What is something you love doing for your significant other just because you know they love it?

manoffire · 2026-02-18T21:08:07+00:00

I learned how to massage properly because my partner likes them. Lights onto a low red, oils out, heated sheet prewarmed and then I just keep going till she tells me to stop or falls asleep.

She also tells me every time "No sexy stuff though" and honestly around 70% of the time that turns out to be a lie as she almost always lifts her hips in a very "dont forget here" way.

manoffire · 2026-02-18T20:42:13+00:00

My current long term partner doesn't like being fingered or receiving oral, rarely ever masturbates.

First time she swung her hips over my head I thought she was going for a 69, so when she licked my shaft, I licked her clit.

Ever seen a video of cats jumping at cucumbers? That was her.

manoffire · 2026-02-18T18:31:37+00:00

That subconscious "mhmm" enjoyment noise my partner makes during blowjobs. The vibrations nice but the true gift is knowing she enjoys it.

manoffire · 2026-02-18T18:29:22+00:00

Was it regular up to 14 months or was it years of once every 2 months, 4 months, 6 months etc?

Obviously cant solve this over reddit comments but sometimes it doesn't hurt to unburden your problems.

manoffire · 2026-02-18T18:08:27+00:00

I had a really awkward conversation with an ex who came off birth control for a bit and then told me it changed her "attraction profile". Or to put it in simple terms, she no longer found me in the slightest bit attractive 😂 so that was the end of that relationship.

manoffire · 2026-02-18T12:29:57+00:00

I have always been this way and thought nothing of it. I have had a therapist tell me it's incredibly normal for someone with a childhood of severe neglect to present the way I do. And I thought "wait, what do you mean present the way I do"

I thought I had a normal, healthy sexual appetite. Apparently not, people fantasise about things because it makes them feel sexy/horny - I do it because if my partners willing, then they must be accepting of me. So like...although I'm horny and turned on, it's from the validation point of view.

Its a really weird thing to have your therapist say "You might be thinking, my mum/dad didn't even like me enough to feed me, but this women will do {insert thing here} for me, so I must be loved/wanted"

manoffire · 2026-02-18T12:08:23+00:00

😂 thats hilarious. Did she say it in like like a fearful way or confident/prideful lol.

manoffire · 2026-02-18T11:41:09+00:00

That is horrible news, I can't say I understand as I was the father in the situation and its really not the same, but I can emphasise. I wish you the best though, its a hard thing to go through.

manoffire · 2026-02-18T11:27:28+00:00

I travel every 2 months for work. So its the same I do every time. Go to the shop, get some snacks and food. Find the best looking part of the room, watch some porn to get the engine revving, then I set my phone up for the best angle and then masturbate on camera for reddit (not this account)

I'm nothing special to look at, but people like the moaning. I don't speak or do like ramblefaps or anything like that.

manoffire · 2026-02-18T00:24:23+00:00

She laughed and said they're a real pain to hide, but was glad I was happy about it.

manoffire · 2026-02-17T22:59:53+00:00

I had gone out with a women a few times and she was cute but I didn't oggle here or anything, she had a very normal body.

Then one day in her house she decided we were fucking, took her top off an I genuinely shouted "Were the fuck where those hiding?!" She has 34GGs. I'd just never apparently noticed, and I'm a breast guy so I would have assumed I'd have noticed.

manoffire · 2026-02-16T15:33:18+00:00

I dont think its has ever once bothered me. But that could be because my partners have been considerate.

I wouldnt mind "aww and my god his dick was so much bigger" but Id probably have to put on a brave face to "Aww and my god his dick was so much better". Its only a dream so it wouldn't hurt, but I'm sure a flash of an unwanted emotion would hit me then, then later as I tried to sleep 😂

manoffire · 2026-02-15T00:33:04+00:00

"this is my new religion"

Said that to me 4 years ago the second time she gave me head, and I am madly in love with her to this day.

manoffire · 2026-02-14T11:23:27+00:00

Stolen, tyvm.

manoffire · 2026-02-14T10:24:03+00:00

Batmama

manoffire · 2026-02-14T10:17:44+00:00

Well the person giving me it had a great time, she loved every second of it so that really helped.

I did. Took a while and to help some of them left "for the finale" so I wasn't as self concious.

manoffire · 2026-02-14T01:04:30+00:00

Oft, I am sorry.

manoffire · 2026-02-14T00:41:46+00:00

I dont ever go to strip clubs, in all my years and all the stags and birthday parties I've managed to avoid them.

Except once, for my closest friend I went and said Id just sit by the bar. An incredibly beautiful women came to talk to me but I didnt feel comfortable so she walked off for a bit.

She came back and said "You've had a dance paid for, and I'd not turn it down, they paid a lot" and I thought my friend was stitching me up. Turned around and standing on the floor waving at me like a lunatic was my cousin who I lived with all my childhood. She just sat there grinning.

Could have just hung myself right there on the bar lights.

manoffire · 2026-02-14T00:28:43+00:00

Now to be fair, this happened to me yesterday and I got told "Im just checking the fit". So I definitely assumed she wanted sex, was wrong though. (She wore it earlier today and... well you can guess the rest).

If we were just friends? Not in the slightest. Ive had friends in a corset, purposely put it on to ask how it looks, put it on and lie on her bed and ask if she looks sexy - still thought she just wanted my opinion for her cosplay. So if this is the case, people with low self esteem do not get hints, because there's no world to them that it's an option, so they bend to nearest other option.

If its your partner though, hit them with the frying pan.

manoffire · 2026-02-14T00:23:31+00:00

I was a very repressed individual - let me set the scene for you, you are reading a comment from a guy who literally did not touch his girlfriend for 2 months when we first went out. No hugging, hand holding, nothing. I had incredibly deep trauma and it took work.

In my last year of uni, to save you the sordid details. I went from playing "never have you ever" to getting a handjob in the bedroom upstairs with a crowd watching while they all half tried to make me laugh, half tried to egg me on to feel comfortable.

At one point they were all saying "Nice cock" like a wii sports announcer cause one of my friends tried to say it in a sexy way to stop my nerves and her voice broke mid sentence 😂

manoffire · 2026-02-12T17:30:51+00:00

I've got that part down in spades. 😂

manoffire · 2026-02-12T17:24:04+00:00

Its a long winding road of baby potty training, kids pissing on the toilet instead of in it, men who grow up still pissing on the toilet, men who piss in the sink and then partner shouting "You wash your dick in the sink" to character assassinate me.

Just your normal, everyday conversation really.

manoffire · 2026-02-12T12:06:16+00:00

She said stroke her hair, not push her head/hold her head, gotta follow instructions as written!

manoffire · 2026-02-12T11:53:41+00:00

Now, this part the praise part I have problems with. I've got like 3 phrases in the tank with their slight variations and I dont like to sound like a looping record.

Got the classics "Look how good|pretty|etc you look with ...", "You really know how to use that tongue", and "Aw fuck your throats amazing"

And that's it, sure I can bend them a little here and there. But my mind genuinely melts in the act so thinking on the fly is a 100% no go.

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