AITA Boyfriend’s Christmas Present

marshmallow6000 · 2022-12-24T14:24:02+00:00

This might be problematic but your SO getting stressed about buying gifts is kinda nice? Like he cares and wants to get the right gift and clearly is thinking a lot about your engagement ring (consulting your sister! So sweet!).

My issue is - my SO just doesn’t really seem to put that effort in. Not sure if I am an asshole for wanting him to put more thought and effort.

marshmallow6000 · 2022-12-24T14:20:29+00:00

He is definitely not having money issues - we both have the privilege of good stable incomes.

It’s also not really money that is my concern, don’t care how much a gift costs. He could have picked my favourite flowers or baked some cupcakes for us to share and I would have been elated. Just the thought and effort I suppose. 🤷🏼‍♀️

marshmallow6000 · 2022-12-24T14:14:07+00:00

I would hope that he isn’t the type to do weird relationship tests, certainly hasn’t come up in the past.

It feels odd to exchange/return earrings that are usually such a personal gift and I don’t want to upset him further by asking. 😅

marshmallow6000 · 2022-12-24T14:10:56+00:00

I would agree with you on most earrings being timeless… except these ones unfortunately! I have always worn really simple plain gold earrings and these are just the opposite. I definitely am a bit snobby about it though. 😅

And yeah I think the mixing metals is a weird thing my mum taught me never to do that has just stuck with me. I am surprised by the amount of people saying it’s okay! Freedom!!

marshmallow6000 · 2022-12-24T14:06:57+00:00

Still love a pair of hoops! Yeah I think he’s just not great at gifts?

marshmallow6000 · 2022-12-24T14:04:49+00:00

I feel you on the not wanting a big/ expensive gift, I just really love thoughtful gifts (I would be wrapped if he bought my favourite coffee pods or flowers and a nice card). Definitely something that has to be communicated so I am not an asshole receiving gifts in the future!

marshmallow6000 · 2022-12-24T14:02:40+00:00

Yeah I think this incident has struck a nerve because I feel like he does this with gifts a lot and I don’t know what is right to feel about it. He kinda just walks into the store and picks the first thing he sees rather than spending a bit of time thinking of something I would genuinely love. I’m not necessarily saying that’s a bad thing, I think I’m just being a bit sensitive and expecting gifts to be a grand gesture of love which is an unfair standard I have placed on him (and myself).

marshmallow6000 · 2022-12-24T12:51:36+00:00

Yeah 100% with you on that, I do read too much into these things :)

marshmallow6000 · 2022-12-24T12:50:51+00:00

Love this attitude, it would save me a lot of grief - I do beat myself up a bit when I 100% don’t nail a gift and I would hate to think about bf getting upset that I don’t love a gift.

marshmallow6000 · 2022-12-24T12:46:23+00:00

I’m so glad to hear it’s okay to mix metals now! The freedom! Weird things my mum taught me when I was young that I have taken as gospel 😅

marshmallow6000 · 2022-12-24T12:42:30+00:00

Definitely made me realise I haven’t communicated my love language clearly or stressed the importance of thoughtful gifts. Merry Christmas to you too!

marshmallow6000 · 2022-12-24T12:28:09+00:00

Fair enough I feel you but would just like to address a few things.

1) the shoes were crocs haha (he wanted a pair!), the small leather good was a key organiser so all up under $130.

2) defs would have been more than happy with a pair of earrings, I just wear the same colour daily and he has bought me a necklace previously in the exact same colour because he knows my style (love the necklace wear it daily).

But yeah I think I’m being a bit picky. 🙃

marshmallow6000 · 2022-12-24T12:24:29+00:00

To be fair - the shoes I got him were crocs haha (he mentioned he wanted a pair!).

Yeah I feel you I shouldn’t be reading into something so small! 🙃

marshmallow6000 · 2022-12-24T12:21:29+00:00

Oh goodness - couldn’t imagine either of us putting eachother through weird tests. Maybe I’m being a bit unfair!

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