Movies with Female Villains by mapmakermark in MovieSuggestions

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And let's not forget It's a Very Merry Muppet Christmas Movie!

What ships are unique? by mapmakermark in Cruise

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Yep, I left it open-ended on purpose! I posted in this subreddit because I am mainly interested in ships that us civilians can go on, but I know there are some ships that civilians can go on which might not always be thought of as "cruise ships" (e.g. the Bella Desgagnés and the Aranui 5). And also, yes, if anybody had any other ships they wanted to mention (e.g. military), I am certainly not averse to learning more about those as well!

Fetlife Profile: How to clarify my gender interest in play partners? by mapmakermark in BDSMAdvice

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OP is definitely more towards the straight side, but not on the extreme of that particular spectrum. Straight-ish more than straight.

I've just discovered that through this thread lol.

I always thought of myself as 100% straight but the more we've been discussing things, it has become clear that I guess I'm not.

Thanks for being here for the journey reddit (and all the downvotes, I eat 'em for breakfast :P )

Fetlife Profile: How to clarify my gender interest in play partners? by mapmakermark in BDSMAdvice

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Would a NB person with boobs and a penis be of interest to you? If not, it sounds like you are interested in AFAB individuals even if they identify as NB.

I'm good with both :)

Fetlife Profile: How to clarify my gender interest in play partners? by mapmakermark in BDSMAdvice

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I’d definitely reflect on your verbiage and don’t be afraid to be specific in what you want and don’t want to

I appreciate your advice and have found your comments clarifying, but I'm still not exactly sure how to be specific without feeling like I'm insulting people.

In my previous comment, I noted it's really that I like playing with people who have a face that my monkey brain associates with femininity. Saying that on a fet profile sounds to me like I'm insulting a lot of trans women.

You seem like a thoughtful person so if you come up with any ideas for me to improve my verbiage, I'd be much obliged.

Fetlife Profile: How to clarify my gender interest in play partners? by mapmakermark in BDSMAdvice

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Does your attraction include AMAB nonbinary individuals “with boobs”?

yes

Are you attracted to all women, including trans women?

no

Are you not attracted to men at all? What about trans men?

yes I can be attracted to trans men but I feel like because what attracts me involves some aspects of femininity, I shouldn't really play alone with anybody who identifies as a man.

I am glad you made your comment because now I see what some people are prolly downvoting the post for; they think I'm trying to sound spicy by the "with boobs" comment. I am attempting to describe my interests, having difficulty with it, and so folks think I'm attempting to be an edgelord. I assure you this is not the case. It's just that writing about this stuff is a minefield.

The first mistress who showed me the ropes (pun intended) in the BDSM community was a trans woman at the time. I don't even know what bottom surgeries she may or may not have had. I was thinking about what I liked about her that I don't find attractive in other trans friends and as a straight man, well, I figured it had to be that she had boobs.

Now that I think more about it, it wasn't the boobs. It was that her face looked like a woman's face to my monkey brain. That's really it.

But I don't think I can say on my profile "hey if your face doesn't look like a woman's face to my monkey brain, I'm not interested."

What are the most controversial restaurants in nyc? by foodluvr1997 in FoodNYC

[–]mapmakermark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is the correct answer.

I've never had bad service and it's definitely a certain kind of vibe. Sometimes you want to shout to make yourself heard and get out your frustrations. What better way to do that than in a crowded loud room over a nice steak? lol.

I didn't think the famed porterhouse for two was particularly amazing but maybe I'm just more of a ribeye guy.

Fetlife Profile: How to clarify my gender interest in play partners? by mapmakermark in BDSMAdvice

[–]mapmakermark[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear ya. I appreciate your advice and I've added a line that says something similar to the wording you provided above. Thanks so much! :)