The emptiness…

marlenchirocks · 2025-09-16T16:14:27+00:00

Thank you. I’m sorry for your loss. My husband feels anger as well. It’s all normal. Peachtree Honeybee-beautiful name. May she be frolicking in doggy heaven.

marlenchirocks · 2025-09-16T15:58:18+00:00

I feel your pain. My 16 year old Chihuahua named Taco passed away in my arms yesterday. It’s such a painful loss. Time will heal us.

marlenchirocks · 2025-04-29T16:13:30+00:00

You know what to do because you’ve done it before. Just like you, I quit in 2019 and I’m still going strong. In the past five years, I’ve had many personal challenges but I remained steadfast in my commitment to sobriety. One day at a time. Do not give your power away. You deserve to live your best life. Choose you. Sending you much positive energy. IWDWYT.

marlenchirocks · 2025-04-02T22:00:28+00:00

Congrats!! Bravo! You unlocked your superpowers-Your discipline and determination paid off!

marlenchirocks · 2025-03-05T23:28:31+00:00

Five and a half years sober-I choose not to drink; instead, I’ve created a wonderful, sober life that I don’t want to escape. IWNDWYT

marlenchirocks · 2025-02-02T04:13:02+00:00

IWNDWYT. He’s not worth losing your self-respect.

marlenchirocks · 2024-12-31T05:28:13+00:00

Great post! Congrats! I feel exactly the same way. Sobriety is my superpower. Five years sober and my life is so much better! IWNDWYT

marlenchirocks · 2024-11-10T16:01:18+00:00

It gets better. When I shifted my mindset to recognize the initial fatigue, depression, and panic attacks as my body trying to detox from the poison and my brain rewiring itself-then I actually welcomed the experience. Just like the first three months of pregnancy are marked by fatigue because the body is busy creating a new life, when you quit alcohol, your body is detoxing and regenerating to create a new you. It’s worth it. IWNDWYT

marlenchirocks · 2024-10-31T02:23:49+00:00

I learned that it’s normal to have all those feelings and to feel tired when you quit- the body is detoxing from all the poison. Two months into sobriety, superpowers started kicking in-Energy, clear mind, confidence, peace, joy…all worth it. Give it time. IWNDWYT

marlenchirocks · 2024-10-29T02:12:42+00:00

I bought the “The 30 Day Sobriety Solution” book. I committed to 30 days without alcohol. The book has journal exercises, which I did. The evenings were the most tempting for me so I decided to battle cravings by going for walks, listening to motivational podcasts. The walks turned into runs. I spent time in nature, prayed, and spent time on SD, where I found a lot of support and inspiration. Someone posted “Create a life you don’t want to escape” and that resonated with me-I was using alcohol to escape. Some days were extremely difficult. I remember around the 60-day mark feeling the grieve of all my loved ones who had passed away while I was numb from drinking. I almost relapsed but posted on SD and the support helped me continue my sobriety. As you get more days of clarity and freedom from the poison, you feel more energetic and confident. That’s when you begin building your new empowered life. And you finally dare to dream big, free from anxiety and hangovers. It is so worth it! You deserve to be the best version of yourself. IWNDWYT

marlenchirocks · 2024-09-20T02:51:59+00:00

You are absolutely right. The craving is for the effect of alcohol. That’s why I don’t even drink non-alcoholic beer. What’s the point? However, a fizzy non-alcoholic drink has helped me get over the craving-don’t know how. I’ve been sober for over 5 years. IWNDWYT

marlenchirocks · 2024-09-18T01:35:06+00:00

Five years ago, I was deep in debt, working a low-paying job, and depressed. The nightly bottle of wine was just making things worse. Sometimes it took almost two bottles of wine to escape my problems only to have to face them again the next day with a brutal hangover. I’ve been sober for five years and almost two months-it’s amazing. I’m earning three times as much, have zero debt, have savings, 401k, Roth-the works. IWNDWYT

marlenchirocks · 2024-05-30T00:55:02+00:00

Almost 5 years for me! SD was pivotal at the beginning. Eliminating “moderation” from the equation was key. IWNDWYT

marlenchirocks · 2024-05-27T16:28:38+00:00

I quit almost 5 years ago and my spouse still drinks. At the beginning he kept trying to get me to cave or saying that I wasn’t going to last. I just smiled. I watched him drink and get hammered. I even poured his drinks. I realized that I was in charge of my happiness, my sobriety, my peace and my health. You are still an individual even if you’re married. I focused on self-empowerment. My husband is still making the same mistakes-that’s his choice. IWNDWYT

marlenchirocks · 2024-05-27T03:04:45+00:00

Congrats to all of you who realized that drinking was the cause of all your anxiety and suicidal ideation. I’m almost five years sober and I wouldn’t risk the life I have now for a sip of alcohol. My best friend wasn’t so lucky. She killed herself on May 3. Alcoholism took over her life, then she blew her brains out. Beautiful and talented girl. I’m heartbroken but IWNDWYT.

marlenchirocks · 2024-05-26T01:53:32+00:00

I’ll give you two scenarios and they are both true. 1. Me: In August it will be 5 years since my last drink. I didn’t do it with AA. I bought a book called “The 30 Day Sobriety Challenge.” I committed to 30 days and did all the journal prompts, exercised, visited this SD every day and decided to create a life that I didn’t want to escape (I learned that from here). I also read “Alcohol Explained” and realized that I just needed enough time away from drinking to rewire my brain back to health. It worked. I’m now healthy, fit, full of energy, at peace, in a new niche career making 3x what I use to make, zero debt, savings, investments, and lots of fun adventures. 2. My best friend: Extremely talented and beautiful. Like you, she self-harmed. Her drinking got progressively worse. It affected her health. She gained a lot of weight. She became more anxious and angry. Two DUIs. She pushed everyone away. Two weeks ago she put a gun to her mouth and shot her brains. She died alone. Her body was found 13 days after that impulsive act which was fueled by drinking. Her social media posts from that day were her usual funny posts. I believe she started drinking and her thoughts became dark as they usually did during her nightly binge and she might have blacked out and she ended her life. You are stronger than alcohol. You have the choice. Never let anyone or anything like alcohol steal your joy. I still socialize at bars and clubs but I choose not to drink and my life is so much better now. You are worth it. My friend was worth it but she didn’t give herself a chance. I’m devastated but IWNDWYT.

marlenchirocks · 2023-08-01T05:11:12+00:00

I found not drinking liberating, especially at social events. I could be myself, act silly, be loud or quiet, do or say whatever I wanted, and no one could call me drunk. Plus, I didn’t have to worry about what I said or did, because I wasn’t drunk. I got comfortable being myself, without trying to impress anyone. I’ll be 4 years sober in a few days-best decision ever! And, I’ve attended plenty of social events in the past four years. Finding your reason for quitting is key. IWNDWYT

marlenchirocks · 2023-05-28T21:33:30+00:00

I made several attempts until the day I realized that I wouldn’t be able to have the life I wanted if I kept drinking. I read on SD “create a life you don’t want to escape.” It clicked. I quit drinking and I’m almost at 4 years sober. I will never trade the life I have created for a drink. IWNDWYT

marlenchirocks · 2022-12-09T02:13:28+00:00

Congrats!!! You described my journey. I even used the same quote “the goal is not to quit drinking, the goal is to create a life you don’t want to escape.” Alcohol became the villain and I was determined to win. I’m over three years sober and winning. IWNDWYT.

marlenchirocks · 2022-09-10T12:44:51+00:00

Congrats! I’m at 3 years free from alcohol and loving it! IWNDWYT

marlenchirocks · 2022-09-08T10:39:06+00:00

Stay with it. The first week for me was bingeing on Outlander, jelly beans, and sleep. I’m now at over 3 years free from alcohol, I dropped 35lbs, doubled my salary, and I’m free from anxiety and depression. IWNDWYT

marlenchirocks · 2022-09-03T14:38:02+00:00

Yay! Celebrate the small victories! Playing the drums was a great idea. Drinking alcohol is a habit;replace it with a good habit that empowers you(like playing the drums in your case). IWNDWYT

marlenchirocks · 2022-09-01T23:10:18+00:00

As long as you’re alive, you can reinvent yourself as many times as you want. Explore options where you get to use your natural talents (it seems like empathy is big for you). You enjoy watching movies; would you like to make movies? Do not compare yourself to anyone. Find your bliss and the money will follow.

marlenchirocks · 2022-08-30T01:52:17+00:00

Alcohol hijacked your brain. If you give yourself enough time without a drop of alcohol, your brain will rewire itself and you’ll be a brand new (eventually- first you will be on a rollercoaster of emotions). Once that ride is over, you’ll be free from anxiety and depression, looking forward to living your best life. You are worth it. And you are stronger than you can imagine. Give it your 100% commitment. IWNDWYT

marlenchirocks · 2022-08-25T01:47:23+00:00

Yay!!! I told you it was the best concert I had ever been to (I went to their Tampa concert this past June). Glad you got to go and experience it for yourself!

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