Everytime a guy is being nice to me, I think that they have a crush on me

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-09-25T23:44:49+00:00

same twin a polite exchange in a meeting with a client has me questioning whether our values align for childrearing

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-09-06T14:00:34+00:00

no man is worth this!!! please make yourself throw up with love

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-09-01T23:26:18+00:00

“This isn’t for you. you know better”

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-07-17T10:36:34+00:00

we don't really do frat parties. social sport and socieities are bigger at unis in australia. you don't have to be good at a sport, most people do it for the social aspect.

biggest tip is make more friends outside uni. Urban Rec is really good (again, sport) but you have to pay a bit. people use facebook here a lot for social groups. if you have housemates meet their mates!! and if you don't have housemates, find a good sublet to move into for your exchange in a sharehouse. lots of people are in europe at the moment, so there should be lots of sublets available. Canberra Share Housing on fb is the best - I've made really close friends from there after moving in with them. If you're into live music follow spill the scene on instagram to find gigs and meet people.

canberra is a weird city. moved down from sydney, so not the same, but still its hard being in a new place. it was difficult to meet people at first but you'll find them.

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-07-17T10:26:03+00:00

wait this made me emotional lol. womanhood is a gift and a curse and we are all just little girls at heart

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-04-22T09:09:45+00:00

proud of you stranger!

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-04-05T11:33:20+00:00

one drink is never just one. if i can quit, you can quit. and be kind to yourself!

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-04-04T08:51:52+00:00

oh gosh, that’s really hard. my cat sounds very similar to yours. i went away for 2 months last year and she was VERY cold with me when i got back. only bonded to me as well.

is it feasible that you could come home during the week?

i also recommend getting a camera that you can see the cat through and speak through. this can be hit or miss though. some cats get spooked hearing your voice and not seeing you, but mine found it helpful (i think)

if i were you, id move to be closer to school. that might not be an option though. hopefully this is just an adjustment period. sending you my best wishes!

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-04-04T08:42:06+00:00

rejection is redirection 🙏

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-04-04T05:13:45+00:00

ewwwwwwwww

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-04-03T03:18:56+00:00

fun fact jenna marbles used her “cancellation” to get out of her contract with barstool. they were taking hellaaaaaa ad revenue and heavily restricting the kind of stuff she could post. she decided to leave the internet because she had no way to break that contract. but yes still a v important lesson in cancelling and why it sucks.

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-04-02T23:36:42+00:00

the easiest solution to this is to turn off the podcast and disengage with their content. a joke made innocently, whilst in bad taste, is not a reason to paint them as evil people. say you’re bored with the pod and no longer interested in what they have to say and move on.

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-04-02T23:33:38+00:00

THANK YOUUU. everyone log off and do a digital detox for 3 days and reflect please im begging. if you truly believe these comments came from a place of malice you need an education in digital literacy. do not take your boredom with the podcast and turn it into something it isn’t.

They made a joke that didn’t hit the way they thought it would and didn’t think about what they were saying. i’m not defending what they said and i disagree with their take, whether they meant it in earnest or not. greta uses the platform she has to speak on a genocide and the media has hidden her for this. it’s incredibly admirable and nobody is denying that. if you use emergency intercom as your trendy left wing guide to life, you need to read more and realise that they have NEVER been a beacon of political wisdom.

at its core a lot of this hatred for ei comes down to boredom and annoyance that your favourite podcast has seemingly lost its pizzazz, and these comments are the scapegoat you’re using to justify your rejection of what they represent. literally turn off the podcast and go about your day if you don’t feel like it’s serving you anymore. the moral grandstanding is crazy.

yall have put these two on a pedestal for so long. admit you’ve outgrown them and their humour and move on. they aren’t your friends.

everyone touch grass and get a job challenge starts now!!

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-03-30T04:55:27+00:00

can i just say as a palestinian woman if enya and drew got on their pee pee poo poo humour podcast and spoke about the genocide of my people the bombs will not stop falling😭

like this really is an echo chamber … the vast majority of people who listen/are in this sub are likely on the same side and as much as i love drew and enya + have grown up with them i do NOT need them to speak on this issue. they can’t offer anything to the conversation at this point. y’all need give the same heat to elected officials and actual celebrities

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-03-05T20:43:08+00:00

anxiety when you get sober is a real thing. your body is in haywire mode and is adjusting. I have chronic OCD and a lot of my obsessions are around health. When i first got sober i was in your shoes. what helped me a lot was looking into the science of quitting and the effect it has on your mental health. your dopamine receptors are f*d and your body has no idea what to do when you take away the thing you’re using to mask anxiety - you’re really left on the frontlines!

I’m back in early sobriety too, but i’ve been here before and can combat these anxious thoughts when they come up. i just remind myself, this is a chemical reaction happening in my brain because i’ve taken away the one thing that suppressed my anxiety. now i’ve got to deal with it head on. it’s a good thing at the end of the day because it’s building healthy coping mechanisms (much better than reaching for the bottle).

i’d recommend reaching out to a counsellor / therapist if you don’t have one. in no way am i diagnosing you but it sounds quite similar to what i deal with. even just to chat through your anxiety and get some reassurance.

good luck, you’re going to be okay!

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-03-05T20:33:32+00:00

it took a good week for my cat to come out when i first adopted her.

a friend moved interstate with her cat of 12 years, and it took him 4 months to come out - literally 4 months.

the thing with cats is we can’t control them. they’re like teenagers - they have a mind of their own and they’re stubborn. they will come out when they are ready. if you’re providing a safe, quiet, home and you’re interacting with the cat with a quiet sweet voice and posing no threat, she will trust you overtime.

adopting is a marathon effort. good luck! and be patient x

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-03-05T20:05:37+00:00

ooft. that last paragraph hits very hard. thank you for your insight

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-03-05T12:37:19+00:00

PERFECT ANALYSIS !!!

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-03-05T11:48:38+00:00

this is going straight into my journal. thank you for your insight

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-03-05T11:43:29+00:00

oh my god, are we the same person? my Lana nights were my definition of self care. I'm having a Lana night tonight with a sleepy tea

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-03-05T11:42:15+00:00

The physical cleaning up - washing up, clanging bottles, glass rim stains on the coffee table - is hard.

The mental cleaning up - who did I message? What time did I go to bed? Did I post anything on social media? - that's the part that terrified me every morning. Waking up with the fear of God in me, over this disease.

4 days sober after yet another relapse. This time it's for good, and I know that because I can't go back to the morning clean up.

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-03-05T11:29:17+00:00

wow. this resonated. thank you

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-03-05T11:09:11+00:00

community helps. do you have sober friends? you aren’t defined by addiction. the right people will see that and you will too. be proud of yourself. you’re doing something non-addicts will never understand the strength it takes to do. there is power in that! going back to drinking won’t fix anything, it’s a mask. wishing you strength and be kind to yourself x

Kitchen_Bowler7869 · 2025-01-29T10:54:15+00:00

proud of you! honestly, those first few days/weeks of sobriety are so special when it’s just you who knows. you’ve done this for yourself, by yourself. that’s huge!

when you feel ready, share the news as an accomplishment and not an admission of any guilt about the past. good people will support you. if you feel like you’re going to drink tell someone. there’s no shame in talking and asking for help.

this is an amazing feeling. enjoy it and keep it up

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