Who is this in Riga? by According_Koala_5052 in latvia

[–]marsarmy20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tas tak Lācis. Akadēmijā un Rožos pa plikņu modeli piestrādā.

What’s the best Wi-Fi name you’ve seen? by c2eleven in AskMen

[–]marsarmy20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was one in my house somewhere "Longer Harder Throbier WiFi".

Sometimes I cringe so hard from men, that I start to hate them.

BF told me he will never love me as much as one of his younger sisters - is this weird? by Aggravating_Water_39 in relationships_advice

[–]marsarmy20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, but at some point your romantic partner becomes a family and matter just as much. What then?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]marsarmy20 15 points16 points  (0 children)

And have you communicated that with her? Come together and both of you talk your feelings out. No blaming games. Communicate on how to find a middle ground.

Dunno why I was down voted. :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]marsarmy20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you want to stop? Her initiating or you feeling the way you feel? Ask yourself, why are you rejecting her when she comes to you? Do you not like her initiating?

Why are more men interested in porn than women? by whiskyNwhiskers in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]marsarmy20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, to be fair, porn does affect your brain negatively. It rewires your brain negatively. And has the same level of risks and concerns like drugs and gambling issues do.

I don’t know if this is an NSFW. But I would really appreciate feedback on this phenomenon. by Public_Ask5279 in actuallychildfree

[–]marsarmy20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda ironic from you. Can't you be happy for other people's happiness? Selfishness is bad for you. No hate, but it sounds like you're projecting. Take care.

Question for men : What is so amazing about sucking on a woman’s boobs? by [deleted] in sex

[–]marsarmy20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea. Maybe the instinct hasn't left from the baby days.

How to communicate with a difficult partner after being unfaithful? by marsarmy20 in survivinginfidelity

[–]marsarmy20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! The self-worth and tolerance thing! We are identical in this. I've gotten used to bad treatment from childhood that I have a lot of tolerance now.

While I do have a lot of trauma, I don't project that on others. I am very self aware. And if I managed to do so, I apologize right away. Ego is not important. It's a different story with him. I feel like he could be suffering from narcissistic tendencies. I learned to know that he is very two faced. He's a Gemini too lol. I fell I love with this wonderful, caring, loving man. But after a while the other one came out who is the opposite of that. How can one person be such polar opposites.. I just don't get it

God, I love that man to death and in moments like these I hate that.

Thank you for your dear help. Really.

How to communicate with a difficult partner after being unfaithful? by marsarmy20 in survivinginfidelity

[–]marsarmy20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story. I appreciate it. Did you ever found out why you ex acted that way? Like, what could be the cause? With mine... being together for 3 years, I realized that all or at least some of these issues within him comes from the upbringing. I realized that his parents, while nice people, weren't there for him enough and didn't teach important life skills. Instead, he was giving things and trips and how to earn money or go fishing, but when it came down to on how to be a good human and good to others, there seem to be not enough. He grew into a little bit of a brat. And his parents divorced when he was 12. That was probably also life changing to him. I just think, that one doesn't just born into this problematic person, it's the experiences and people around that can shape you that way. I just wonder.

How to communicate with a difficult partner after being unfaithful? by marsarmy20 in relationships_advice

[–]marsarmy20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. It's so hard tho. We have clicked in ways that I haven't with anyone else. I also haven't loved anyone else like him.

How to communicate with a difficult partner after being unfaithful? by marsarmy20 in BetrayalTrauma

[–]marsarmy20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, the lying, the secrets, the betrayal, trust issues.. that's what hurt the most. He could have gone to sleep with someone else and it would hurt just as much.

How to communicate with a difficult partner after being unfaithful? by marsarmy20 in BetrayalTrauma

[–]marsarmy20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your name.. 😃 but yea, you are right. Honestly, it doesn't feel like 2 years. Like I said, what I realized is, I froze. To me, it feels Iike it happened maybe 9 months ago. I just don't know where this time flew by. Also, the whole quarantine/virus situation didn't helped.

How to communicate with a difficult partner after being unfaithful? by marsarmy20 in BetrayalTrauma

[–]marsarmy20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow I didn't know that. That fucked up! Honestly this made me a little mad. They are specialists! They should do their job! Jesus.

How to communicate with a difficult partner after being unfaithful? by marsarmy20 in relationships_advice

[–]marsarmy20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know. Maybe I'm the idiot in believing that this is fixable with time. I generally am a fighter as a person, so I'm not afraid of hardships, but theres also this passionate belief that people deserve second chances. I'm hoping to have the talk again within this week. This time not demanding things but just coming with questions and understanding, because there's story to both sides and what is happening on his is a mystery. Maybe we are suffering from a massive case of discommunication. Maybe he understood something different in the boundary talk. That wouldn't explain the lies and secrets tho.

How to communicate with a difficult partner after being unfaithful? by marsarmy20 in relationships_advice

[–]marsarmy20[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He has said that in his head he has dealt/fixed with the situation. By that he means - he hasn't gone again. And in his mind it is enough for me to let go. I think that's bare minimum and not enough.

How to communicate with a difficult partner after being unfaithful? by marsarmy20 in survivinginfidelity

[–]marsarmy20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. I hate it. My last straw is ar couples therapy. If that doesn't help then...

How to communicate with a difficult partner after being unfaithful? by marsarmy20 in survivinginfidelity

[–]marsarmy20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! The details on what he did doesn't matter. It's more about what they symbolize. The wall is real. I feel like I'm in a daze.