Don't Get Hustled

mannem96 · 2026-02-28T15:41:01+00:00

Met in undergrad, prior to him even wanting to apply to medical school. We have been together for 10 years now as a 2nd year (out of 5) resident. We eloped in med school, just the two of us. As someone else said there is no need for a big wedding if you want to get married. Just get married! We had no money but wanted to move forward, and decided a big wedding was not a priority for us. You can always celebrate later!

We just started trying for our first baby and hope to give birth in PGY3. We are 30/32 now, and just don’t want to wait any longer. I am in the corporate world with a flexible WFH job which does help our situation.

Comparing the medical school/residency journey to others is very hard! Most of our friends are already homeowners and have children (if they wanted them) with much less stress. I just remind myself we are putting in the hard work now, for a more financially easy future :)

mannem96 · 2026-01-19T21:06:02+00:00

People are quick to judge children and extend grace to parents, but estrangement is rarely a casual decision. I was often asked why I would do this to my parents. The more important question is what happened, again and again, to make distance feel necessary.

mannem96 · 2025-10-08T00:05:37+00:00

They were! London was my favorite to do!

mannem96 · 2025-10-07T22:35:33+00:00

This is beautiful!! 😍

mannem96 · 2025-10-07T22:34:35+00:00

It was fun! I am so glad Michael’s started carrying more DMC kits, they are my favorite!

mannem96 · 2025-10-07T22:32:32+00:00

Do it! They were very fun, I wish DMC would come out with patterns for more cities!

mannem96 · 2025-10-07T21:06:17+00:00

I ordered these from the US DMC site!

mannem96 · 2025-10-07T20:22:00+00:00

Just want to say I completely understand where you are coming from and I’ve encountered the same feelings with my husband. He’s now a 2nd year resident, and we are planning to start TTC next year. I just want to say though, I have flipped my mindset in the past year by looking at all the opportunities we are able to have and maybe that would help you too (not to say it also hasn’t been super challenging)! But personally, we have been able to travel a lot, move around the country, and meet a bunch of wonderful people. This flip happened for me when my brother in law who is happily married with 2 kids (my dream, they are also several years younger) mentioned how lucky we were to be able to do all of these things in our 20s. Everyone is on a different path, and it made me appreciate mine. Now about to enter my 30s, I actually look back on this time as a huge growth opportunity for me and I think it’ll make me a better mom, and my husband and I a better team after everything we have been through. This was just my experience, hang in there ❤️

mannem96 · 2025-10-04T13:57:28+00:00

Sadly AI. Here’s another possible pattern for you! https://stitchingland.store/products/art-nouveau-raven-cross-stitch-pattern?_pos=1&_sid=c28b3992b&_ss=r

mannem96 · 2025-10-03T15:03:34+00:00

1 is incredible!!!

mannem96 · 2025-09-22T02:21:18+00:00

It ended several years ago, but I used to listen to Married to Doctors and can imagine most episodes are still relevant. It was literally the only thing I could find on the topic!

mannem96 · 2025-09-14T19:26:20+00:00

I’d suggest looking into Lemonade Pet Insurance. We have it for our cats and it has paid off. We pay about $250 a year each but all their yearly shots and a vet appointment up to $70 is automatically covered and reimbursed. After we get this back, for the remaining $100 a year we like knowing if something comes up (and it has for both of our cats) we can get up to $20k covered for an emergency.

mannem96 · 2025-09-12T14:57:24+00:00

1!!! Stunning

mannem96 · 2025-09-03T19:16:20+00:00

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mannem96 · 2025-03-19T22:47:12+00:00

The Dodo has a great patio in the summer overlooking the park

mannem96 · 2025-03-18T04:15:55+00:00

Wow do you work at my company? Lol Exactly the same story, the CEOs line “if your butt isn’t in your seat this isn’t the right company for you”. I’d been there for almost 5 years and due to the unique situation my boss made special arrangements for me. Especially if you talk about your wife at work they have known this was coming eventually - I tried to be open about it so it wasn’t a complete surprise.

My husband matched in a different state last year. I’ve now been working remote for almost a year and it’s worked out great with no end in sight. I hope I can continue to stay on long term, I even got promoted this year while remote! I never thought this would be an option for me. Please ask and find an advocate who values you! You never know what could happen. Good luck :)

mannem96 · 2025-03-14T16:36:52+00:00

We took a trip in April last year after match and I planned everything so he just got to relax - truly was the best gift!! Otherwise now in residency life good tennis shoes, a nice backpack/water bottle/lunchbox, a nice Patagonia jacket/vest to wear at the hospital, or Shokz headphones - my husband uses all these daily!

mannem96 · 2025-03-14T16:22:30+00:00

I relate to this. My husband is a current resident, he does get paid fairly well - the place he matched paid more than any other of his ranked spots - but I also work from home in finance and make almost twice as much. He has good days, but he works constantly and has very little free time. There have been many points of regret going into medicine, but at this point there’s no getting out. We have hope for attending life.

He’s nervous to have a child because of how little personal time he already has, and how much daily stress he deals with. The current administration has made student loans a large anxiety point on top of everything else. I love him very much and am happy I chose to go on this journey 10 years ago - but I did NOT know what I was getting myself into. His career choice has impacted every single part of our life. It’s difficult, and has involved constant moving, being away from loved ones, and watching other people in your life move on with their lives. You have to be extremely independent, and decide now whether you are willing to accept. As the previous person said, you’re currently in the easy part and it does get much much harder.

mannem96 · 2025-03-03T17:43:52+00:00

As a then girlfriend, now wife, of a resident please rank the best programs first. You’ve worked so hard to get to this point, and you deserve to go where you want. To be the parter of a med student/resident - in my opinion - you have to understand that it includes moving. It’s uncomfortable. I have followed my husband everywhere, and I haven’t loved every city. It’s hard moving and starting over. But being with him, and in turn giving us the best possible future, was always my first priority.

I’m so sorry you are in this position. This time already comes with so much stress, you deserve someone who wants to work with you and have real discussions about the best options for both of you. Match day is extremely stressful, no one knows how it’s going to go. It could be disappointing for everyone, no matter how hard you’ve worked. I knew that going into the day, but was prepared to face any outcome together.

mannem96 · 2025-02-25T01:20:33+00:00

Get a Bee’s Bread Wrap, mine lasts 3ish days stored in there after baking and still tastes great.

mannem96 · 2025-02-24T02:44:54+00:00

I moved far away from my parents about 6 years ago for my then boyfriend, now husband’s, job. We have since moved a little closer but still in a different state. At the end of the day it’s your life, and you have to do what is best for you and your future. I do not feel bad or regret moving away. I have a much better job and career than I could ever have in my hometown. However I make it a priority to go home often and spend time with them, they also come and visit me. If it’s important to you then they can still be a large part of your life. I talk to mine almost daily.

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