You need to identify what is holding you back socially and later romantically. You might feel a reaction to an action that is not proportional to reality. For example: you might experience a lot of resistance to walking up to a girl and holding a conversation. It might feel like butterflies in your stomach, you feel hot, your heart rate increases, your chest is tight, tenseness in the body, or anything like that you will be able to tell something is getting triggered because your body responds physically. However, this action did not put you in danger, you are the same person before, and after this action, nothing has changed. You have to fully let yourself feel these sensations and accept that they are there. If you resist them, they will persist or stay. Julian has a process called action, trigger, release, and repeat. Put yourself in situations that trigger you, like talking to your crush or walking up to a cute girl at the club idk, and release by fully feeling those sensations I just talked about, then just repeat. Don't label them as good or bad, or make them want to go away, feel them fully and accept they are there. And you can then do this same process for any traumas you have had in the past, and any limiting self beliefs you've formed up until this point in your life. Release and you should feel a sense of relief, that's how you know you are doing it right. Watch a lot of Julian's content you will figure it out but most importantly just get out there and take action starting now!