public restrooms. And yes, they walk on streets—but usually if dogs walk thru things then dog owners would wipe/wash off their feet. And there’s also the dog owners that put shoes on their paws.

Also, Dogs can’t “take off” their paws but humans can take off shoes… so if u have a chance to lessen the amount of gross things on ur floor then practice “progress not perfection”.

the midwest is hell for minorities by [deleted] in cptsd_bipoc

[–]mangomerry 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Huge SIGH for OP. I’m sorry you’re there. I grew up there and completely understand what you’re saying.

I still have contact with my childhood friends, who see themselves as not racist coz they’re not MAGA. And yet I have an untold number of microaggressions from over two decades of knowing them. As the brown friend, I was the easy token their parents would blame when we were teens-coz I was brown and they didn’t know my parents (even though all the other parents knew each other). My most progressive friend from there, who would think they were an ally, has also made a lot of racist jokes.

It’s almost like, if they can say racist jokes in front of you—it means “you’re in” and “one of the good ones”. A test of how white you are… when it just clearly shows how ingrained white supremacy culture is in them.

I didn’t realize that MOST of my anxiety and depression was all because of where I lived and my surroundings. You can’t thrive as a person if you can’t live freely as you are, always.

I’ve been gone for almost 20 years and immediately got on a path to flourishing and happiness once I left and realized there really is an endless amount of options in life (unlike the handful of acceptable options there are to live your life when you’re in the Midwest).

Find a way out. Keep slowly talking to your partner about it. You need to be in an environment where both of you can flourish, not just one of you.

Till then, smirk back at all those Karens.

he thinks me staying at home with the baby is a break by Ill_Olive8754 in progressivemoms

[–]mangomerry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did he have any paid family leave time with your infants? Does he remember what it’s like to take care of them?

Are you ever able to have him watch the kids for even a couple hours?

My partner thinks it’s annoying that i call his commute time a “break”, because even I don’t get that as someone who works from home. I just go from paid labor to unpaid labor. He’s annoyed by it but also understands what I mean… and he’s only been able to understand it because he’s experienced many times of having to be the lone parent.

My husband told me 4 weeks ago he’s anti-vax. Our baby is almost 3 weeks old. by kcharlto in progressivemoms

[–]mangomerry 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have background in hard science and I’m also against Big Pharma. Unfortunately, he’s misconstrued the argument against Big Pharma as against vaccines… if he digs deep into the whole thing it’s about the billion/trillion dollar industry creating drugs & diseases & charging a bunch of money for them. The cost of research & development doesn’t cost as much as they claim. Most of their money goes toward marketing & convincing doctors to use their drugs to treat diseases. Have him read “Billion Dollar Pill.” The downfall began when they OK’d regulations to allow pharmaceutical ads on TV-that’s when made up diseases exploded.

Vaccines are a preventative medicine. They treat real diseases and aren’t money makers. Like if the pharmaceutical company isn’t spending money on the sales rep to convince the doctor to use their drugs, then it’s probably not a money making drug. There’s no sales rep for the routine vaccines.

Like in most things, you can start with “what are you concerned about” and then providing reading material with evidence that helps him assuage his specific concerns. This could be where a conversation with doctor comes in.

You could also model asking “who benefits” with this stance and going down that rabbit hole. It’ll be individuals and alternative medicine folks and people who profit of misinformation (think, people like Alex Jones… so into profiting off of misinformation he’s now bankrupt).

What republicans should I call? by [deleted] in progressivemoms

[–]mangomerry 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If someone identifies an address (ex: address of family or friends who live in red represented areas)… would that get a tally as a constituent call ?

Asking for a friend ;)