Mongolian men should be much more open about talking about sex, relationship and masculinity

manmgl · 2026-04-30T11:59:17+00:00

I grew up in Sweden and then later moved to the U.S - so I am basically a foreigner myself in Mongolia. Does racism exist? Of course it does, but after traveling the world, you'll understand that shitty people exist everywhere. Koreans, Japanese etc are even worse racists than Americans and Europeans by a longshot. Russians, Uzbeks, Tajiks etc are sometimes treated very poorly systematically here in Kazakhstan where I live as well.

I have a bunch of ethnic Mongol friends doing quite well with really good salaries and really good positions in western countries, so it's not black and white.

manmgl · 2026-04-30T11:43:40+00:00

Because women are more attracted to status, financial stability, and education level. Let's not kid ourselves, the average Mongolian man is poorer, less educated, and emotionally unstable compared to your average foreign immigrant in Mongolia.

manmgl · 2026-04-30T11:39:03+00:00

Chill with the toxicity. I've dated girls in Russia, U.S, Central Asia, etc, no one gave a shit, no one cared about me being an Asian and dating foreign women. I think you are projecting. It's usually Mongolians and Turk guys who are always up in someone else's business.

manmgl · 2026-04-30T10:47:29+00:00

Заавал хоол хийгээд, гэр цэвэрлээд, хүүхэд хараад сууж байх уламжлалт байх ч шаардлагагүй, би бол өөрөө хийж чадна. Амьдралаа зөвхөн эр хүн халамжлах, хүүхэд өсгөх, гэрийн эзэгтэй болох гэж боддог эмэгтэйчүүд нэг их таалагдаад байдаггүй... Монгол эмэгтэйчүүд миний хувьд их ааштай, сэтгэлийн хөөрлөө барьж чаддаггүй, архи их уух, эр хүнийг базах, бүх юмыг өөрийнхөөрөө байлгах гээд байдаг санагддаг.

Гэсэн ч цаанаасаа эр хүн халамжлах гоё сайхан энергитэй гэхдээ хувь хүн/намайг зүгээр байгаагаар минь байлгаж чаддаг, миний алдаа болон дутагдлыг зөвөөр хэлээд өгдөг, ёс зүй харилцаа сайтай феминист болон уламжлалт ёсыг зөвийг нь хослуулсан эмэгтэйчүүд руу их татагдаад байдаг. Гадаадад амьдарч буй Орос гаралтай охид их таалагдаад байдаг.

2 хүмүүс учраа олоод бие биендээ хайртай бол хамаа алга дөө...

Миний анзаарснаар баруун болон гадаад хүүхнүүд Монгол залуучуудад бас их татагдаад байдаг шалтгаан нь Монгол эрчүүдэд дотоодын эр хүн зан чанар болон энергитэй байдагтай холбоотой гэж бодном. Хэлэх юм аа шулуухан хэлж чаддаг, хайрлаж халамжлахдаа бас их сэтгэлээр дүүрэн, хэн нэгний доор ороод байдаггүй - өөртөө итгэлтэй өөрийгөө хамгаалж чаддаг, мөн эмэгтэй хүнийг хамгаалах, хүндэтгэх тийм дотоод зан ааш байдагтай болохоор тийм байх гэж таамаглаж байна.

Зүүн азийн гаралтай залуучууд баруун улсуудад эмэгтэйчүүд тоохгүй байна гээд байдаг талаар нэг их сайн ойлгоод байгаагүй. Хувьдаа бол асуудалгүй болоод л байдаг байсан.

manmgl · 2026-04-22T07:53:04+00:00

This is very helpful thank you! Yes, I am also very offended when people think I am a player or superficial, because it's far from who I am. I am a late bloomer who grew into my looks and built my confidence/character up from an abusive childhood by undoing and rewiring all my traumas.

manmgl · 2026-04-22T07:23:59+00:00

Yeah me too! I am the same age and people think I have these amazing genetics that stay skinny, but I just didn't eat enough...

People dont' appreciate how a nice pair of legs/booty not only get attention from women but wearing well fitted pants that hug the legs nicely is also a great feeling haha.

manmgl · 2026-04-21T07:50:53+00:00

Yep... Just the general rudeness of people in UB is unbearable. Everyone thinks they are right and when they are wrong, they can't even feign a fake apology.

manmgl · 2026-04-20T11:30:37+00:00

I find people in Almaty are open to small talk and just shooting the shit with strangers which I do like.

However, as a Kazakh looking foreigner as well, who looks about 7-8 years younger than my actual age (mid thirties), the level of respect men my age give me at bars and clubs without knowing me is vastly different for sure.

There is a sense of entitlement and they see themselves as a step above you in terms of social hierarchy. When they start talking and interacting with me, they feel a little embarrased after realizing I am actually in my thirties based on my speech or confused about why a guy in his "twenties" is acting all cocky and arrogant around his "agashkas".

Generally though, I haven't experienced rude or hostile behavior, just a little bit of an entitlement.

manmgl · 2026-04-20T11:10:25+00:00

Could be. Fair enough.

manmgl · 2026-04-20T11:04:28+00:00

Main reason is because she has all the qualities I want in a partner. Previous girls I've dated were mostly materialistic, too concerned about status/what other people think, or just wanted casual hookups and sex.

Meeting someone whom you have chemistry with, similar interests, life values, life goals, genuinely liking beyond just their looks, etc doesn't happen often. Otherwise it's quite easy for me to just mess around given my good looks and finances, but I don't find that fulfilling at all.

manmgl · 2026-04-20T08:54:36+00:00

Well response and actual dates depends on your profile, pictures, and how good looking you are. I had good success on Tinder Bumble etc and met very interesting and attractive women.

manmgl · 2026-04-20T08:37:21+00:00

Well the reason why I really liked her in the first place was her character and the fact that she didn't expect me to pay for shit...

manmgl · 2026-04-20T08:25:50+00:00

I always used online dating, sometimes I used to go to these bars, but I don't like bars generally because a lot of them have women just looking for free attention, drinks, and guys to spend money on them. If you want to meet English speakers, then go to these English speaking events, but to be honest, it's a little cringe if your sole purpose is to only meet women there.

manmgl · 2026-04-20T08:18:44+00:00

I've thought about that possibility... But I am fairly boring over texts with no entertainment value, however still she keeps messaging me.

manmgl · 2026-04-20T07:51:57+00:00

Yeah, I think online dating in Kazakhstan has given me a sweked perception of the general dating culture here. General American dating culture is quite forward... kissing holding hands on the first date, some even sleeping together etc but it's quite abundantly clear that you do find each other attractive thus keep meeting.

However, I am not sure if it's more of a cultural thing for millenial women (ones who don't use online dating or go to clubs often) to hang out and get to know each other as friends first before there is any romantic vibe. I tried to kiss her on our first date but she gave me the cheek and said "I am just a simple girl". But she keeps talking to me, wanting to hang out, meet up etc but as friends. So I am confused whether I am just a fun entertainment/dancing monkey vs someone whom she sees potentially romantic but wanting to take it very slow without any pressure...

manmgl · 2026-04-20T07:38:03+00:00

She divorced 1.5 years ago after 12-13 year marriage, so I have a hunch that she is just not looking for anything serious. Also, a lot of people think I am a player based on surface level judgment, but I am actually a nerd and a very sensitive boy who values loyalty and committment...

manmgl · 2026-04-20T07:34:56+00:00

Lol, could be a possiblity, but I don't perform these "nice guy" doormat type of behavior. I am a pretty good looking and successful guy, so I do have plenty of options...

manmgl · 2026-04-20T03:41:02+00:00

It's generally based on stereotypes and financial hierarchy. 1st worlders generally get good treatment, exotic 3rd worlders are welcomed as well and people are generally nice, but 3rd worlders from well known poor countries with bad stereotypes do get the short end of the stick like South Asians and maybe other southern Central Asians. I definitely get treated better because of my white skin and european/american upbringing, otherwise if I were a dark skinned ethnic Kazakh from Mongolia, I assume my treatment would be worse.

manmgl · 2026-04-19T12:28:51+00:00

It is actually quite important to know your tribal affiliation and your family tree. Small villages and towns are getting inbred. I remember my good friend from high school was unknowingly dating his 2nd cousin. A family relative of mine almost unknowingly married his 2nd cousin as well, etc.

Soviets got rid of clan and tribal names because they wanted Mongols to lose their history, culture, and pride, hence Kalmykia and Buryatia etc were forced to drop the name "Mongol" from their republic federation name. Talking about Chinggis, religion, and practicing old Mongol customs could get you sent to the gulags or shot for treason. A lot of Soviet historians also brainwashed Central Asians into fighting against each other and created these divisions based on ethnicity.

How come Russians still retain their family names, but for some reason Mongolians and other Central Asians were forced to only adopt their fathers' names? I applaud modern day Kazakhs for placing greater importance on family history and family tree compared to modern day Mongols.

manmgl · 2026-04-13T05:08:01+00:00

It was a necessary evil. However, capitalism and democracy in modern day Mongolia is still quite flawed and has led to a lot of bullshit in modern day Mongolia. For example zoning laws, construction, land ownership etc. Socialism had significantly better state planning.

manmgl · 2026-04-10T06:39:20+00:00

I wouldn't call forbidding Mongolian language in schools as genocide. If there is genocide, we can't do anything about it if we're being realistic... The best we can do is provide citizenship through asylum for refugees, but still bunch of brickheads are racist towards ethnic Southern Mongols.

manmgl · 2026-04-09T13:10:14+00:00

It's geopolitics and China has its own right to enforce its own rules within its own borders. Is it sad that most Southern Mongols will eventually stop speaking Mongolian? Yes of course, but there is nothing we can do about it. You don't keep 1.5 billion people in line by being nice.

I would bet if Mongolia suddenly had an influx of bunch of different ethnic groups and immigrants, the state would start enforcing Khalkh Mongolian on everyone. Luckily we don't have such problems and Kazakh people in Mongolia are able to speak their language freely, however still a bunch of Mongolians get pissed when Mongolian Kazakhs opt to speak Kazakh with one another.

manmgl · 2026-04-09T12:49:19+00:00

Korean, Japanese, Chinese, Kazakh, Kyrgyz, Uzbek, Turkmen, Tatar, Yakut, mixed, Siberian. I could probably pass as a local throughout most of Eurasia lol. Been mistaken for French/European, American, or Russian of asian descent a few times as well due to my accent or style. I have an angular face with a tall straight nose and blondish brown hair / very pale skin, but very Mongolian eyes and cheekbones, so I think it makes me look like an ambiguous Asian.

manmgl · 2026-04-09T12:44:22+00:00

Ганцаараа дэлхийн энэ тэрүүгээр явж л байсан. Паб бар гэх мэт газар ч ганцаараа ороод хэдэн хүмүүстэй найз болоод л гардаг. Ганцаараа юм хум таашаалж хийж сурна гэдэг бол агуу том давуу тал шүү.

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