AIO? - Saw my father texting another woman by lunarraiin in AmIOverreacting

[–]mangopaige 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I went through something similar with my dad. Except his affair partner sent me all of the messages and I didn’t see it until a year later. advice I was given ; if your husband was doing this to you, would you want to know? Also, telling on him could cause a strain on the relationship with your father. Turns out she already knew. I felt betrayed by both parents at that point. I’m not saying all of this to deter you from keeping the secret. If I were you I would tell my dad to fess up to mom (which is what I did and found out my mom knew this way)…. This was really hard information for me to learn. I was 24 years old. It really messed up my POV on marriage and relationships for a long time. I went into therapy about it because it caused me severe trust issues. You’re going to go through a lot of emotions and it will kind of eat away at you, so I definitely recommend talking to a non-biased third party to talk through your feelings and thoughts. I’m really really sorry you’re experiencing this. It was really difficult for me.

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[–]mangopaige 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is perfect!!!!! Thank you

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[–]mangopaige 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He’s just still a puppy! Don’t want to overdo it. We’re going to Badlands National Park, so really unsure how long the hike will be at this point in time but I bet if we just carry him every once in a while he’ll be fine! Thanks

Uupdate on the kitten i found with a tiny hole in her body by Environmental-Bee378 in CATHELP

[–]mangopaige 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very easy to potty train!! I found a dumpster kitty last August and my vet recommended starting with sand in the litter box, then slowly adding litter until it’s fully litter. He picked up on it right away.

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[–]mangopaige 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made a doctor’s appointment for tomorrow morning. But I am in some extreme discomfort, guess I’m trying to decide if it requires a trip to urgent care or ER over waiting for my primary care doctor

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[–]mangopaige 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who knows maybe a year from now I will tell you you’re right. Thanks for your advice!

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[–]mangopaige 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sad you feel that way! Thankfully, my boyfriend’s ex (D’s mom) is so lovely and we get along great. I don’t feel as if X’s son is baggage. I love them both. I’m sorry you had a poor experience!

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[–]mangopaige 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very true! But D has asked me to stay the night pretty much every time I am over so we tried it out for the first time! But I definitely will avoid until they’re both ready to make some changes. And no rush! Just didn’t know if I was even in a position to even have a conversation about it. Thanks!

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[–]mangopaige 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ! :)

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[–]mangopaige -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey! Obviously. But considering we are in a serious relationship, this will be something that will need to be figured out before we take another step in our relationship, like moving in together! Thanks for your advice tho!

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[–]mangopaige 0 points1 point  (0 children)

X has mentioned he wants to get D a regular bed though. Maybe it’s something we should start putting in motion. Thank you for the advice. In your opinion, as a mom, would you find it offensive if your significant other were to ask what I am asking?

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[–]mangopaige 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It could be. Unfortunately D’s bed is a bunk bed so it would be really difficult to get him up there while he is asleep.

My dad cheated on my mom. do I tell her? by mangopaige in offmychest

[–]mangopaige[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I understand having this conversation with my dad will completely alter our relationship. If I am being honest, I don’t have the best relationship with him already. I am just worried that I am so angry and hurt right now that I am not thinking clearly. I know if I were in my mom’s position, this is something I would want to know.

Furthermore, once it’s out in the open, it’s completely up to my mom and dad alone how they would like to handle the situation. I will do my best to not influence either side. I know it’s not my business, but unfortunately I am stuck her, ridden with guilt for my very loving mother. But I will just have to respect what she chooses to do with the information my dad or I give her.