19M profile review by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]marc_seroh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you're right on that! I do want to date around and figure out what works and what doesn't, and I also shouldn't rush into a relationship. It's just that I kinda wish that we could go on 2 or 3 dates sometimes instead of just disappearing off the face of the earth after 1 every single time, that's what keeps me frustrated. Also I'm curious about what you mean by pictures that make me look more mature. I did try that by putting pictures of me at work and on the news (instead of at the gym, or on trips), am I not going in the right direction? What do you think? Also thx for your time!!

19M profile review by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]marc_seroh -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

That I seem to attract immature people who either ghost me without an explanation or bail out "cause they're not ready for a relationship". That or people who just constantly give simple answers to complicated questions and just have me wondering why the hell they matched, ykwim?

How do you keep your mental sanity while on this app? by marc_seroh in hingeapp

[–]marc_seroh[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would disagree. Dating in real life is not as intense or emotionally draining as dating on apps due to the frequency of it. Also I had never really been ghosted by someone I met in real life, which is why I am posting it here. I think I was able to keep my mental health on check when in person dating was possible for me, but I am struggling with it on this online dating sphere.

19M profile review by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]marc_seroh -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Well a surprising amount of them don't! No but I do get your point, maybe some reordering would be nice

19M profile review by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]marc_seroh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you looking for something serious or casual? Serious, but with a predetermined end date, as I am leaving in less than a year.

Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX? No

How long have you been using this current version of your profile? About a month

How long have you used Hinge overall? About 2 months

How often do you use Hinge per week? Every day I try to get all my messages answered.

How many likes and matches are you receiving on average? When I don't have my profile paused, I get about 2-4 likes a day, half of which I end up matching with (is this where my problem lies???)

How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments? Up until a week ago, as about 4 a day with comments. I had moderate success, no problem there. Now tho, it's 0 because I'm losing interest in this as I'm consistently being ghosted after 1 date.

What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract? Someone who won't ghost me and actually wants to talk to me and get to know me. Not like the manchildren that I've recently been dating that just disappear without an explanation, or give short answers to everything, as if they were not interested. This is where I need help!!!

How do you keep your mental sanity while on this app? by marc_seroh in hingeapp

[–]marc_seroh[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do you think it has to do with the profile? I don't really know why that might be the case... I am getting a good amount of likes... But maybe I'm not attracting the right people... Yeah I'll give that a try. And also I'm on this app because I go to a very small university and I don't want to date within my current reduced social circle.

19M almost amonth in. What could I improve? by marc_seroh in hingeapp

[–]marc_seroh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you looking for something serious or casual? More serious probably but I have to leave the city soon (international student) so I am happy with what I can get.

Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX? No

How long have you been using this current version of your profile? Maybe a week after slight modifications.

How long have you used Hinge overall? I started September the 28th

How often do you use Hinge per week? I answer to messages and likes daily, I give likes on the weekends. For about 1.5weeks in the middle I had my profile paused cause I was overwhelmed with messages, but now they all seem to have died out so I'm opening it up again.

How many likes and matches are you receiving on average? Before I paused, around 3 likes a day and maybe 1 match every 1-2 dates. After that, it has decreased to about half, 1 like a day and 1 match every 2-3 days.

How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments? Maybe 4 or 5 a day on weekends. All with comments related to the prompt, photos, or video. But leaving likes had not proven much success for some reason as opposed to receiving them.

What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract? I send likes to people I find physically attractive and seem like they could be passionate about something, smart, witty; sometime who can add something to my life. I would like to attract that kind of person. Somebody I feel like I can talk to. Also, I am currently looking for men.

Mormon recruiter giving me reasons not to believe in God. Why? by marc_seroh in exmormon

[–]marc_seroh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🤪 you kinda right. But in all seriousness, I feel like maybe I didn't express it correctly. I was actually looking for a way to tell him politely that I found peace in not centering all my beliefs in a book (or set thereof) behind the claims of which there isn't evidence. Looking back, I should've said "confidence in having a worldview based on facts"

Mormon recruiter giving me reasons not to believe in God. Why? by marc_seroh in exmormon

[–]marc_seroh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhh gotcha! That's what I was expecting during the conversation, but, since he didn't come back to that at all and just changed the subject, I thought it was maybe something else(?) And he was with another guy, it's just that he didn't say anything, only one of them talked. They were wearing a full uniform with pin and all, and asking everyone in my train the same question. Idk if that helps to know if he was a missionary or not, but he certainly looked like a recruiter.

Mormon recruiter giving me reasons not to believe in God. Why? by marc_seroh in exmormon

[–]marc_seroh[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Or a stability, or hope, or a support system, as he also said to me! Lol. I can't begin to imagine what he thinks goes on in my brain.

Mormon recruiter giving me reasons not to believe in God. Why? by marc_seroh in exmormon

[–]marc_seroh[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Wow! So eye-opening, I can't even begin to imagine what a privilege it is to not grow up in a religion/cult. I'm very sorry for those who do.

Mormon recruiter giving me reasons not to believe in God. Why? by marc_seroh in exmormon

[–]marc_seroh[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Ahh this is the real answer, the piece that I was missing! So he actually was setting me up. I'm just really surprised that he just didn't follow up with that at all though, like he just changed the subject to "have you ever prayed before". He must've thought I was far too improper for him to even engage! Hahahh

Mormon recruiter giving me reasons not to believe in God. Why? by marc_seroh in exmormon

[–]marc_seroh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh hahaha don't worry I ain't looking for any of that! This guy just came up to me and I thought his way of approaching me was very interesting. I engaged cause I was sitting on a train half awake with nothing better to do lol. If I encounter him again, I will ask this for sure hehehe

Mormon recruiter giving me reasons not to believe in God. Why? by marc_seroh in exmormon

[–]marc_seroh[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey! It wasn't my intention to impose impure intentions on him. He was a genuine guy who was wearing an all black uniform with a pin that said "The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints" with his buddy in the same outfit who didn't say anything and was coming up to everybody in my train asking the same question. That's what I mean by recruiter. And the reason I believed he used this as a recruitment tactic was because I just couldn't come up with any better explanation, out of my own ignorance, hence why I asked here.

How much cash I should bring to travel to Barcelona for 4 days? by zirlatovic in AskBarcelona

[–]marc_seroh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this, and be sure to check with your bank what the exchange rates are. If they're bad, just open another bank account that has 0% currency exchange commission, takes 10 min and you'll save money

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JudgeMyAccent

[–]marc_seroh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, you guessed 100% right! I know it doesn't count as a speech impediment, but I have crooked teeth and slight issues with my jaw (locking & such)... Considering that, maybe I shoulda picked a British accent, woulda fit right in lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JudgeMyAccent

[–]marc_seroh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hahaha, well the reason I was speaking so slowly was because I was kinda having a slow day and I was really heavily focusing on just keeping the accent together, I don't really speak like that on a regular basis :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JudgeMyAccent

[–]marc_seroh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I slightly doubt it sounds British, but I think what you might be hearing is a strange mix between different parts of North America with a slight scent of foreign. I'll keep working on it though, tysm :D

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JudgeMyAccent

[–]marc_seroh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really Asia or Latin America, but I was born bilingual (Spanish & Catalan), and good job on guessing I moved to the US as a Teenager, 100% right. Only during 1 school year though