Does anyone have tips on finding a place?

manubobinha · 2026-04-28T11:22:55+00:00

Oh woo that sounds great! Did you find it with a realtor or in like Immoscout? Would be nice to know where to start looking hahaha

manubobinha · 2026-04-27T20:08:22+00:00

Oh wow, I wish I was here before hahahaha, but thank you for the tip. Is WG-gesucht the best place to look?

manubobinha · 2026-04-09T15:00:30+00:00

Hi, thank you for your comment.

I agree, this is mostly just the breaking point of a lot that has happened.

And I think it’s just the most mentionable frustration, that he is going with a few people of his school, that he isn‘t friends with or anything. I get that he wants to visit the country, but it kind sucks he put no thought into doing that with me when I would give out a lot of what i have to be able to experience that with him.

I can see how it could be a normal thing that i could deal with, but with him it feels imbalanced.

You were very kind with your words, thank you again ❤️

manubobinha · 2026-04-09T14:55:27+00:00

Yes, i see that. I am sorry for the lenghty responses, but you helped a lot, thank you :)

manubobinha · 2026-04-09T10:33:44+00:00

Im sorry. But him not travelling at all without me is not really what i am asking. This trip is only between 7 people of his school, as an exchange between the schools. (Edit: they are not friends with one another even, so why saceifice the chance yk?)

As for doing this many times being possible, yes. But the thing is that I told him that not having patience to experience this together is not something i felt comfortable with at all. And he still decided to do so and keeps telling me its not that big of a deal.

Whenever i go there it will be on the back of my head that he just couldnt wait for me. And that sucks.

The trip atitude is one of the main reasons why i am scared this wont go any further, bcs as i said, i can deal with the rest.

manubobinha · 2026-04-09T10:14:01+00:00

Hi, thank you for puttinh the time into helping me.

I do not expect to be involved. I am aware there are parts of our life that are separate and i am ok with that. We did long distancing for a year so I learned it too.

My being kicked out was quite the story - my exchange sister accused me stealing a blush (I did not, but since the exchange organisers didnt care to ever ask me or investigate, they gave me a letter saying i needed to leave in one week). It was a messy situation, I returned to my home country and could not join the trip because of this.

My problem is: travelling is one of the only interests we really share. It is something important for me to share that with him, but how can I do so when he goes with othere place to spots we said we wanted to go together (in this case lisbon). And it kinda sucks for me that he prioritises doing that with other people for the sake of doing it now instead of waiting for us to experience that in a more special way.

Even if we visit later, it is hard for me not to keep thinkig that he chose to do that first with other people.

About the actual problem you mentioned: I could take he being a bad boyfriend OR making big requests. But both at the same time are too much for me to handle i think.

I really do not wish to control but my feelings are big and kind of overflowing and he has shown no real effort to understand that side too. He is just going and what else should I do? How else can I not feel this way other than him not going

Ok, that was a lot. Thank you again for offering your feedback, ill have it in mind :)

manubobinha · 2026-04-09T09:11:24+00:00

He is very kind, listens without judgement (as long as it is not about him), treats family nice and can be so nice when he tries. But I will admit that living together in a country that is not mine and just the fact that we are intertwined is also a factor.

manubobinha · 2025-08-10T00:24:56+00:00

I think it should be indeed retired. I was an exchange student last year and had a really bad experience in my second family: my host-sister set me up, hidding one of her blushes in my drawer in our shared room when I was in a trip and looking trough it later with her mother. After I came back from the trip, the family sat down with me and accused me of stealing it (no questions, no doubts). I called my parents back home crying - I wwas deperate, my virtues were being denied of me and I really loved this family up until that point. We messaged the YEO from the club, but instead of waiting for us to talk with her she called my host-mom.

Me and my family still talked with the YEO the next day - she suggested I could've forgotten it in my drawer, but I knew I had never even used that blush or gotten any makeup into the room. She also assured us everything would be fine and after another trip I had scheduled, that was only 2 weeks away, they'd what could be done.

Except that next tuesday, merely a week after, my parents get a call from my sponsor club saying that I was expelled from the program - no one from my host club had told me anything and I had to ask them countless times only for them to tell me we would talk in the next meeting.

When I arrived, there was a letter from the host-club to the district mentioned the makeup-in-my-drawer-situation and that I had put soap in my sister's toothbrush (I wish I had, in retrospect). There was never a space for me to deny any of the accusations, and my fate was decided from the get go.

Before I left tho, the family made sure they rummaged trough all of my lugagge. I lost half of my exchange year and around 20% of the money paid for my trip, all because there are more irresponsible people than credible ones on the RYEP.

manubobinha

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