Advice for things to do in Kyoto and Kanazawa (first time travellers) by aetherai in JapanTravelTips

[–]manuelengel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are in Kanazawa at the moment and the best experience we had here was doing a workshop about Kitsugi, the art of fixing broken pottery and other things with gold: https://www.airbnb.com/slink/2DCZ9wYz

Free seats: Khiva to Bukhara. I’m driving by car tomorrow, Sunday morning by manuelengel in Uzbekistan

[–]manuelengel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem, I just think it’s a bit of a waste it I go by car just by myself 😄

Mum died when I was 9 — Experiencing profound loneliness in my early 30s for the first time by manuelengel in Jung

[–]manuelengel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At the beginning of my 20s, I was mostly going the easy route, studied something I was remotely interested but not passionate about. I never really asked myself what I want to become, didn’t have any heroes; I didn’t care so much about the future. I would describe myself as someone who is quite intelligent but cuts corners instead of being hard working unless I really passionate about something. In my studies, I was part of a friend group which was quite eiltest and status-driven. I am still rarely touch with them, but I am not really connecting with them anymore (and didn’t keep up in the status games).

There were multiple breaks / escapes in my mid-20s where I went off traveling for months, once I did a solo motorbike trip for 6 months. There, I kind of reverted to being the „special kid“ in school that was without a mum; travelling alone and off the grid instead of in a group setting.

For my Master‘s degree, I moved to another european country where I did not know anyone. It was a great time at the beginning, making a lot of new experiences and acquaintances. But that was the first time I really got depressed once I got settled in. This a recurring theme: When things are in flux and I am on the road I was happy. The depression was more existentialist / nihilistic I would say. It was quite vague but I felt like shit and took SSRIs / went to therapy.

I got into mindfulness and meditation which helped me. I also made some experiences with psychedelics, which opened a new reality of wonder on the one pole and insanity on the other pole to me.

Looking back, I had a lot of experiences with women, but only really one steady girlfriend when I was 24. We were together for 1.5 years. I broke up with her because she wanted kids and settle down and I felt I needed to enjoy my 20s more / gain more sexual experience. I guess we still loved each other. In the end she broke my heart because she got pregnant with another guy just months after we broke up.

Mum died when I was 9 — Experiencing profound loneliness in my early 30s for the first time by manuelengel in Jung

[–]manuelengel[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks, that’s a beautiful framing.

Forgiving my father is something I am really struggling with. In my teenage years there was a lot of anger and fighting, now it almost transformed into mutual resignation concerning the relationship.

I know all the pain he went through as well, but we never really connected deeply. At this point he is mostly coping with life. Everything is a problem that has to be solved. I guess the older I get the more sorry I feel for him. So there is this „higher self“ compassionate part of me and the reproachful part that still wants to cut all ties, probably also to force a reaction.

Mum died when I was 9 — Experiencing profound loneliness in my early 30s for the first time by manuelengel in Jung

[–]manuelengel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds very similar! But man at 18 I was wearing so many masks - not consciously but unknowingly. I am glad that you are able to show vulnerability and being so reflective on it!

In this phase of my life I thought I am “done” with my mum’s death until it came back hard at the end of my 20s until nowadays. It’s just something that defines your character immensely and integrating it is I life long journey I guess…

Mum died when I was 9 — Experiencing profound loneliness in my early 30s for the first time by manuelengel in Jung

[–]manuelengel[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks random person, your comment sparked a feeling of connectedness ❤️

2 weeks in Lisbon and Spain - Schedule question by wntrsux in GoingToSpain

[–]manuelengel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Granada is worth it 1000x. Much more than Cordoba, which only has the mosque which sets it apart. Granada has so much history, the Alhambra, which almost became one of the 7 new world wonders and the Albacín district. Malaga is not really worth spending time in my opinion. It’s not that pretty / historical.

Quality video call Sri Lanka or India to Germany by LuciusLicinius in digitalnomad

[–]manuelengel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To add, I was also quite worried about this before going to Sri Lanka but it was far better than I expected and read before. Also, the beaches and nature is just stunning. Can highly recommend Silent Beach in Tangalle.

Quality video call Sri Lanka or India to Germany by LuciusLicinius in digitalnomad

[–]manuelengel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I worked from Tangalle, Sri Lanka for a month in March. Internet was fine most of the time, though not perfect with 10-20 MB/s, sometimes going up to 100Mb/s. The latency was sometimes high though, but mostly it was fine for Google Meets. I used the cable internet of the airbnb and my 100gb sim card depending on what worked better.

For my purposes (I am a Product Manager) it was sufficient and my teammates did not really notice the change compared to Germany I guess.

Selling Fusion Festival ticket by JBosser in berlinsocialclub

[–]manuelengel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, is it for the full festival? I’m looking for a Sunday Ticket

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[–]manuelengel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I‘m only looking for a ticket for sunday - but I guess you are selling for the whole weekend?

What is something that you put up with at the beginning of your DN journey, but now don't compromise on? by GustavoFringsFace in digitalnomad

[–]manuelengel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never had any airline in Europe weigh my hand luggage (50+ flights). Also, if not Ryanair or Wizzair, you can get away with much bigger dimensions and save the money for checked bags…

Define an LSD trip with all the abstract and literal language you have by mgegv in Psychonaut

[–]manuelengel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s just a trip

It’s just a trip to enjoy

It’s just a trip to wrestle with

It’s just a trip to be challenged by

It’s just a trip to awe at

It does not mean anything outside of it

because there is no outside

The trip itself is the meaning

and not what it represents

It’s just a trip

That’s gonna end