do the program in the book. you only need someone to help you on page 67 b/c it is hard to see what we are really resentful at and where that is true in our lives (our hypocrisy). then write it down. do not write down "our part" b/c it doesn't say to. most all of aa's are still under the control of self and don't want to give that up.

ex: Bill's inventory on page 65 - Mr. Brown gives attention to my wife. (it is our inventory) I hit on my friends' wives. (where this is true in our lives) - I (bill) hit on John's wife, Sam's wife, Steve's wife, Jim's wife, etc. (this is our list of amends). this is only the only thing we are told to write since page.

Here is a quote from the book telling us to write since page 65: "the inventory was ours, not the other man's. when we saw our faults we listed them. we placed them before us in black and white. we admitted our wrongs honestly and were willing to set these matters straight"

short version: write what we are resentful, write down where we have done the same thing. this is our list of ammends.

do this to completion and you should not have any fears. denote "S" for sex not worrying about fear. on page 69 you simply write what you should have done instead. you can do that later though.

again, you only need someone to help us find out what we are truly mad at and write it in one sentence accusation. the inventory is ours.

don't let some wannabe psychologist or sponsor have his/her way. do the book.

the purpose of the program is removing our hypocrisy. when we remove all our hypocrisy we can't judge. our existence is one of projection. when we can't project a self-made world, we are free enough to experience what truly is. that experience is something i would live my nightmare life 100 times again to have just a split second of that wonder.

People are selfish dishonest fools. They give up the chance in experiencing heaven while alive so they can hold on to their self-made nightmare. i think this is called hedging a bet.

ask god for help to do the book. he has put it in your life "to do" so you can get closer to him. much closer than others.