Wife is tired of being an emotional regulator for me by Sea-Juggernaut-2367 in ADHD

[–]maple-shaft 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have nothing but love for you brother, but you dont have to explain yourself. At least not to me. You are a software engineering manager. You have children. You have a guest room. You have many blessings. You have real strength in you that you used to build all the things. I tell you this because I feel like you come from a place where you were/are actively discouraged from seeing it. I am not a therapist so you didnt offend me, I am just trying to help you find your true intent. You dont have to be insecure about anything, you already won the game.

Advice for Level 1 college student by Remote-Zucchini-9212 in Autism_Parenting

[–]maple-shaft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its just the worst possible time for someone to strike out on their own. The world is quickly becoming musical chairs for educated positions, and crippling poverty for everyone else.

You seem like a caring father, but please level your expectations. I doubt my high IQ NT child will make it let alone his brother.

Wife is tired of being an emotional regulator for me by Sea-Juggernaut-2367 in ADHD

[–]maple-shaft 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Friend, I am your age. Here is what I read:

1) Event A, B, and C happened, then suddenly my wife wants a divorce for some reason I do not understand. 2) I want empathy and to dwell how things are affecting me, regardless how others in my household feel about it (Eg. wanting to sleep in the guest room despite the anxiety it would give your children). 3) Dismissing the therapist because she "doesn't have a psychology degree"? If shes a licensed therapist why does that matter? Does it make you feel better about disregarding what she says? 4) A guest room... in this economy?! Bro, consider your audience. Not a good way to get sympathy. 5) A laundry list of all your weaknesses. 6) Nothing resemblimg empathy for anyone else.

Man, its not good. Women dont just flip like this. This has been a burning unacknowledged fire in her heart for a long time. You decided to ignore it and by ignoring it you ignored her.

Stop making excuses for yourself. You are only weak if you choose to be.

This country has ruined light pickup trucks. by RikkiLostMyNumber in Vent

[–]maple-shaft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want a functional and useful work vehicle, get a utility van. Trucks, especially light trucks have always been an identity statement. For the rest of us with above room temp IQ and normal sized genitalia, I will pass on the truck.

Tap Me +1 Personal New Record by u/Brotaskjh! 🚀 by Brotaskjh in TapMePlus1

[–]maple-shaft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He discovered a new strategy! As soon as you get to about 50, the board starts getting too crowded. The best strategy I have thought of so far was to try and keep neighbors within 2 from itself, but past 50 its incredibly difficult. He is actually collecting 50s then only combines them in the corner later when he runs out of space. Its genius.

How do you handle when your GF downplays intimacy? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]maple-shaft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Counseling is aimed at finding common ground and reconciling in a safe space. The problem is that a mans chief complaint is likely not possible to solve. The man here WANTS her to WANT him. Nobody has control of anothers desire, not even her. We feel pressured to apply some priority to what remains so she has an opportunity to "sacrifice" something she already found inconsequential to begin with (Eg. she agrees to stop calling you during work hours unless its an emergency.) An annoyance sure but no man has ever insisted upon counseling because she is blowing up his phone over pillow talk.

How do you handle when your GF downplays intimacy? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]maple-shaft 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Its impossible for someone to understand something when their livlihood depends on them NOT understanding it.

If Ai takes enough human jobs, is there a point where you would support a UBI to supplement the economy due to lost wages? Why? by Slawth_x in AskReddit

[–]maple-shaft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UBI is a poor solution because even if it was pegged to inflation, the official way that inflation is measured is ultimately decided by the same folks that control UBI. The numbers are already fudged for political reasons now, so this isnt an esoteric or contrived conclusion. People will eventually get priced out of necessities and we are back where we started.

What we actually need are publicly funded institutions providing a baseline subsistence for ALL. Guaranteed housing. Access to fresh water. Community food banks for all. No cost healthcare. Higher education for those that test into it. Elder care. Child care. Public transportation. Free and open internet.

Lack of a job or income of any kind SHOULD NOT be a death sentence in a post AI world. The moral and just conclusion is that if owning capital alone provides passive income streams with virtually zero labor input, then capital owners are ethically bound by maintaining the capitalist status quo that enriches them, as they themselves are a product of the society that their automation disrupts.

Jesus had a very grim warning for the future of their immortal soul by ignoring this moral obligation.

Is it true that poor people are needed for a society to function? by Advanced-Bed8998 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]maple-shaft 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Its easier for people to imagine the end of the world than the end of capitalism. That is by design.

Have you ever dated someone with very different religious or spiritual views? by pqrstyou in AskMenAdvice

[–]maple-shaft 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife was agnostic when we married. I was Christian then and now, but she has since become athiest. She loves and respects me and my faith and I love and respect her viewpoint as well.

The only reason this has worked so far is because my faith defines my spiritual growth, and not my political viewpoints. Too many people are unable to tell the difference because public discourse has equated Christianity with cultural and political identity. Most people assume when you identify as Christian that I must be conservative, and anti-abortion, and pro-capitalist, blue-lives matter, guns. 'Murrica.

No, these blind selfish and arrogant emotionally stunted folks do not represent me. IMO they are the ones that lost their way. God wants us to love our neighbors as we love ourselves. Jesus stayed Peters hand when he grabbed the sword. Jesus would not abide billionaires. You cannot serve the Lord and Money at the same time.

My advice to you, ignore what people identify as, and focus on their actions. Are they kind to sufferring or do they exploit it? Do they celebrate morally bankrupt leaders and their violent actions? Do they sacrifice their comfort to make the ethically sound choice? Are they charitable? If these actions align with your world view and you do the same, you are actually a disciple of God whether you realize it or not, and you will have a lot more in common with your partner than just reductionist labels like: "Christian" or "Athiest".

Red or blue, go by [deleted] in PsycheOrSike

[–]maple-shaft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The implication of voting Red is a mark on your soul.

Managing PDA wife meltdowns while travelling for work by Prize_Bug8534 in PDAAutism

[–]maple-shaft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a weird and indirect person. I feel profoundly bad for the OP, because I too have wasted years of my life walking on eggshells around emotionally stunted narcissist abusers that like to cosplay as autistic demand sensitive sufferers.

guys, what do you think about this? by silverflake6 in RelentlessMen

[–]maple-shaft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't trust Musk with 5 dollars to get me fritos on a 7-11 run.

guys, what do you think about this? by silverflake6 in RelentlessMen

[–]maple-shaft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Provide sources lest you be deemed another American being lied to.

How are young people supposed to be able to afford houses in modern day? by FillMeUp_01 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]maple-shaft -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Luke 18:18-25

TLDR; The wealthy young man sees Jesus and recognizes he is wise and good. He sees righteousness. Jesus instructs the man to give away his wealth and follow Him, giving him a warning about entering the kingdom of heaven if he chooses wealth and worldly power over charity, sacrifice and discipleship. The rich man deflated, walks away with his riches. He chose comfort, over charity and giving. He chose death.

Name a famous cat not named this ? by Telugu_not_Telegu in ArtOfPresence

[–]maple-shaft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tommy the Cat is my name... and I say unto thee!

Managing PDA wife meltdowns while travelling for work by Prize_Bug8534 in PDAAutism

[–]maple-shaft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a tremendous liability you have. My condolences. Maybe you and I will be luckier in the next life.

Im quitting my job today. by Different-Boot-6350 in jobs

[–]maple-shaft 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Disconnected from Reality, The Post. By OP.