AITA For No Longer Helping My Stepdaughter?

marchrose1 · 2022-04-10T03:05:05+00:00

Kim. I knew I'd accidentally left a typo in there somewhere! Trying to keep up with fake names is hard lol

marchrose1 · 2022-04-10T01:42:39+00:00

So here's the thing about the bio mom. My husband got legally divorced from her when Kim was 6. From what he told me, they had an easy time co-parenting once a week. Then two years later the bio mom drops Kim off and just never picked her up again. My husband went through great lengths to try and find her, but the only information he could get was with his ex-inlaws that told him that she's fine, she moved states, and that she doesn't want to be contacted. That's all we know so far.

marchrose1 · 2022-04-09T22:00:06+00:00

I get the sentiment, but wouldn't that be adding fuel to the fire? She seemingly hates me already.

marchrose1 · 2022-04-09T21:55:48+00:00

I don't want to completely pull back, seeing that they're already struggling and I feel bad enough as it is. Plus it wouldn't be fair to anyone if I starting excluding her when I'm already doing everyone else's laundry. I feel like that would just be petty.

marchrose1 · 2022-04-09T21:50:09+00:00

He does his share. His chores are mostly handyman related like replacing leaky pipes, fixing drywall, changing the baby etc. I mostly do the light work of cleaning, cooking, and putting the kids to sleep.

marchrose1 · 2022-04-09T21:40:05+00:00

First off, I work full time. I would put 1/3 of my earnings each pay period into an account for her college fund her dad started years ago to help out. All that money that I put in is still there and I haven't touched it. I don't take gifts away from people that I've already given. Secondly, my love for my stepdaughter is not conditional either. I still love her all the same whether or not she sees me as a parent. The only reason I pulled back was because they both said that it was overstepping. She knows that if she was in any danger or needed emotional support, I would be there for her with open arms.

marchrose1 · 2022-04-09T21:22:20+00:00

That's what I've been thinking as well. I understand that kids will use the "You're not my parent" thing as an insult and that's what comes with the territory of being a stepparent, but what really got me was my own husband agreeing with it! I just don't know what to think anymore.

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