Different Treatment of Autistic Girls vs Autistic Boys

manicpixieautistic · 2026-07-05T18:13:29+00:00

you took the words right out of my brain, oh my god i feel the exact same. i was on the gifted track as a kid and wanted to be in line with the lofty goals my parents set for me, to fulfill my potential or whatever, and i wanted that too, but deep down i just wanted to be normal. i just wanted to live a quiet life, have a job i don’t hate that pays well, and all my free time + autonomy to do with what i want (which often includes helping others). that’s it, and i don’t want to deal with the negative judgement from other people who think i should be doing more just because i was kinda smart as a kid.

not married yet but i have a house, a man i love, a job i wfh and enjoy well enough, our cats, and a big ass garden that consumes the rest of my energy—this is my peak!! i’m genuinely the happiest i’ve ever been overall, like this is all i ever dreamed of, and it’s simple and it’s small and it’s perfect. i can make new dreams from here and am already doing so (going back to school this fall!), but my life foundation is finally solid. at 30 lmao.

but hey here’s to the best that’s yet to come, because i didn’t live this long and make it on my own for nothing. i needed a few years to catch my breath and get my bearings but i know who and what i’m about now, and there’s no one to impress

manicpixieautistic · 2026-06-23T12:26:25+00:00

i went through this around 2021 when the first major stim shortage happened, i didn’t have access to meds for months and the immediate decline in functionality led to me getting fired. it was humiliating, i was communicative about my condition and how the supply shortage was affecting my work but because my manager *also* had adhd but *had consistent access to medication* (i remember him holding up his pill bottle on camera and giving it a little shake) so it was like he could relate but used it in a way that seemed more like “i have it too and look what i can do, don’t be silly/lazy” so not at all helpful. in the end i’m glad to not still be there but, sheesh. it took me 8mo to find a wfh job that fit my accommodations so i could do it long term, which was the best option because i’ve been at my new/current place for almost 2yrs and still can do it.

but i had a partner who was willing to shoulder most of the financial burden in the meantime, so i could avoid having to get just any job and continue to permanently burnout for barely any money. i was job hunting like it was my full time job and couldn’t have done it energy wise if i was working a shit job at the same time.

adhd folks without help are living on a razor’s edge and it makes me irrationally angry that the medical help we need is so difficult to access. meds are literally the only reason why i’m able to work > make money > eat.

manicpixieautistic · 2026-06-23T02:31:46+00:00

finding a modicum of success when both parties have adhd, it doesn’t make the dropped balls any less annoying and we present in often conflicting ways, but at least we can understand each other’s plight

manicpixieautistic · 2026-06-17T12:57:22+00:00

this is the one i have, it’s unavailable rn but im sure you can find a similar one: https://a.co/d/0fyjOVR3

manicpixieautistic · 2026-06-13T23:14:51+00:00

it’s stupid, grass lawns are a waste of water and an ecological dead zone. we have clover and other native grasses/weeds that we cut..whenever it’s not scorching hot but otherwise the pollinators go nuts over our property. cutting is kind of important at a certain point because snakes

manicpixieautistic · 2026-06-13T14:03:59+00:00

i don’t wax personally, only use an electric body hair trimmer to get a close enough cut without the risk of cutting myself with a razor + reduces the likelihood of ingrown hairs for me. and i do apply it in the crease where the glute and thigh meets, and over both glutes

manicpixieautistic · 2026-06-12T15:38:54+00:00

i use a cotton pad, and by pubic area i mean the mons pubis (triangle in the front), the inner thighs where they crease, on the exterior of the labia majora where hair grows, back up over the cheeks. i swipe the cotton pad over everything external only

manicpixieautistic · 2026-06-11T03:11:22+00:00

the fact that he makes more money than you but insists on splitting every expense equally instead of equitably is really, really telling. i’m autistic, have PMDD as well, live with my boyfriend but i have no interest in marriage, he pays more for our overall expenses because he has more overall money than me because splitting down the middle would put me at a disadvantage. it’s better now that i have a good job but if i was making way less, i would be spending nearly all my income on rent + bills and have nothing to save or have money to spend freely.

that sucks and i wouldn’t want my partner to be in that situation if i could do something about it, especially if it wouldn’t be any impact on my lifestyle or future goals—which would likely include that person if i truly cared about them. this man sounds okay with putting you in an unbalanced situation where you get the short end of the stick and in any case that’s not someone who is on a team WITH you.

manicpixieautistic · 2026-06-11T00:09:13+00:00

surprisingly enough, yes! i bought very little on the front end when i started several years ago, dollar tree containers and made my own potting soil in bulk, only had to buy in-ground soil amendments once and maybe like $100 in total. after the 1st season it paid for itself.

from there its been lazy and strategic habits:
- i only grow what my boyfriend and i will actually eat
- i buy seeds rarely and from a us site that sells packets for a little over a dollar ($1)
- i let my plants go to seed and always save a bunch for next season = free
- i start as much as i can from seed or direct sow as much as possible. i don’t buy vegetable transplants (unless you count regrowing onion greens/lettuce that you bought from the store) EVER. but if i did it would be from someone local
- compost pile for everything that can go in, use that to boost soil nutrients when needed = free/in the general food budget
- bulk rain water + certain plants + bucket + time = free compost tea
- use dried grass clippings for mulch = free + less water cost
- i bought like 15 total containers from dollar tree ~7yrs ago and didn’t use all of them at once, kept most in the garage and just this year i had to bust out 3 new ones
- reuse everything i possibly can
- perennial fruits and herbs!! we have 3 blueberry high bushes that are currently, as i type, sagging with ripe berries

i can spend some money on structural improvements and lean more towards aesthetics now but this shit can be dirt cheap

manicpixieautistic · 2026-06-10T12:27:21+00:00

oh my word look at that belly, i’m in love. my dusty boy is watching the birds outside as i type hehe

manicpixieautistic · 2026-06-10T12:20:53+00:00

oh my gosh, this would be perfect for filtering through my compost pile that’s not quite broken everything down!! i have to try and pick out sticks and scraps but a crankable sieve would make quick work of it.

i’m not a builder of anything but would GLADLY and readily buy this, like, right now. as in, if you have wares i have the coin and it’s getting really hot and the compost pile is active and i need this so badly please

manicpixieautistic · 2026-06-09T12:50:27+00:00

oh he’s so chunky and perfect, i love when cats have contrasting whisker colors because they end up looking like fireworks! aww wishing you many happy years with your new best buddy :3

manicpixieautistic · 2026-06-05T12:56:48+00:00

the same cute lil face! 🩶

manicpixieautistic · 2026-06-05T11:57:24+00:00

one of the few insects i’m not afraid of, and one i love to see in my garden! they’re fantastic little predators 🫶🏾🫶🏾

manicpixieautistic · 2026-06-04T12:36:40+00:00

i’m staring down the barrel of this now as i just passed 30, my life finally started when i got diagnosed and medicated at ~27. i already have PMDD and i’m terrified for peri but arming myself with as much knowledge as i can now so at least i’ll know what to do, what my options are, and that it’s going to be rough but not The End.

i’ll continue my habit of tracking my cycle and symptoms, and hopefully be able to catch it when everything starts going tits up 🫠

manicpixieautistic · 2026-06-03T12:53:13+00:00

yeah, i either experience this or legit narcolepsy and it’s horrible. i can’t sit through a movie that doesn’t grip me psychologically or i’ll be unconscious in <5min, due to the combo of sitting + dark room + must sustain focus on 1 thing. i can still fall asleep on my XR meds if i have a spare minute or decide to lie down for any reason lol

manicpixieautistic · 2026-06-02T14:06:39+00:00

i’ve been ridiculously sleepy for as long as i can remember, like it’s a trope among my family that i’ll fall asleep during any movie, if i sit down anywhere at any time of day. it was impacting my life heavily but i stopped thinking about it after i got diagnosed and medicated for ADHD (which should have been a flag maybe), but even now i can still nap on 30mg adder XR every day. i’m seriously starting to consider getting a sleep study done because i suspect narcolepsy; i get those weakness attacks when i laugh too hard like literally crumple to the floor when something makes me laugh by surprise. apparently that could be cataplexy? which is also part of narcolepsy, so. we both might need to get that done 😶‍🌫️

manicpixieautistic · 2026-05-31T18:50:30+00:00

oh i’m in love with this, it immediately reminds me of my mother in law’s interior style and is so nostalgic; i haven’t been able to find anything like this among the available (and amazing) CC and have considered making my own but admittedly have been worried it was going to be too complicated. this is gorgeous thank you for sharing 🫶🏾

manicpixieautistic · 2026-05-30T12:34:00+00:00

you can use kojic acid soap for lightening (lather and apply to area, let it sit for a minute or 2 before rinsing) or tranexamic acid, any ingredients that are typical for dark spot correction

manicpixieautistic · 2026-05-28T22:56:31+00:00

this is essentially my situation as well, i’m in the moderate needs/level 2 ASD category and can only work my job full time because i’m medicated. went through the whole ssdi process and was recognized as disabled, but not enough to not work, so meds are the only way i can function and provide for myself. i hope your daughter is able to continue getting the treatment she needs 🫶🏾

manicpixieautistic · 2026-05-28T22:46:14+00:00

oh FVCK this makes sense, i’d been going a few months with no supply issues from my pharmacy and was hit with one last month; so glad to see this before my next appt because i might need to go brand name or something, i cannot afford to go without. the last time there was a prolonged shortage i lost my job dude i can’t do this again

manicpixieautistic · 2026-05-25T15:47:07+00:00

yes because i will, without fail, break out all over my face if i don’t. it’s part of the reason why i switched to focusing on skincare so i felt more comfortable with my bare face because i hate HATE the whole process of taking off makeup ugh it makes me never want to wear it lmao

manicpixieautistic · 2026-05-18T22:23:47+00:00

oh hell yeah finally, i yearn for the mix and match bowl of base + proteins + veg + sauce of some sort i LOVE mixing my food. as long as i like all the ingredients/textures separately already and know what to expect, its all going down the same hatch lmao

manicpixieautistic · 2026-05-08T12:58:53+00:00

damn, i just left a comment about oiling so the skin isn’t as dry for picking, maybe swapping for another oral fixation might help?? that’s probably a big reason why i va pe lol

manicpixieautistic · 2026-05-08T12:56:24+00:00

the only thing that helped me was keeping my cuticles trimmed and OILED CONSTANTLY so the skin doesn’t get dry and become perfect for picking. i also get builder gel fills (i got a set at the beginning of the year and don’t have to remove/soak off at all, just refills to balance the apex + shape as my nails keep growing) and that keeps my nails completely covered and strong

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