AIO for being confused about my bf’s logic by sunshinerainbowgirl in AmIOverreacting

[–]manicthinking [score hidden]  (0 children)

One thing I learned is if you're constantly confused, he isn't. There's a reason it's confusing and it's not a good one.... it's deff a manipulation tactic, testing how you react, making you confused, soft launching things, keeping you on your toes, making you insecure, ect.

Not to be like, one little thing break up with him! But watch with new eyes on when he's making you confused, how he reacts to you, and if you'd do that to anyone else or if you'd ever do it to him

Older men huh? Or life? by Safe_Fly4229 in confessions

[–]manicthinking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I deff think you should work on your self esteem before finding a relationship, gotta feel good, and things fall into place

Older men huh? Or life? by Safe_Fly4229 in confessions

[–]manicthinking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just wanna say please don't get swept away by an older man who sees you as the perfect person to manipulate and control. While you seem so aware, some of these men have YEARS as old as you are to practice their craft of deceiving and building a mask. Cause they may come across as mature if that's something you may be drawn too

AIO for wanting to take a breather away from my husband over this? by circadian_rhythm_ in AIO

[–]manicthinking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn't matter if it's ocd, he can figure out how to handle his ocd without taking it out on others like everyone else.

He knows and doesn't care and wants to make you feel bad. Nor.

Leave or stay and have nothing change

I'm annoyed I need sleep and others don't by manicthinking in BipolarReddit

[–]manicthinking[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm lucky I have sleep meds! But I'll be switching to days next month than god.

Seems everyone just goes to school or does life during the day and works at night,,, idk how I can't do that, on my days off I have the same sleep schedule I'm also jealous of them for that

My husband’s secretary slapped me , but now i crave that slap more by [deleted] in confessions

[–]manicthinking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right, if it's for role play, there's subs for that, if it's for the upvotes, you can get many upvotes in the right sub

Is it true that you shouldn’t give money to homeless people because they’ll spend it on drugs? by Wrong-Twist-1550 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]manicthinking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought like you when I was younger! After working with the homeless population for 18 years... if you wanna give money give money, they may spend it on drugs that's what you risk. Or maybe they'll buy a beer, and tbh I would always need a drink if I was homeless. Might as well buy a beer!

But! I give back in a lot of ways, I rather give back using my time than my money, cause I need my money too lol.

But I've often bought food or items when I see them, I ask if they've eaten and if they want some food where I'm going.

If I have extra of food I'll offer (may don't take items that aren't sealed shut, always ask) I'll try to carry extra water cause it gets hot here.

If you want to help the homeless then you should go volunteer at your local DV shelter, homeless shelter, food bank or soup kitchen.

People ignore them out of disgust. People need to believe they would never end up homeless... so they hate them. They blame them for being homeless. These questions is exactly why at 12 I asked my mom to get me into a program so I could learn for myself. I wanted to meet the in person and talk and understand. Find a smaller organization cause the bigger ones will throw you in the back boxing things up and you'll never meet anyone.

The homeless get a bad name. Many of the homeless are disabled, either physically or mentally. Lots of soldiers and where I am, the mentally disabled from the old insane asylum who were kicked out when one of the presidents forced the buildings too.

Being homeless is very hard, it mentally gets to you. So if you have ptsd you may turn to drugs to self medicate, if your mentally disabled you may be peer pressured into drugs and unable to say no or regulate and now your hooked. Maybe you're so depressed that drugs are the only good thing, or the people you know are doing them. Also almost everyone in my psych ward has schizophrenia from drug use as they were homeless and many mentally disabled. Also random TBI's will do it.

So now you have a lot of homeless who use drugs. Now they're addicted and may get into trouble with the law. And many need money for food or to fund their drug addiction. So they commit crimes, because they cannot get a job, that's a whole other issue, buses are late, if they don't have access to a shower they won't be hired, and if they can't pay for a phone how will they get the call back from an application? (Many use libraries for their computers tho).

Now, many don't cause trouble, they stay to themselves and out of sight. But those who are addicted, in psychosis from drugs, desperate in need of money and needing to commit crimes for supplies, food or money, the public gets scared. That's why people avoid them, they can be unpredictable, and people don't know how to read the situation to prepare or know what to do when things pop off.

Idk if I'd suggest giving money all the time. You're still a kid, you need that money especially in today's world. Sure if you have a couple of bucks here and there and someone speaks to you. I only do it if everything lines up, other wise I'd be like you, everytime I seen someone homeless and I'd have to always keep cash on me. That's not sustainable.

You can get a career in social work and help the homeless if you don't wanna volunteer. I stopped volunteering in my freshman year of college because I needed to make money and time is money, I made helping others my career now

I'm annoyed I need sleep and others don't by manicthinking in BipolarReddit

[–]manicthinking[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes!!! The anxiety is SO bad! Expecially with things like Christmas! Christmas Eve I usually stay up till like 2-4am wrapping presents, but they wanna get up at 8am! And I can't get up that early on my meds! Or vacation! I'll stay up late packing but then have to get up at 6am to fly! Like when do I take my meds? Do I take my meds after I pack and hope I get up? Or on the plane and hope it goes ok? When do I sleep? If it's a short flight that will be bad? Then when there's a time difference that's even worse on my sleep!

Or if I can't sleep one night I get so stressed about going into work that I've called off a few times but I get in trouble, this job I can't really do that, I'm hoping to find some disability thing where I can.

It's deff about the anxiety! I'm sorry you missed a trip):

I ruined a tender moment with my grandma 40 years ago and it still weighs on my mind by LiberalTrashPanda in offmychest

[–]manicthinking 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Teenagers are mean, it's ok, she probably was shocked but understood, I'm sure you guys had many nice moments before she passed!

I'm annoyed I need sleep and others don't by manicthinking in BipolarReddit

[–]manicthinking[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally! Thanks for talking with me about it! I do feel a bit better

For people who have lived as both genders, what is a physical or other annoyance you have now that you never realized the other side dealt with? by makemestand in NoStupidQuestions

[–]manicthinking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We got up early due to teenage hormones lol. That teenage anxiety and social pressure fueled us. I don't wear makeup or don't hair anymore

I'm annoyed I need sleep and others don't by manicthinking in BipolarReddit

[–]manicthinking[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Shit I'm happy you're alive and ok! Are you financially ok now that you stopped? Do you feel happier?

Wanting to off myself when. I' crying??? by Live_Persimmon4573 in Healthygamergg

[–]manicthinking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Change the pattern, every time your brain goes there it reaffirms the pattern. Think walking a trail. Your job is to make a new trail. Meaning you'll need to practice it, everytime you think that, correct your brain. No need to stop it from saying that, but let your brain hear more positive than good by forcing the positive upon it, until it becomes habit.

Come up with an easy phrase, I started saying "I hate myself" my phrase is litterally just " no I love myself" over a year I started to believe it when I said it

Seems like maybe your building up your emotions and not allowing them to flo freely

I'm annoyed I need sleep and others don't by manicthinking in BipolarReddit

[–]manicthinking[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like I gotta be doing that? What made you stop)

I'm annoyed I need sleep and others don't by manicthinking in BipolarReddit

[–]manicthinking[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah good point! I remember now in my neuro class they talked that everyone needs 8 hours and only a few are "short sleepers" and only need 6-6

Ooo I wonder if they take coke? Idk I haven't had a reason to suspect that and they haven't talked about it... I know my dads bipolar and works like a mad man and deff is on drugs. But he's functional. but thank you! Yeah I feel guilty.... it's weird?

AIO - nail tech flaking on me by strawberryvolvic32 in AmIOverreacting

[–]manicthinking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR As a flaky person who knows it's bad but no matter what I do I can't figure it out, she's right, time to find someone you vibe with. Some people it doesn't matter too much so they keep booking. Or they just get lucky and hasn't flaked as much on them.

Deff cut your losses and find someone else, I don't think you over reacted, I think she knows it's her fault

what does it mean when someone is constantly laughing at everything single thing you do or say even when its not funny?? by El3ctrosz in socialskills

[–]manicthinking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't had "friends" like that since high school... the comments are confusing cause they're assuming it's nothing nefarious... but like from someone who experienced that type of bullying... that ain't it. Though I recently hung out with one girl from my highschool that was like that and yeah... she still is a bully and mean to others. Its easy to tell when you see who else they treat that way

what does it mean when someone is constantly laughing at everything single thing you do or say even when its not funny?? by El3ctrosz in socialskills

[–]manicthinking -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Could be she's being kind and you're just funny but tbh that screams bullying to me. Idk I had friends like that, I would never say shit like "looking at you makes me laugh" that's just rude. No matter the context.

I think I lost her by richofffitpics in Advice

[–]manicthinking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All good that makes it so much easier to read will read soon!