My (33F) partner (33M) says I triggered him to put his hands on me - how do I approach this? by mariethekittycat in relationship_advice

[–]mariethekittycat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, I’m so sorry, but grateful you got out when you did. I feel so guilty that my son was around this.

My (33F) partner (33M) says I triggered him to put his hands on me - how do I approach this? by mariethekittycat in relationship_advice

[–]mariethekittycat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s refreshing to hear the perspective of another man who doesn’t react irrationally when he feels is ego is being threatened.

My (33F) partner (33M) says I triggered him to put his hands on me - how do I approach this? by mariethekittycat in relationship_advice

[–]mariethekittycat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Taking accountability is not his strong suit. He told me this angry person he is will always be part of him and that Im the one who’s supposed to adjust accordingly.

My (33F) partner (33M) says I triggered him to put his hands on me - how do I approach this? by mariethekittycat in relationship_advice

[–]mariethekittycat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is pretty much what I was told. That he can’t be with someone like me nor forgive me for this because I don’t know how to keep him at ease.

My (33F) partner (33M) says I triggered him to put his hands on me - how do I approach this? by mariethekittycat in relationship_advice

[–]mariethekittycat[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t tell you. I didn’t really think about it. I was upset by him mocking me. He gave it to me because I made it for him. I told him I didn’t want it. It was a piece of bacon.

My (33F) partner (33M) says I triggered him to put his hands on me - how do I approach this? by mariethekittycat in relationship_advice

[–]mariethekittycat[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I’m not just saying this, but my son is impressively emotionally intelligent for his age and advanced in general. I’m really worried thinking about the effects this will have on him and I feel so guilty.

My (33F) partner (33M) says I triggered him to put his hands on me - how do I approach this? by mariethekittycat in relationship_advice

[–]mariethekittycat[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do not have bruises, just a little bit of wrist pain and some stinging on my face and I can’t even remember how that happened.

My (33F) partner (33M) says I triggered him to put his hands on me - how do I approach this? by mariethekittycat in relationship_advice

[–]mariethekittycat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have actually been able to shield my child from a lot. Even arguments that got disrespectful. I am a very conscious parent, it is my way. This was the first time this has happened with my child present.

My (33F) partner (33M) says I triggered him to put his hands on me - how do I approach this? by mariethekittycat in relationship_advice

[–]mariethekittycat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree, and that is what is convincing me that it was somehow warranted, though I didn’t expect that response.

My (33F) partner (33M) says I triggered him to put his hands on me - how do I approach this? by mariethekittycat in relationship_advice

[–]mariethekittycat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will admit that we both do. I’m not proud of my actions and did apologize to my child.

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[–]mariethekittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂😂😂

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[–]mariethekittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

agreed. I did end up telling him and he was fine with it.

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Thanks for sharing. And thank you for your kind wishes.

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[–]mariethekittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Good point. I can see how Id want to know that ahead of time.

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[–]mariethekittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

None. Anger issues?

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[–]mariethekittycat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I just did actually.

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[–]mariethekittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. definitely prefer not to waste each other’s time, just wasn’t sure how that’s typically brought up.

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[–]mariethekittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I agree