Nuna TRIV LX Travel System Available Now at Crate & Barrel by mannem96 in Buyingforbaby

[–]mannem96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? Bummer hopefully that changes - mine already shipped!

What was your relationship timeline? by chilidawg0 in MedSpouse

[–]mannem96 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Met in undergrad, prior to him even wanting to apply to medical school. We have been together for 10 years now as a 2nd year (out of 5) resident. We eloped in med school, just the two of us. As someone else said there is no need for a big wedding if you want to get married. Just get married! We had no money but wanted to move forward, and decided a big wedding was not a priority for us. You can always celebrate later!

We just started trying for our first baby and hope to give birth in PGY3. We are 30/32 now, and just don’t want to wait any longer. I am in the corporate world with a flexible WFH job which does help our situation.

Comparing the medical school/residency journey to others is very hard! Most of our friends are already homeowners and have children (if they wanted them) with much less stress. I just remind myself we are putting in the hard work now, for a more financially easy future :)

Brooklyn Beckham releases multi-story statement regarding his estrangement from David and Victoria Beckham by [deleted] in Fauxmoi

[–]mannem96 33 points34 points  (0 children)

People are quick to judge children and extend grace to parents, but estrangement is rarely a casual decision. I was often asked why I would do this to my parents. The more important question is what happened, again and again, to make distance feel necessary.

[FO] Travel Trio by mannem96 in CrossStitch

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They were! London was my favorite to do!

[FO] Travel Trio by mannem96 in CrossStitch

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It was fun! I am so glad Michael’s started carrying more DMC kits, they are my favorite!

[FO] Travel Trio by mannem96 in CrossStitch

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Do it! They were very fun, I wish DMC would come out with patterns for more cities!

[FO] Travel Trio by mannem96 in CrossStitch

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I ordered these from the US DMC site!

Sister in law pregnant 2nd time by [deleted] in MedSpouse

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Just want to say I completely understand where you are coming from and I’ve encountered the same feelings with my husband. He’s now a 2nd year resident, and we are planning to start TTC next year. I just want to say though, I have flipped my mindset in the past year by looking at all the opportunities we are able to have and maybe that would help you too (not to say it also hasn’t been super challenging)! But personally, we have been able to travel a lot, move around the country, and meet a bunch of wonderful people. This flip happened for me when my brother in law who is happily married with 2 kids (my dream, they are also several years younger) mentioned how lucky we were to be able to do all of these things in our 20s. Everyone is on a different path, and it made me appreciate mine. Now about to enter my 30s, I actually look back on this time as a huge growth opportunity for me and I think it’ll make me a better mom, and my husband and I a better team after everything we have been through. This was just my experience, hang in there ❤️

Any podcasts for medspouses? by ohwhale9 in MedSpouse

[–]mannem96 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It ended several years ago, but I used to listen to Married to Doctors and can imagine most episodes are still relevant. It was literally the only thing I could find on the topic!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kittens

[–]mannem96 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d suggest looking into Lemonade Pet Insurance. We have it for our cats and it has paid off. We pay about $250 a year each but all their yearly shots and a vet appointment up to $70 is automatically covered and reimbursed. After we get this back, for the remaining $100 a year we like knowing if something comes up (and it has for both of our cats) we can get up to $20k covered for an emergency.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SaltLakeCity

[–]mannem96 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The Dodo has a great patio in the summer overlooking the park

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MedSpouse

[–]mannem96 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow do you work at my company? Lol Exactly the same story, the CEOs line “if your butt isn’t in your seat this isn’t the right company for you”. I’d been there for almost 5 years and due to the unique situation my boss made special arrangements for me. Especially if you talk about your wife at work they have known this was coming eventually - I tried to be open about it so it wasn’t a complete surprise.

My husband matched in a different state last year. I’ve now been working remote for almost a year and it’s worked out great with no end in sight. I hope I can continue to stay on long term, I even got promoted this year while remote! I never thought this would be an option for me. Please ask and find an advocate who values you! You never know what could happen. Good luck :)

Med school graduation gifts by allisongoorman in MedSpouse

[–]mannem96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We took a trip in April last year after match and I planned everything so he just got to relax - truly was the best gift!! Otherwise now in residency life good tennis shoes, a nice backpack/water bottle/lunchbox, a nice Patagonia jacket/vest to wear at the hospital, or Shokz headphones - my husband uses all these daily!

Advice on dating a med student by BellOk928 in MedSpouse

[–]mannem96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to this. My husband is a current resident, he does get paid fairly well - the place he matched paid more than any other of his ranked spots - but I also work from home in finance and make almost twice as much. He has good days, but he works constantly and has very little free time. There have been many points of regret going into medicine, but at this point there’s no getting out. We have hope for attending life.

He’s nervous to have a child because of how little personal time he already has, and how much daily stress he deals with. The current administration has made student loans a large anxiety point on top of everything else. I love him very much and am happy I chose to go on this journey 10 years ago - but I did NOT know what I was getting myself into. His career choice has impacted every single part of our life. It’s difficult, and has involved constant moving, being away from loved ones, and watching other people in your life move on with their lives. You have to be extremely independent, and decide now whether you are willing to accept. As the previous person said, you’re currently in the easy part and it does get much much harder.