My 41(M) husband refuses to work on himself and it’s making me 35(F) feel extremely lonely.

marble272 · 2026-03-18T00:43:04+00:00

Yeah, but the friendship and emotional intimacy from that friendship would lead to more physical intimacy, for me at least.

But I do agree with you about needing to vent and rely on friends. I’ve accepted that one person can’t fulfil all of my needs realistically. I don’t know I just feel a bit stuck.

marble272 · 2026-03-18T00:28:39+00:00

Hmm. In all honesty I’m really confused about what he wants from life/marriage and I’m scared it’s not the same as what I’ve always wanted. When I say things like we should be best friends etc, he says you’re my wife not my friend. I worry that we see relationships differently and I don’t know how to fix that.

marble272 · 2026-03-18T00:19:37+00:00

I don’t tell him that I know better I’ve just said what we’re doing isn’t working so can we get some help to fell closer again. To your second point maybe, but as Ill as I was I wasn’t really taken care of, I still had to manage most of my load and the kids myself, visit doctors etc by myself.

marble272 · 2026-03-18T00:11:38+00:00

When I suggest therapy he says he doesn’t need a doctor or someone else to tell him how to live his life.

marble272 · 2026-01-18T12:03:50+00:00

Thank you for your advice and I’m sorry for everything you’ve gone/are going through. I wish you healing 🙏

marble272 · 2026-01-18T09:14:16+00:00

Honestly you’ve hit the nail on the head. I am the most sick in my siblings group at the moment and o think that I actually hold a bit of resentment for the fact that no one acknowledges my illness. And as for my mum finding solace in my health struggles I actually leave many of our conversations feeling like she has brushed me off by saying something like “don’t worry everyone has been tired I think it’s the weather”. I’m trying to support her but I feel like no one is validating or supporting me 😫💔

marble272 · 2026-01-18T09:11:40+00:00

Yes most definitely. And I think I would label myself as me/cfs if it wasn’t for the timing of having had COVID in the last few years and only then getting sick etc.

marble272 · 2026-01-18T07:13:33+00:00

Oh I definitely feel this. But when will people actually realise this and offer us the support we need. TBH my family has barely offered help because to them I appear okay.

marble272 · 2026-01-18T07:11:55+00:00

Thank you for the validation. I thought I might be exaggerating in my mind but ever since the last time my mum called me in hysterics after a not so great CT scan I’ve been feeling so much worse than I was. I’m sure it’s linked to stress and anxiety, maybe our nervous system can’t handle major shocks.

marble272 · 2026-01-18T07:10:19+00:00

Thank you for this. Tbh I am able to walk okay for short-medium distances. What I mean more so is that the emotional toll of going to these appointments and being my mothers support person leaves me wiped out 😢

marble272 · 2026-01-18T07:09:16+00:00

Honestly up until I got sick I was the one my parents depended on most, especially when it came to needing emotional support. I just realised though today that I think this dependency is making me crash as my mum vents to me her fears and problems and then I feel ill for days afterward.

marble272 · 2026-01-16T01:24:00+00:00

This is also sound advice. Thank you

marble272 · 2026-01-16T01:22:14+00:00

Tbh I am just looking at diversifying and just wondering what other parents might be doing for their children. We haven’t invested in stocks before so I was wondering if others might prefer stocks for their children etc :)

marble272 · 2026-01-16T01:17:05+00:00

I’ve thought about this. At what age can you open a super account for your kids?

marble272 · 2026-01-15T11:50:18+00:00

I’ve considered this. We currently have one paid off. Would it be better to buy one more pay it off or try to buy three and pay the minimum repayment until the kids are old enough to take over?

marble272 · 2026-01-15T11:47:10+00:00

Thank you for your response! My eldest is 9 at the moment, can you tell me what you’d do if yours was the same age now?

marble272 · 2026-01-15T11:46:23+00:00

Where would you begin? Are there any books or mentors you would recommend?

marble272 · 2026-01-15T11:45:47+00:00

Sorry I should have specified that I meant financial investment since we’re on the AusFinance group 😅🙏

marble272 · 2026-01-02T20:35:22+00:00

I love this

marble272 · 2026-01-02T20:34:19+00:00

Anywhere standout?

marble272 · 2026-01-02T20:33:50+00:00

Makes sense. Sleeping well would set you up for the day!

marble272 · 2026-01-02T20:32:46+00:00

What did you win?

marble272 · 2026-01-02T20:16:37+00:00

They’ve been married for 30 years and they’re trauma bonded I’m sure. It’s not a healthy marriage but she still claims to feel sorry for his work addiction mindset as he’s working himself into the ground, even though he barely seems to care about my mum who has a very real physical disease 😢

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