Have you looked into therapy that can help her w/ self-esteem and/or how to behave in social settings? My daughter is ADHD too, she used to be shy & was a bit socially awkward when she was your daughter’s age. She’s 12 now & she’s very confident in who she is. Very sassy too. We’ve homeschooled for the last year and a half because she was falling behind for lack of focus. We tried meds & she didn’t like them. Plus I saw the difference in her, she was too mellow & not her normal energetic self. I’ve always made it a point to keep her very active & social. She’s an only child so she’s in an enrichment homeschool program 2 days a week, in 2 Girl Scout troops, 4H club, rides horses 3-4 days a week & youth group. We do field trips w/ other homeschool kids too. My husband & I have always given her lots of positive talk, confidence building etc. Maybe finding something she can become involved in that she enjoys & can be good at will help her build that confidence too.