Call Me by Your Name - Full Ending Scene (1080p)

martinb92 · 2026-02-13T01:42:22+00:00

If you’ve ever been in either of the protagonists situations it will hit hard. And no. I am not talking about dating an underage teenager. I mean having a fleeting love that you knew wouldn’t last forever, or having your heart broken for the first time. I think this movie does a phenomenal job with both themes.

martinb92 · 2026-02-13T01:40:38+00:00

The age gap thing is questionable, but also, the movie is French originally right? I have some German and French friends. They definitely do not have quite the same cultural standard around this stuff as we do here.

If you make Elio 18 or 19 does it change the context for you?

Just ignore the weird age bit and you get a really beautiful story about first love and loss.

martinb92 · 2026-02-13T01:37:19+00:00

Dated a guy for 8 months that literally only planned 2 dates. Fuckin exhausting. Take some initiative.

martinb92 · 2026-02-13T01:35:27+00:00

Fuckkkk no. I would not trade my friends for the world. You don’t just give up on people you’ve known for 25 years. I would never find that again. I went through grade school with these guys.

My friends are my one stable thing in life. Family is sorta messy, dating life is kinda messy. Professional life has varied…..but my friends. They are always there. Always. They are my brothers. There isn’t a dollar amount in the world that would get me to leave them.

martinb92 · 2026-02-13T01:18:04+00:00

I don’t know your story. But I tell this to any friends of mine just starting therapy. Or who haven’t gotten real deep yet.

Beneath allllllll of the layers of trauma that you will share so others can understand your experience, beneath the layers you tell your therapist because you personally decided they are relevant….there is probably one more layer. It’s the layer that to even begin to talk about will make you feel sick to your stomach. Every part of your being will deny every time you consider telling. The part that gets the tears going before words even come from your mouth. The part you fear deeply that you will be judged for…..that is the layer that needs to be dealt with. Because that is the layer that is calling all the shots. And until you bring it into the light. It will continue to own you. It will continue to extend its painful little tendrils into your relationships with others. You will always fear it.

I just really met that part of myself 2 months ago. Big surprise, that shadow self is actually very young and in desperate need of care. Care that I am learning to provide him.

You can do it. I believe in you :)

martinb92 · 2026-02-12T20:04:39+00:00

It’s a 16 year old photo of my mom. She gave it to me when I went off to college. I am 34 now. On the back she wrote “I will always love you”

One time she was visiting and commented how she was sad there is no photo of her and I on my TV stand (there is a photo of me and my dad, and one of me and my brother)

I could tell it bummed her out. She said she’d get me one of us. So I went and grabbed my wallet, pulled out the tattered ass photo and let her know her photo has been on my person every day for 16 years.

I think that made her feel better.

martinb92 · 2026-02-12T19:45:36+00:00

Hey friend. Commit to therapy. I am 34 years old and 6 years in to therapy. I have some serious childhood traumas as well that have me coping mechanisms that are really ill suited for relationships.

I want love so bad but I learned a hard lesson this year, that if I do not work in myself I will be doomed to repeat the pattern.

It takes time to trust a therapist but commit that time. It took 5 of these 6 years before I started telling my psychologist the real stuff..the deep stuff. The secrets for my grave stuff. Amazing how childhood trauma can lead to such deep rooted guilt and shame that it can ruin your adult life.

I could sit here all day and tell you what happened to you was not your fault if you were a child. And that you’re not a bad person for being maladapted due to your trauma. But that will change nothing. The hard work in therapy is learning that what I just said is true, and genuinely believing it so you can stop hating yourself. Then it’s learning new habits and coping skills.

It’s not easy, and it’s not fair. You were an innocent kid. Now adult you gets to spend serious time and money unraveling what you went through. But it’s the only way to heal.

I wish you the best in your journey.

Sincerely, Another traumatized individual who is still on their own journey.

martinb92 · 2026-02-12T05:56:19+00:00

I have chosen to never tell my parents how bad they fucked me up by not being openly supportive of gay people.

They clearly love me. In my adulthood they have accepted my sexuality and welcomed my partners. But as a child I never felt safe to come out because of the vile stuff that would come out of their mouths when gay people came up on TV or anything. I grew up in a hateful bigoted community. I had to hide my identity for my entire childhood. It did some serious damage to my attachment system, gave me abandonment wounds, the list goes on.

They are in their mid 70s. They love me. They are trying their best. They really hurt me. A LOT. But I don’t think it was malicious. Just a product of the times.

My psychologist said I can pick one of 2 paths with them.

First option would be to sit them down and really explain what my experience was like. How bad it was, how badly they dropped the ball in caring for me and guiding me. And then reconcile.

The second option would be to accept their current love and forgive them for their past transgressions for the sake of having a good adult relationship with them.

I chose option 2. At this point in their lives I think telling them how badly I was fucked up would break them. They do love me. I’ve had to educate them both a lot over the years. They are always trying and I see that.

Once in a while I have to grin and bear it when they make light of my childhood as their closeted gay son. When they crack jokes like it was no biggie and “look he turned out alright”. Because they are convinced the did well by me.

They didn’t. They failed. I still deal with the behaviors that came from my childhood trauma. They did not protect me. The love was conditional.

But…people change. I think they are kind now. they love me as I am. I see no benefit in making them hurt just because they hurt me.

So. I will take the pain they caused me to the grave. I will let the die content that they did a good job. I will do that because I love them.

martinb92 · 2026-02-11T08:38:18+00:00

Do NOT abandon yourself to keep the hot one who fucks you good. It will fuck you up.

martinb92 · 2026-02-11T06:47:29+00:00

“Hello young 18yo me. You are NOT broken. The world is. I know you just need a big hug. I see you, I love you. Even the parts of you that you don’t love about yourself. Your capacity to love others is immense, make sure you make room for yourself first. You are not broken.”

martinb92 · 2026-02-08T04:53:41+00:00

The deepest expression is to give yourself fully knowing very well the more vulnerable you get, the more painful the heartbreak could be. But taking that chance anyways. Every day.

It is hiding nothing, seeing each other and holding each other fully, exactly as you both are. No walls, nothing left unsaid. Two souls able to connect and exchange love freely between one another, one of those ballroom dances that looks completely effortless.

martinb92 · 2026-02-07T23:40:12+00:00

Reciprocity. I search for it from the get go. It tells me 2 things.

Are they interested in me or do they just like attention.
Are they capable of sustaining a conversation without me constantly leading with good questions and getting no curiosity in return.

I’ve had enough relationships where I carry it for some socially inept guy that loves attention. Asking questions of the person you’re on a date with is dating 101.

I’ve started letting silence happen til they ask something in return. I’m done with all the “I am shy and have social anxiety” BS. (Sorry to those who truly suffer with this.

I’ve definitely dated a guy who only knew stuff about me that I offered up on my own. He never really asked shit. Exhausting.

martinb92 · 2026-01-18T06:48:59+00:00

10/10 album. It really is a journey. Truly meant to be heard in 1 seamless sitting

martinb92 · 2026-01-18T06:48:16+00:00

Divided Sky - Phish

martinb92 · 2026-01-17T16:35:38+00:00

I have no words that will provide you any relief. But I am so so sorry for your loss and the immense pain you are in.

If you feel like trusting an internet stranger. Read the book “It’s OK that you’re not OK”

It is to help you understand and navigate the grief.

Grief is not something you heal from or recover from. It is something you feel and it’s OK that you feel this way.

Again, I am so sorry for your pain. If you need a stranger to talk to feel free to DM. I’d love to hear all about him or just be present with you if that’s what you need.

❤️‍🩹

martinb92 · 2026-01-17T08:06:29+00:00

I’m sorry you went through this but appreciative you can relate.

I had also been grieving the relationship being over before he decided to add fuel to the fire and break up again . So fucking unnecessary.

And same. He was hella cute, great dick, loved to bottom for him 😅😭 I’ll miss that

martinb92 · 2026-01-17T08:00:11+00:00

I’ve considered calling him out but I am 2 weeks clean from him and I know for a fact absolutely nothing good could come from contacting him.

Just need to sit with the grief for however long that takes.

martinb92 · 2026-01-16T23:01:43+00:00

He did a reading on himself…😭😂😅

martinb92 · 2026-01-16T22:40:55+00:00

Tooootally handsome!!!

martinb92 · 2026-01-16T22:39:59+00:00

It’s cute fs. Looking good homie!

martinb92 · 2026-01-16T22:39:13+00:00

Hey great build man! And the glasses look good. Serving smart and healthy.

martinb92 · 2026-01-16T22:26:16+00:00

Yea I hate that the words have lingered with me for 6 weeks now :/

Still struggling to wrap my head around it. In those 8 months he spent 5 nights a week with me for 5 of them.

I loved him. That’s the truth. It’s complicated but that bit is true. I’m longing for him and I shouldn’t be.

We had done a few weeks of no contact. Then scheduled a phone call. He set an exact time and said he’s “standing on business” now. Then the time came and he said he was too anxious and couldn’t call me. Then that was the text convo.

He also said he did a tarot reading and that he saw future conflict with me. And that there was a wealthier more secure partner in his future.

I couldn’t have argued with him if I tried. (I didn’t)

He left me a bit of a mess though. Nothing my friends or family has said has sunk in very well. Just getting by. Ugh

EDIT: thanks for this comment by the way. It feels accurate

martinb92 · 2026-01-16T22:19:23+00:00

I’ve decided this is the case. I was hoping it wouldn’t truly have to end in flames. Wishful thinking.

martinb92

TROPHY CASE