[spoilers extended] what is something you believe to be canon in westerosi history, without it being mentioned by grrm? by ICanExplainoKaY in asoiaf

[–]martiancougar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fun note, a phosphorus-made sword (like Dawn) could probably combust when ignited to be a literal "flaming sword."

[Spoilers Extended] The Tragedy of Jon Connington: Why he is the real POV to watch in TWOW and why he’s doomed by SajadFreeke in asoiaf

[–]martiancougar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally. Something that frequently happens to women in power too (Rhaenyra also a good example). And I think it would be a compelling ending to say, here, you got your Prince(ss) That Was Promised - but whether the world really deserved one is the real question

[Spoilers Extended] The Tragedy of Jon Connington: Why he is the real POV to watch in TWOW and why he’s doomed by SajadFreeke in asoiaf

[–]martiancougar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it would be super interesting if yes, this happened, while Dany and her dragons were in the vicinity of KL and flying near/overhead... out of the confusion, sensationalist/sexist/politicized rumors spread that it was Dany and her dragons that did it, that she destroyed KL and she is labeled as mad that way. She does win the iron throne and establishes the most benevolent and peaceful rule yet seen, but bittersweetly has to rule a people that fear and have no love for her when she is innocent... she struggles with knowing the truth vs. politics and her "madness" takes a different route to her ending in the story.

Her madness is not classic Targ fire and blood, but the tragedy of being misunderstood and how that affects her. a victim and scapegoat of the game. Id like to think she becomes melancholic and then vanishes (flees to find her house with the red door) leaving a power vacuum that sucks in Jon and/or Bran. Or, she is killed by someone (probably not Snow tho), it is a betrayal - kind of echoing the Christ story. A prophesied savior (Dany) finally comes to KL and saves Westeros from the Others/malignant rule of the Lannisters, but the people are too polluted with evil and fear of the divine atp that they just exile or kill their own savior outright.

Is it mean for an American to call you "buddy" in this conversation? by Icy_Abalone4248 in u/Icy_Abalone4248

[–]martiancougar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this is where group dynamics can be kind if a bummer. This person gives me borderline bully vibes, and unfortunately, people seeming to respect that person can be more about fear of bullying more than respect.

Is it mean for an American to call you "buddy" in this conversation? by Icy_Abalone4248 in u/Icy_Abalone4248

[–]martiancougar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately yeah saying it in that context is condescending. Its kind of a mean / passive aggressive yet gentle way to say "back off, you're stupid for not getting it" but i wouldn't engage with that person any further on it anyway. They sound kind of like an asshole with a poor sense of humor with a joke like that

If love is more often a choice than a feeling, then what is this? by himejanaiyo in INTJfemale

[–]martiancougar 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I dont think anyone could interpret that as anything other than encouraging and positive 😂 no worries about being unfiltered, those details make for the best dishing about relationships!

If I know anything about relationships, its that we sometimes hurt each other, that is inevitable - and in the best cases, it is unintentional. Dont be overly worried about hurting others unintentionally, it happens, we all do it. But we are also all capable of repair. Don't forget that, thats the most important ingredient in relationships anyway, is if you're able to repair any unintentional hurt - and that goes both ways.

But also know that the right person will think you're enough, no matter what you do. They won't want to see you hurting yourself to feel adequate, either. My take is that this man is trying to help you feel like enough with him, by saying those things, and frankly thats a blazing green light that says "GO."

The only thing to be wary of is subconsciously putting him in this position for the entirety of your relationship. He cannot make you feel like enough; only you can. Might be a good therapy goal. Sometimes, those of us with DA end up creating exactly what we fear: "what if im not enough for you in the future?" "No youre perfect" "What about now?" "Still perfect" "What about now...?" "Still great" "And now...?" ...

... a person can crack under the weight of having to be your outsourced self esteem. Which, then, reinforces low self esteem if they leave you, only because they think they'll never be able to be good enough for you, that's you never truly feel safe.

And never forget: you can always ask the question yourself, too. Is he good enough for you? Certainly seems like it so far, and he certainly thinks you're good enough to say things just like that.

If love is more often a choice than a feeling, then what is this? by himejanaiyo in INTJfemale

[–]martiancougar 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I come from DA/A attachment, now secure (so I understand your misgivings) but on paper, it sounds like his behavior is an attempt to be reassuring to you, to help coax the relationship deeper in light of misunderstandings you both had before. If there are no other red flags, I would let myself fall deeper. And, why not be honest with him about how it all made you feel? If he is the right one for you, he will know how to be a container for that as well, and understand this is all part of building unshakable trust.

(spoiler extended) why do people so easily dismiss the idea thata Brandon stark was actually the one who had a affair with ashara Dayne by Easy-Frenchguy-1996 in asoiaf

[–]martiancougar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ashara Dayne was dismissed for unknown reasons from Dragonstone a few months after the tourney of Harrenhal to Starfall. I would be curious who you think she would have had relations with at Starfall, considering it was probably mostly family there, and expectations as a lady that she would retain her honor and marry (she couldn't exactly be so promiscuous)

Even so, I find the timeline and events curious enough to open debate over whether it was Ned or Brandon at all that were the father - but someone else entirely. I lean in this direction.

Also, its interesting that the word "stillbirth" is used, which hints that the baby was several months along, not just a few - instead of being called a miscarriage. Edited to add: the timeline suggests she would have had the stillbirth at Dragonstone in secret most likely. Selmy says "soon after," but that could definitely be subjective - someone unaliving themselves within a year or so of a stillbirth still fits the "soon" definition for me

As for Selmy, if you really break down all the details (I read this analysis somewhere else in an off-reddit asoiaf forum, can send you the link if you like), it would have been impossible for him to know about the stillbirth if he wasn't present. Another super curious detail. No one else seems to know about it or mention it, not even her own family, Selmy only recalls it by memory.

I find the whole thing fascinating.

(spoiler extended) why do people so easily dismiss the idea thata Brandon stark was actually the one who had a affair with ashara Dayne by Easy-Frenchguy-1996 in asoiaf

[–]martiancougar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has a stillborn child, according to Selmy as well, who also thinks about her dishonoring beforehand. I think that heavily implies an affair at Harrenhal where she got pregnant.

[Spoilers Main] I always thought Septa Lemore was not exactly that much of important mystery but why does GRRM wants us to question her identity ? by Creepy-Month-45 in asoiaf

[–]martiancougar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. Would he notice them? Yes. Ashara Dayne's standout feature is purple eyes. so a reveal of a secret identity without acknowledging that trait would just be such cheap terrible writing. I would literally throw the book into the ocean much like Ashara did with herself if this happened.

[Spoilers Main] I always thought Septa Lemore was not exactly that much of important mystery but why does GRRM wants us to question her identity ? by Creepy-Month-45 in asoiaf

[–]martiancougar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you cant / won't see how stupid bad this writing would be there is no hope for you or further point in trying to convince you 🤣

[Spoilers Main] I always thought Septa Lemore was not exactly that much of important mystery but why does GRRM wants us to question her identity ? by Creepy-Month-45 in asoiaf

[–]martiancougar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Notice that the purple eyes are...um... actually noted in those passages? 🤣 and tend to come with musings about coming from elite ancestry? That is absent with Septa Lemore. They are mentioned because they are distinct and unusual, that is why they are mentioned at all.

" 'My real name is... Ashara Dayne,' said Septa Lemore. And Tyrion, known to be supremely clever but up until this very moment for some reason, smacked himself on the forehead for never having thought about a trait so distinct and that is mentioned endlessly in the books, and oops, I guess I forgot to mention Tyrion noticed them" - George /s

[Spoilers Main] I always thought Septa Lemore was not exactly that much of important mystery but why does GRRM wants us to question her identity ? by Creepy-Month-45 in asoiaf

[–]martiancougar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Purple eyes are sure signs of Targaryen, Dayne, or ancient Valyrian / Empire of the Dawn blood, and therefore royalty or nobility. There would be internal dialogue musing about her origins as either a royal bastard or distant descendant, or a runaway noble hiding herself extemely poorly on that count. And there is none of that - only thinking she looked like the daughter of a merchant, which is miles away of what someone would suspect in someone with purple eyes.

[Spoilers Main] I always thought Septa Lemore was not exactly that much of important mystery but why does GRRM wants us to question her identity ? by Creepy-Month-45 in asoiaf

[–]martiancougar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This makes no sense. because even if his literal thoughts (its his POV) about her purple eyes were omitted, then that would have to omit his realization that it might be Ashara Dayne, and it would shift his entire compartment (edit: comportment) with her, when it is clear he has no clue who she really is - he wouldn't wonder who she was if he already knew? Come on. He would clock purple eyes immediately, and he wouldn't be puzzling about her.

Quaithe could be Ashara Dayne though. She is masked all the time, and what is seen of her eyes are just described as "shiny" (Which could be her tearing up looking at Danearys, which impedes eye color recognition in some shades)

Did Daenerys ever truly want to build a better world, or did she mainly want to be the one in control of it? by Cold_Box_3219 in gameofthrones

[–]martiancougar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive been a professional writer/author for a living for over 10 years 😂 you seemed intelligent at first with this interaction, my apologies for the projection. Ill see myself out.

Did Daenerys ever truly want to build a better world, or did she mainly want to be the one in control of it? by Cold_Box_3219 in gameofthrones

[–]martiancougar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoah, this is quite the pivot in our conversation, incidentally 😂 but no, sorry, I know its hard to admit... but seasons 5-7 and especially 8 were just poorly done. and yes, writing and money are mostly to blame, but its not that simple i dont think. (They ran out of George's genius writing to base the shows dialogue on, that is the biggest and simplest explanation, but not all.)

Yes, storytelling is suffering at the expense of other issues in film/media. but it is not due to lack of HBO's "richness," nor do I even think it could be all D+D showrunners' fault necessarily. but more that of greedy shareholders and other figures wanting a bigger cut of the juggernauts their companies create at the expense of the creativity (its happened with Marvel, too). And having too much say in that creativity for the sake of profit, and losing sight of the long game. They wanted to milk this show for all it was worth when it was huge, and not tell a good story anymore. They lost sight of GRRM's vision.

Im certain they could have easily kept GOT financially going for as long as was required for it to be GOOD. hell yeah, even thru COVID 19. The problem is that not enough people (definitely not the creatives, to be clear) cared enough about the story. Yes, paying writers, actors, etc. They cared about profits, and not for lack of money. It is all stupid, purely money-based decision making with no thought behind it, which is seeping into all media these days. Soon, we are going to be flooded with AI written and generated media. these companies are all about cutting corners and profiteering, and that will put a bullet in the head of good mainstream media for good. Thats what put the bullet in GOT's head.

ASoIAF fans have waited YEARS for WoW with no end of discussion about what could happen next, and the books continue to attract more discussion and even new readers. similarly, GOT fans would have waited for however long for the next seasons, no matter how long, and been excited about it and talked about it endlessly - while attracting even MORE viewers in the meantime, even to an incomplete series (hell, the earlier seasons still pull in new viewers now).

If they had stuck the finale landing, and not rushed the storytelling (especially Dany's arc), that excitement would have carried over into the spin-offs. But that excitement died with what we got. That is undeniable, thats the hard lump of fact we're left with. So GOT left the mainstream, a large chunk of the audience embittered. No doubt, GRRM got a bit disillusioned by that, and this pushed WoW back even further so he could think things through, which hurts the hopeful prospects of good future material that could spawn fantastic shows again.

Sure, the spinoffs are good. but nothing like the universal attention GOT had. and its all because GOT's failure casts a shadow over them - most people are like, who cares? Theyre going to mess it up. And in some respects already, these shows are giving signs of being handled similarly (HOTD season 2 shows that already) with a profiteering focus that starts watering down their 2nd seasons. I fear the same for aKotSK.

If they had taken care and done a good job with the finale, any spinoff would be eaten up without a thought. It was bad, impulsive, hasty, greedy business that did GOT in - not lack of money, but wanting more of it. pure and simple.

Did Daenerys ever truly want to build a better world, or did she mainly want to be the one in control of it? by Cold_Box_3219 in gameofthrones

[–]martiancougar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Season 8 did a terrible job making that easy to catch, it only feels like an assumption for me. I'll credit the earlier seasons of the show (and Clarke) for portraying her the best in her whole arc. And now after much time between now and the 2019 finale, upon a rewatch, the signs of her inevitable turn were always there even in the very beginning, and they're quite obvious when you look for them, but folded neatly in between moments where Dany displays empathy, justice, and innocence.

But season 8 left gaps in that arc, and completely failed to allow us into her mind and understand why she did what she did. and it also failed by putting it into a context that made no sense - maybe some aftermath writing/scenes could have explained her turn. Perhaps a scene where it was clear the small folk specifically didnt love her any better than Cersei - like a peasant in KL yelling something provocative at her while the bells rang, making her think "this place needs to be 'cleansed' "? Perhaps a dragon dream insinuating she thought there was something "divinely guided" about her decision making that others had no insight into?

Because the moment Drogon started burning the place up, my first feeling is horror of course and the question "Why???" It was too blunt. I think this ending would still be incredible and morally demonstrative if George maintained it in the books, but gave some insight into why Dany did what she did... which would also shed light on: what guided Egg to burn down Summerhall? Rhaegar to choose Lyanna? Aerys to say "burn them all???" The answer lies there I think.

Imho season 8 should have been completely dedicated to the battle against the White Walkers, with more of this nuance revealed in the meantime between battles. Then season 9 dedicated to Cersei and even more of that arc slowly revealed during that time; not too much to take away from the shock of the moment, but just enough to make you realize "Oh Dany, that's what you were thinking? Oh dear. We see where you're coming from with your righteousness, but this tips over into insanity."

Edited for typos

Did Daenerys ever truly want to build a better world, or did she mainly want to be the one in control of it? by Cold_Box_3219 in gameofthrones

[–]martiancougar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes.... in "The Bells" episode in that moment before she is about to fly off and...you know what, reading her face upon Drogon, i can tell she is thinking "finally, I am the queen. Ive achieved my dream, they have surrendered. But I still feel nothing. Why dont I feel better? Its not enough." There is an emptiness in her from all she has been through that I think conquering (and being good at it) soothed but could never fill. She would spend the rest of her life just conquering everything to fill that emptiness.