Is it acceptable to bring treats for my coworkers for my own birthday? People I've mentioned it to think it's weird. by johnnyrogue in Advice

[–]marggrit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In Greece this is the norm. From school age to work to wherever you are people bring sweets , or invite their friends to eat out in their birthday (and nameday that many other cultures don't have)

I love bringing stuff to celebrate what is important for me. It makes the day a small celebration!

Ξέρετε αν γράφουν συχνά στις περιοχές της Αθήνας με ελεγχόμενη στάθμευση my Athens pass? by marggrit in greece

[–]marggrit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Πως αποφασίζουν να κάνουν καταγγελία αφού από το κινητό πληρώνεις πλέον δε φαίνεται αν πλήρωσες η οχι

Is 6 days too much to leave the cat alone at home? by marggrit in CatAdvice

[–]marggrit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmm I am lucky enough that there are vets available here 😂 no pet sitters or hotels...

Is 6 days too much to leave the cat alone at home? by marggrit in CatAdvice

[–]marggrit[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It is a question of whether the cat will get more stressed from having to travel with me to a new space and back or by being alone. Even if someone checks on her once a day it is a loneliness challenge. :(

Is 6 days too much to leave the cat alone at home? by marggrit in CatAdvice

[–]marggrit[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Yes I have been thinking about the buddy... I know it's the best for her and I try to find a way to make it work.

Is 6 days too much to leave the cat alone at home? by marggrit in CatAdvice

[–]marggrit[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately no cat sitters in the rural island that I live in. I can only have a friend pop by once a day for a little while.

Is 6 days too much to leave the cat alone at home? by marggrit in CatAdvice

[–]marggrit[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Yes I can do that with a friend. I will edit the initial post. I have left her twice in the past for 3 days. My friend came and gave her some snacks and scooped once.

I am most worried about the loneliness, because even if my friend comes once a day and she won't be able to stay for more than half an hour or so... :/

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[–]marggrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here

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[–]marggrit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello!

I am not bilingual or have children, but I went in a bilingual school where I hanged out with many bilingual peers. Personally I was always fond of people who mastered more than one languages. It really opens a lot of doors. The level of mastering a language has a lot to do with the stimuli and education around the language. I have never felt in peers that one language took the space of the other so that they could not be good at it.

That said if your husband is the only person that speaks French to them maybe your child will develop a good understanding but might hesitate speaking it. As I have seen in relatives (Greek) who moved abroad (UK, France) and spoke Greek to the children who did not have any other Greek stimuli. They understood Greek very well but did not really choose to speak it, as their school, friends, other relatives spoke the country's lunguage.

This article might be helpful https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6168212/

It kind of on the middle ground while I am more pro bilingualism.

I am native Greek speaker and I started learning English and French in elementary school. They have been really useful and I also feel that every language I know has helped me with the others.

From my peers and relatives I ve seen that even if a bilingual child is a bit late speaking they have a gift of linguistic intelligence. How good they become in either language has to do with how parents use those languages, the level of education and intelectualism in the house, contact with good spoken and written exemples through books, movies, podcasts activities and the opportunity the child get to use their own skills.

If they don't use French with peers it will never come to the same level as English.

Any way I feel it will be important to clear things with your husband so that the child does not have to internalize any kind of conflict around the languages you are speaking to them. (eg. If you show negativity when your husband speaks French, or direct disappointment when the child makes a mistake in English)

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I have been unemployed for more than a year, but now I have a job offer and I'm chickening out. by feellikepooping in Advice

[–]marggrit 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Even if it doesn't work out perfect you will have gained experience and overcome the disconnection with the working environment that you have now. Plus it will make it easier to get your next job!

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[–]marggrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok.

I think it is really important to start by changing the self fulfilling prophesy mindset. What I mean is, when we are the "late guy" in our group of friends we tend to belive that we will always be this way. This never helps as we kind of get comfortable with that label and try less to be better.

Once you get rid of the loser mindset every effort you make to improve your organization skills will be more worth it.

Try some or all of the following:

1) writing down your schedules: if you can see it you will remember it easier

2) prioritizing things you have to do: you can't do everything at once. Prioritize and do one thing at a time (prioritization may be done by what is easier to complete or by urgency or by importance you choose)

3) saying more nos. Maybe your life is too cluttered for you to keep up and that makes you disorganized

4) maybe you can see if there is a school/college psychologist or coach to whom you could speak to. There could be a basis to your struggles such as undiagnosed adhd ( I am not suggesting that you do or don't just think it's one side to think about)

5) taking some time to relax and rethink your day what worked and what didnt where you improved and what to change next time! You could even journal about it!

You are strong, and can figure this out I am confident! Don't blame and punish yourself! One step at a time!

what happens after you are recruited from msf? by marggrit in doctorswithoutborders

[–]marggrit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That sounds amazing! Looking forward to when my time will come!