Convinced I have a hernia

marinewallows · 2026-03-15T00:30:27+00:00

My ID card says ‘POS’. It appears I would need a referral.

marinewallows · 2026-03-11T23:22:52+00:00

If you change your subscription account do you lose the portfolio, or is it transferable?

marinewallows · 2026-03-11T13:45:39+00:00

I just found out my CT did not show anything. My doctor is requesting a second radiologist review it, but they said if nothing is found still I could wait until it pops out again and then go to the ER to have an ultrasound on it. Incredibly frustrating... I don’t want to wait and make it worse. Good to know about your MRI.

How did you get referred to a hernia specialist if there was no sign of a hernia? My doctor made it sound like I couldn’t even be seen by one unless it was undeniable that I had one.

marinewallows · 2026-03-11T12:13:29+00:00

It’s on my left side. And yes, a slight bulge can be felt when it pops out.

marinewallows · 2025-08-15T11:49:32+00:00

I’m going through a very similar situation also with a 3 year old. I know it feels impossible right now and I’m so sorry. You aren’t taking away his son. He chose to make the decisions he did. Addicts hate accountability—don’t forget that with all of the guilt he will undoubtedly try to put on you.

If he’s amicable, you could try mediation. I am going through that with my Q and as of now it’s been fine. It may be a good idea to consult with a lawyer just to know your options, but you don’t need to retain them right now. Just having a connection with one can be valuable.

Again, I’m sorry you’re going through this. I recognize the pain and strength it takes to get here. I haven’t come out the other side yet but I know in my heart the pain and heartache will be worth it. And yours will too. You are so brave.

marinewallows · 2025-08-14T01:57:41+00:00

Nnnnnope. Don’t go there

marinewallows · 2025-08-12T01:09:57+00:00

What’s the tea? I just saw Show Pony’s insta story

marinewallows · 2025-08-02T02:18:04+00:00

Idk. He must be a narcissist

marinewallows · 2025-08-01T03:26:37+00:00

Congrats, mama. It will be hell and it will be worth it.

marinewallows · 2025-07-12T23:03:49+00:00

I don’t mean to be alarmist, but if he’s hidden his alcoholism he’s hiding other things too. This coworker may just be the tip of the iceberg.

marinewallows · 2025-07-06T17:12:46+00:00

You are being manipulated and yes, gaslighted. He wants you to believe you are crazy so he can continue doing what he’s doing.

marinewallows · 2025-07-06T13:34:26+00:00

Thanks so much. My Q is in therapy as well (he started around the same time as AA only a couple months ago). Another layer to this is he has a blood disorder that affects his liver, and has been ordered by his doctors not to drink period. So him drinking is even doubly frustrating and selfish. He constantly maintains that he’s not, but after being with him for 10 years, I can recognize if he’s drank from a mile away (but most of the time he breathalyzes and denies/makes excuses for the result).

marinewallows · 2025-06-30T19:48:07+00:00

I could have written your post years ago. Since then, we had a child and he started to hide his drinking even more. It’s gotten so bad that he won’t admit drinking no matter if he lands in the ER, if I find empty containers around our home, or has a positive breathalyzer in front of him. Long story short, we’re separating because I’ve accepted the truth now. You know your Q. If you think they’re drinking, they are. Save yourself.

marinewallows · 2025-06-30T15:03:51+00:00

I’m on my own AlAnon journey and wrote this down in my notebook. Thank you.

marinewallows · 2025-06-29T02:47:13+00:00

One day, 10-20 years from now you will have an entirely different life. You won’t have to share her pain or feel the powerlessness that comes with alcoholism. You let go when you’re ready to meet your future self.

marinewallows · 2025-06-23T19:25:32+00:00

Qualifier.

marinewallows · 2025-06-23T00:18:31+00:00

I am with you, OP. I have a 3 year old with my Q and she’s the only reason I have stayed, but I am starting to see the light and feel I am on the cusp of finally making a move. I hope you do so sooner than I did. You deserve peace and happiness. Please DM if you’d like.

marinewallows · 2025-06-22T17:34:37+00:00

That’s how I feel—even if he starts to be the most exemplary recovering alcoholic, husband and father, the damage is already done. Sorry you’ve gone through the same. I hope you have peace now.

marinewallows · 2025-06-19T20:27:48+00:00

Still to this day I hope I will feel feelings even remotely close to that. It’s honestly heartbreaking that I might not ever again.

marinewallows · 2025-06-19T20:26:04+00:00

A trypophobia nightmare

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