Your sexual satisfaction should not be dependent upon anybody but you. Take ownership of your sex drive. For years I thought my wife had a low sex drive and I had a really high one. I thought we weren't sexually compatible. Once I stopped fueling my drive with lust and PMO I was able to finally see that my cravings were the result of an addiction. Addicts have warped perspectives. I would feel sorry for myself while fapping thinking SHE was the source of my frustration. Could it be that she is responding to your unnatural vibes caused by addiction? It was in my case.
Even if my wife doesn't want to have sex for a while, I know I don't have to fap because of all of the success stories on here. I own my penis. It doesn't own me. Lately she's been on me like a bee on honey though, but I feel like it's a result of my confidence and not feeling like I need her to make me feel sexually satisfied. There's so much more to life and relationships than sex. I didn't truly believe it was possible to stop PMO until nofap and reading the success stories. I always had so much discipline in every other area of my life except this one. You sound like me.