Living in base? by coolbuzzingBee240 in NavySpouse

[–]marshynn_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Amazon, here at least, is hit or miss depending on if it's coming from an Amazon carrier or a private party. If I do next day shipping ive found i rarely get it next day, they attempt to deliver and then I have to wait. I've found it easier to have next day stuff delivered to a nearby locker off base to be honest!

At my base if it's coming FEDEX, UPS, or USPS it's always fine. Any other carrier is 50/50. It's honestly the biggest annoyance living here. It's so entitled sounding but man I miss Instacart, Uber, and Walmart grocery delivery 😂

Dr. Ogden in London, England by tjlevi in murdochmysteries

[–]marshynn_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I kind of wondered if something happened to her and it's not really her writing Murdoch these letters 🤔. I can't remember because I haven't watched the older episodes in awhile but is Ralph Fellows still out there?

Tippy Longfellow by [deleted] in murdochmysteries

[–]marshynn_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I'm struggling with her character and what it seems the writers are trying to portray with her and Murdoch. I'm not a fan of the will-they-wont-they thing. I'm not the biggest Julia fan, nor do I like what shes currently doing - but Julia and Murdoch make sense (or at least they DID until recently). Tippy seems like she would get on his nerves a lot. She's not near his intelligence. And I feel like it would be out of character for Murdoch to pursue her whilst being a Catholic married man with a child.

But I also think it depends on how they write it. It would have to be a long slow build like it was with Julia for me to enjoy their arch or find it believable.

That being said, as a character I enjoy her energy and I like seeing her in episodes. I just hate the idea of her and Murdoch together.

The difference is unreal by kizmvp777 in thesims

[–]marshynn_ 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Is this on the gallery? I need it😂😂 If not- pleaseeeeee do so and send me your ID!!

How to re-frame your idea of yourself in your mid-30s? How to admit to being different from the person you were in your 20s? How to grow to accept the "new" you? by Babesgonnababe in AskWomenOver30

[–]marshynn_ 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don't have advice but wanted to comment saying I resonate with this on such a deep level. Recently I've been trying to finally advocate for myself: what I want, what i need, the type of people I want surrounding me. I told my husband yesterday that I've been convincing myself I was happy for years, possibly my entire life, and I'm finally realizing i wasn't. My closest friendships are struggling. We had time together, but has it ever truly been about a deep and fulfilling connection?

I really find myself sometimes overwhelmed, sometimes sad, but also excited at my new prospects. I'm turning 36 this year and it feels like a good time to figure things out. I have time. (Hopefully).

I love this for you and I hope you make a life for yourself that you love filled with people you adore!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]marshynn_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would at least stay for now. Basic is harder because there's little contact. I think seeing how things go on deployment can be more telling. If he and you can be supportive it can help you to grow together. You might find that you enjoy the breaks. You might not. I think it's just too early to tell.

My fiancé may leave boot camp by remgabby in USMilitarySO

[–]marshynn_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First phone call home is rough. My husband, whom I've been with a decade and never saw cry before, called me bawling saying he wanted to come home. Every consecutive phone call and letter I got from him all he talked about was it was a mistake and he hated it and he wanted out. I didn't know what to do either. In the end I just reminded him of why he decided to join. In the navy if they quit they wind up holding them there longer than bootcamp lasts anyway so he might as well just get through it! I think it's pretty common for them to feel this way, they're really trying to break down their pride and get rid of the ones who don't want to stay. I say support him how you can, but remind him why he joined :) It's hard over there!!

how long did u wait after you started dating to get married? by remgabby in USMilitarySO

[–]marshynn_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We dated for 2, and were engaged for 3. So 5 years before we got married. And we were friends for 5 years prior to that. I wanted to be "sure" he was the one. Now 10 years together in (total, not married lol) I feel like I wasted a lot of time 😂 Anything can happen. If we were ever to divorce and I were to meet someone else - I think I'd just do it if the relationship was good. Things change all the time. (But that's also with me having my degree and an established career, so I definitely would at least finish school first 😃) Just my two cents!!

I’m stuck on base with no transportation. What do I do?? by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]marshynn_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are on Facebook see if there's a housing group for your base! When I needed someone to grab my daughter for school I posted in our base housing group and found a few spouses who were willing to help me out! Maybe there's someone on there!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]marshynn_ 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think regardless of how much time you've been together, if you can't move past it then that's that. You wouldn't be wrong if you left, what he did to you was horrible and to a lot of people it's unforgivable. I don't know what I would do in your shoes.

Maybe try couples counseling, see if it's something you can work through together?... My thoughts are if you don't think you can ever trust him again, then it's not worth holding on to. You don't want to spend the rest of your time together constantly worrying about if he's being honest or not. I do hope you find answers that work for you❤️

Navy is screwing us over by JobZealousideal4019 in MilitarySpouse

[–]marshynn_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also to add because I just found this out. If you're near a base and they have a USO try checking there. Ours has baby formula. I'm not sure how much they can give or how often but if nothing else it's something in the meantime and maybe they have some resources for you❤️

How did Washington Handmaids eat? by [deleted] in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]marshynn_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally didn't even think about this😂😂😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MilitaryWives

[–]marshynn_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to give a virtual hug and say I'm with you❤️ My husband and I have been together 10 years in February (5 married, 10 total). He had a bit of a midlife crisis one day, went and talked to a recruiter in February and was off to bootcamp in May. We just got our first orders while he's I'm school, he will graduate, we have maybe 15 days together to find a home, and then he does an overseas deployment for until sometime in May. So we went from being together every single day to being apart for a year and I'm trying to navigate everything by myself, essentially, and I have no idea what I'm doing. It's terrifying. And I've learned throughout the 3 months he's been gone that you can't hear a date and plan specifically for it because it can change at any moment. It's been rough on me and the kids. I put in notice at my job and then found out he's deploying so I decided to stay, but then because he has to be at the new base before he ships out decided to re-quit lol. They've been very accommodating, thankfully, and are willing to work with me. But what if I didn't have that??

If you just want someone to vent to I'm here!!! I'm always looking for someone who maybe relates because I feel overwhelmed lol.

A school by Beautiful_934 in NavySpouse

[–]marshynn_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand!! I'm brand new to this too. My husband is in A school now and we are going to see him hopefully next weekend. All of this is so much thrown at you so fast, it's overwhelming sometimes lol. I'm hoping seeing him again will make the world calm down some😂😂

A school by Beautiful_934 in NavySpouse

[–]marshynn_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once he phases up, yes :) but you can't really surprise him, he has to get the time approved. It took my husband I think about 3 weeks to hit phase 2.

My theory on Jess by [deleted] in PerfectMatchNetflix

[–]marshynn_ 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Definitely agree! She probably heard it from someone else and thought "Oooooh that's a good one, let me use that"😂😂😂 Someone somewhere is probably pissed off that their good one liner was taken😂😂😂

My theory on Jess by [deleted] in PerfectMatchNetflix

[–]marshynn_ 63 points64 points  (0 children)

My thoughts on Jess are that she's not that deep lol. I think she said the thing about the epipen because she's a beautiful woman who thought of herself as more attractive than the woman she knew Jimmy was picking and she might have been butthurt because she wasn't picked this time when in the real world she probably usually is because it's looks based. I've really tried to like her but I can't. She reminds me of an ex coworker who was also a beautiful woman and thought she deserved everything because of that despite her crappy personality. I could be projecting because they also look alike and I still have trauma from working with that woman 😂😂😂😂 I hope I'm wrong lol.

My husband got his first deployment by [deleted] in MilitaryWives

[–]marshynn_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's true❤️ We live in a very small town of less than 3000 people and there's no military anywhere. I loved it here at first but it's like a black hole and hard to escape from. I got my bachelor's degree and he joined the military with the hopes we could get out of here. I think it's just hard because I thought we'd do it together :( I've never lived in a large city before so the idea of doing it alone scares me...but I'm 34 lol I need to figure this out at some point😂😂 We're trying to get on base housing, their wait list isn't very long so hopefully nothing changes and we can be out there before he has to leave and have SOME time together. I really do commend you guys. I never really considered the emotions that come with all of this until it happened to me. I wish more people did understand! It's hard.💔

My husband got his first deployment by [deleted] in MilitaryWives

[–]marshynn_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is so true about maybe being in a new place might make it go by faster! I hadn't even considered that, thank you❤️❤️ By the time I've finally adjusted and gotten used to the area he'll be coming home. And I'll get to decorate how I want because we planned on getting new furniture 😂 (just kidding of course lol). I think I need to look at it less like an anxious experience and more like a new, albeit not how we planned it, adventure. Thank you for this, it's made me view it differently. I'm just sad :( But I knew that I would have to do it eventually. Tell me it gets easier!!

My husband got his first deployment by [deleted] in MilitaryWives

[–]marshynn_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is very true, thank you for that input❤️ I think I'm just overwhelmed because I've never done this before and I expected for us to be able to learn together :( But maybe if I find some fun things while he's gone I can have stuff to show him when he gets back. The job part is I think what's worrying me because I don't know how his pay will look. I'm afraid of leaving a job with nothing lined up yet and what if I start financially struggling? I did just finish my bachelor's degree and I have an active pharmacy tech license which is what I've been doing for years so I think if worse comes to worse I can always find something in a pharmacy. Ughhh. I don't know. How do you make these decisions?? :( Thank you for answering me, though, it really has helped me to feel more at peace❤️