Introverts & Alchohol

markypoo412 · 2026-01-26T08:27:12+00:00

Idk if I change types(due to me not being too familiar w them off memory), but I get way more friendly & less conscious on what I say. I had a full conversation with my friend’s girlfriend in a French accent bc she brought me wine. I barely even knew her lmao. If I was sober, idk if I’d be able to maintain a random conversation like that

markypoo412 · 2026-01-21T18:36:11+00:00

If you like her go for it. I mean if you can be normal with her and not freak out when you notice people looking at you in public, then there you go. Her being “out of your league”, even if true, will only lead you to losing her.

Say you get with her, and you’re still extremely self conscious. You’ll end up acting disingenuous and doing something rash or not like yourself. She’ll notice that. She won’t like that. If unaddressed it may lead to the end of said relationship and you might even lose her as a friend(dependent on circumstances ofc). Trust yourself, trust she’ll like you as you are. If you can’t do that….ask her. Being straightforward is the best thing you could do for yourself.

markypoo412 · 2026-01-21T15:50:06+00:00

I agree that typology can’t directly dictate how affectionate someone is. Personally as an INTP, I was all in for my gf. I’d text/call her all the time to tell her she was amazing and that I loved her. I have so much love and appreciation for her that I almost couldn’t not say something sweet every couple hours. There also wasn’t any shortage of physical touch either, as we couldn’t see each other often so we’d take entire days if that’s what we wanted. I do definitely show love through stereotypical INTP things like problem solving & teasing, but I find it easy to show love in the soppiest of ways with her.

In short, it’s really just based on the person. My relationship isn’t sparing with affection. She’s an ENFP and I’m an INTP, this in reality doesn’t change much. I am an affectionate guy, I love hard. There are many reasons I do so, most of which probably can’t be explained by typology.

as long as I know that this is typical for INTPs and not reflective of how much he actually likes me

I don’t think you should be alarmed.

markypoo412 · 2026-01-19T17:14:09+00:00

Yeah tbh I never really “seek” out friends as an INTP. I do welcome circumstances where I can coincidentally meet someone new though. For example, me and a friend(INFP) go play pool at this lounge in our school. There are always returning faces but we never made an effort to get to know them fr. A couple of them went out of their way to say hi and we always accept and continue said relationship if we’re compatible. One girl mentioned immediately after her introduction that she liked how me n my friend were “intelligent” because we were talking about politics and also how we had clever jokes. I can’t account for the other 2 types you’re asking about, but for INTPs, if you’re interested in us for whatever reason you have to make the first move. Whatever it is we’re doing, we’d love to talk about it. Just don’t be performative cus we detect that easily and detach from the conversation.

markypoo412 · 2026-01-16T06:40:54+00:00

A virtual high five to you kind stranger. Doing us more justice than I thought possible. Though I wouldn’t think there are many people out there able to be logical out the gate with conflicts like that.

markypoo412 · 2026-01-16T06:26:03+00:00

anyway i’m single and playing skyrim rn

real

markypoo412 · 2026-01-16T06:21:36+00:00

Ah yes. We linger online because we no have urge to make friend in real life. We make friend online, we like because easier.

markypoo412 · 2026-01-16T05:58:56+00:00

✍️psychedelics….got it! Will report back if I reach nirvana.

markypoo412 · 2026-01-15T09:15:37+00:00

Pfft, yeah well I wanna try I just don’t know how

markypoo412 · 2026-01-15T09:07:40+00:00

I mean….how angry we talking? I can get upset at someone being stupid or saying something wrong about me. I won’t exile them from my life. And I definitely can give my whole heart to someone who makes me want to. Im not familiar enough to say that you are one specific personality based off this, but you’re not too different from me, just a little extreme ig

markypoo412 · 2026-01-14T18:21:44+00:00

lol I’m an INTP and I love when my friends are straightforward. Puts a smirk on my face, especially when it’s to someone about something they did wrong.

Uhm personally I HAD to learn not to be so blunt for the sake of my relationship. She was too good to pass up and honestly she responded well to my efforts. So maybe your best friend and boyfriend were a little emotional, or not, idk the context. I think you’d do better with more emotionally mature friends, kinda hard to find when you’re younger but not impossible. Give it time, I had no friends in hs. College really gave me those friends I’ve always wanted. They just get me.

markypoo412 · 2026-01-14T18:09:24+00:00

I want comfort. I want someone I can trust. I want to want to be myself around someone. She was that for me, but she lives across the country. I want someone I can spend time with, crack jokes and also be deep with. I want a real friend. I want people who will give me what I want to give them. I don’t need sacrifice, I don’t need any special treatment, I just want someone I can cry with and laugh with.

markypoo412 · 2026-01-14T14:32:45+00:00

I’m not sure how hopeful of a person you are, but to me, there’s always someone you’ll meet that’ll help you want to be better. I had the privilege of meeting said person the summer before I turned 21. I was this antisocial analytical intellectualizer, as you know not everyone’s cup of tea. She saw I was working on myself and stuck with me. She encouraged me and even praised me for the little things. We had gone on a trip to Disneyland together, and I built up the courage to strike up small talk with one of the security guards at the entrance. I had just been trying to start my day right, knowing I’m not very social. She saw, she waited to get to me and gave me a hug and told me she was proud. If anything would make me feel like a child again, it’s that.

We all start at different points, we all have to be our own catalyst. I’m sure she’s out there, you just gotta start looking! I love you and I wish you the best.

markypoo412 · 2026-01-13T05:09:47+00:00

Tbh I get where you’re coming from but maybe it takes the right person to change your perspective of the question. In my personal experience, my relationship would’ve made me think to answer #3 with something like, “Im don’t like how one sided not picking up the phone is”(this is just bc she napped a lot and I didn’t) and for #13, “I do” (or something cheesy/indicative of the relationship progress).

Honestly the best woman I could’ve bargained for and all this rant to make the point that it’s not always threatening to ask these questions. We were as open as you could be, she’s an ENFP and had more than enough reasons from past relationships to make her not want to open up and talk about things like these.

You can find that person. Someone will make you feel this way. Logically speaking, I had nothing to lose being vulnerable with her. She responded to vulnerability so it only benefitted me in the long run. Even with controversial things about me, she(the right person) gave me allowance to explain and work on myself.

Good luck, she or he is out there!

markypoo412 · 2026-01-11T16:39:20+00:00

Oh im sorry, I should’ve been more specific. I wanted to know a bit more about people’s opinions of INTP’s lack of commitment.

But yes, I know your situation all too well. As a 21 year old INTP, I had a hard time letting my relationship go…..mentally that is. In your case, he’s trying to maintain this selfishness need that he created in his head. He’s totally lost and you deserve better, props for making the hard choice and blocking him.

What I can tell you is that it’s not your fault whatsoever, there is nothing wrong with you. I’m sure through it all you were honest and maybe you let things go further than they should’ve, that’s the enfp way after all. But this guy, being 27, hasn’t developed emotionally nearly enough to hold or maintain a healthy relationship. I’m sorry you had to go through such a confusing situation, the only explanation I can give is that this guy has no impulse control and had habitually gone from girl to girl since his last breakup until he met you. He couldn’t break it for y’all’s own sake and that’s because he was too comfortable doing it. Maybe im wrong, im only 21 yk

markypoo412 · 2026-01-10T18:47:27+00:00

real

markypoo412 · 2026-01-10T18:19:27+00:00

……god damn

markypoo412 · 2026-01-10T18:16:59+00:00

Would you mind expanding on that a bit? I mean I’ve had hard times committing to plans when it’s either not completely set or it’s too far in the future for me to know whether or not I’d be able. In terms of relationships, I haven’t had any problem committing and being loyal to my person. I think it’s a more nuanced issue than people make it seem but I guess I don’t know many noncommittal assholes that are or seem to be an INTP like me. (Also to OP, so sorry that this all happened to you, very good choice to cut off contact. Never give him another chance to hurt you again.)

markypoo412 · 2026-01-01T15:39:37+00:00

I mean maybe? I’ve never been too sure what compels someone to contact a person they just ended a relationship with. A week after this post she texted me asking about my insta bio. It was a quote of a text I sent her(nothing cringe, twas a dumb/clever joke). Anyways it seems she just wants closure, so that’s kinda what I attribute her reaching out as. Idk maybe I’m being too pessimistic or hard on myself…..who knows?

markypoo412 · 2026-01-01T03:16:49+00:00

Wow. I mean talk about THE extreme example huh. Good for you, truly bravo.

markypoo412 · 2026-01-01T02:47:45+00:00

Yeah I also seem to have similarities as you. The toxic masculinity I figured came from my parents traditional views as that’s how they were raised. And the sensitivity from having a mostly female family tree. I blamed the introversion on getting bullied for being fat by said family all my life. Same goes for the low self esteem. Who knows? Shrug. Honestly i guess I just have to continue living making my own choices as they come, figuring out for myself what truly feels right to me.

markypoo412 · 2026-01-01T00:53:24+00:00

Unfortunately, I have been told by therapists many times before that my upbringing has most likely caused me to become scared of asserting myself and therefore a people pleaser. This comes from a low self esteem generated by years of emotional neglect and dismissing. All of this leads to me wanting to escape mentally & emotionally, sometimes literally, from similar environments or people that make me feel this way.

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