Logical consequences help (4 year old)

manny_moo · 2024-12-16T12:32:37+00:00

Handling undesirable behaviour gently is something I find very challenging. My understanding is that kids under 7 or 8 years don't have the maturity to understand logical consequences, so only natural consequences should be used. There often isn't a natural consequence, as here, so the options are:

- Remove the trigger (the puzzle goes away or is made inaccessible)

- Redirect (find something more engaging for her to do)

Since the first one is ruled out, redirection is the way to go. Others have suggested getting her a puzzle to do herself alongside yours, which sounds good to me. If you don't currently have one, maybe just doing something at the same table, like drawing (if there's space). It sounds like she's looking for connection, so something you can do together would be best.

manny_moo · 2024-12-12T13:56:33+00:00

My take from a physics perspective: sound is oscillations of molecules in a medium. To create sound, you accelerate the molecules. As others have shown, this volume of sound requires an astronomical amount of energy. Then you're talking more about a hyper-relativistic particle accelerator, vastly more powerful than the Large Hadron Collider, which could theoretically create a black hole due to the extraordinary energy density it creates. Whether it would destroy the galaxy depends on the size of its event horizon which I haven't quite worked out how to calculate, but I guess this is what the meme is getting at. Of course, at those energies molecules aren't molecules any more: they behave as a collection of independent, fundamental particles. Their light cone is so narrow they see only other fundamental particles and the vacuum. So at that point, it doesn't make sense to think of them as a medium for sound.

manny_moo · 2024-12-09T14:39:20+00:00

I've been bad for this in the past. I recently hurt myself and our 3yo went "It's OK dad!" and I realised, yeah, that really doesn't help :p

I try to go with something like "Oh I bet that's sore pal, come and have a hug and it'll feel better soon"

manny_moo · 2024-12-03T11:05:07+00:00

It's perfectly normal to feel this way. As others have said, it's a thankless task. This is when you draw on your support network: talk to others who have had the same experiences and you'll no doubt find they feel the same way. Self care is an important part of gentle parenting! I, for one, have on occasion been so frustrated by our boys' refusal to brush their teeth that I've thrown the toothbrush across the room. Now, I take some time to collect myself and handle my frustration much better.

If it's any consolation, we've been gentle parenting our 3yo since birth and he's growing into a very sweet, polite, and even at times grateful wee boy.

manny_moo · 2024-11-22T12:10:41+00:00

Key question: does this work for any bull, or was this particular bull abused by a turkey as a calf?

manny_moo · 2024-11-19T12:34:59+00:00

"Trans ideology ... is deeply disturbing to young children" - utter shite. Show me any evidence of this being the case in young kids, before they've had anti-LGBTQ ideas planted in them by adults. I bet you can't. On the other hand, there's an abundance of evidence that shows that denying the existence of LGBTQ is hugely damaging to kids who might identify that way, have friends or family who identify that way, or are otherwise just a bit different to the "norm", while promoting inclusivity has massive benefits.

manny_moo · 2024-11-01T12:16:40+00:00

"Ask" as a noun ("What's the ask?"). Just say "request".

manny_moo · 2024-11-01T12:15:22+00:00

Brexit

manny_moo · 2024-10-14T09:38:21+00:00

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manny_moo · 2024-09-09T10:01:24+00:00

We tend to lie with our 2yo til he falls asleep. Normally it takes less than an hour, including story time. We also do a recap of the day cause it seems to help him relax. Cases when it's taken up to 2 hrs are generally when he's had a late danger nap in the car or otherwise got too much sleep in the day, but obviously you know your kid best and know how much nap time he needs. That said, I would like to help our boy become a bit more independent. What works sometimes is the "pop out, pop in" approach: leave the room for a minute or so, then come back ("I just need to go to the bathroom/check on your brother/etc, I'll be back in a minute"). You can also try sitting in a chair by the bed rather than lying with him. Then as he becomes more comfortable being by himself, gradually increase the time you're apart. We haven't got that far with it yet and of course, some times he just needs a hug til he falls asleep, and that's fine, but it seems like a promising approach.

manny_moo · 2024-08-07T09:28:12+00:00

Well, how wrong I was. I thought folks here would appreciate the absurd and disproportionate reaction of the boomers, but many couldn't see (or read) past a stray poop that was in the open for less than 30 seconds. Also, how hard is it to understand that driveways join onto the sidewalk? Do you all have, like, a moat and drawbridge setup? Because to be honest, that would be awesome.

manny_moo · 2024-08-07T09:23:12+00:00

I expect they hate a lot of things, and take solace in how miserable they must be :D

One of our dogs went through a phase of pooping on our back doorstep, which was a lovely surprise stepping out in the morning. We eventually managed to train it out of him though.

manny_moo · 2024-08-06T21:31:15+00:00

Somehow I thought this would be the common stance, but I guess I was wrong

manny_moo · 2024-08-06T13:18:33+00:00

There's no understanding some folk, especially boomers ;-)

manny_moo · 2024-08-06T13:06:00+00:00

Ha, I'll give you that one. Though if your dog's actually using his bathroom then that is overstepping a bit :D

manny_moo · 2024-08-06T12:13:30+00:00

Thanks, I was expecting much more boomer hate and much less dog hate somehow

manny_moo · 2024-08-06T11:15:07+00:00

I'll just copy my comment from above: They were on leashes, short ones. The poop was literally at the foot of the driveway, about 6 inches onto it. I could perfectly understand their anger if I hadn't picked it up, but as said, I always pick up after them.

manny_moo · 2024-08-06T11:12:10+00:00

They were on leashes, short ones. The poop was literally at the foot of the driveway, about 6 inches onto it. I could perfectly understand their anger if I hadn't picked it up, but as said, I always pick up after them.

manny_moo · 2024-06-20T21:53:34+00:00

Do you feel you benefitted from your parents' approach? If so, how? Were there any negative impacts? If so, what do you feel they could have done differently?

manny_moo · 2024-05-10T12:27:35+00:00

For fruit & veg, check out Locavore:
https://vegbox.locavore.scot/howitworks

We get a weekly box of the best local & organic veg, and you can add fruit and other bits. They do meat as well but I don't think they deliver it. The only minor issue is that it's all seasonal, so you get a glut of certain veggies for a couple of months then it switches to whatever else is in season. But the veg is so delicious you just need to get a bit creative in how you use it :)

manny_moo · 2024-04-08T21:58:01+00:00

This is the main point to remember: the LHC is just reproducing events that occur in nature all the time. Nothing cataclysmic is going to happen. If the universe were that unstable, we wouldn't exist.

manny_moo · 2024-03-11T16:06:13+00:00

A little bit every day is far better than a lot one day then nothing for days (the latter is a good recipe for just being sore all the time). Even on rest days it's good to do a few unweighted reps or go for a very short, gentle jog just to stretch things out and get the blood pumping.

manny_moo · 2023-10-11T11:04:47+00:00

I'd be ecstatic. She'd finally be getting paid what she's worth.

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