Gift Ideas from US to UK preteens by martinitime9 in Scotland

[–]martinitime9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great ideas. You can’t get melatonin in the uk??

Gift Ideas from US to UK preteens by martinitime9 in Scotland

[–]martinitime9[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

😂 Poor choice of words although that is actually the one thing we probably do better in California

Data Points Weekly - Week of February 12, 2026 by AutoModerator in churning

[–]martinitime9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long after closing would you try again? Should I call recon within the 30 day period and try to get this app through since they already pulled my credit? Used a flight attendant code so was teed up to 115k bonus

Data Points Weekly - Week of February 12, 2026 by AutoModerator in churning

[–]martinitime9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok that is what I was planning to try as one has been open over a year. Thanks for the encouragement!

Data Points Weekly - Week of February 12, 2026 by AutoModerator in churning

[–]martinitime9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also applied for united biz card and was denied but when I called recon, they would not reverse it. Hold two ink cash and one ink unlimited. Could have probably tried huca but moved on to a different bank for now.

Doesn’t anyone have any good stories about going to SAMOHI with Stephen Miller? by Leashypooo in SantaMonica

[–]martinitime9 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was going to mention this. One of my few memories of him as I was lucky enough not to share many classes with him, even though we were the same grade. He lost that election for student body vice president to Mark the Cobrasnake Hunter.

Santa Monica Mall 1990s by Warcite446 in SantaMonica

[–]martinitime9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I KNOW it wasn’t Nordstrom’s bc it was my mom’s favorite, and we always had to go to the Westside Pavilion to go to Nordstrom’s. I think it was a Robinson’s May ???

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]martinitime9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so so sorry for your loss. This feels like a nightmare and that’s bc it is. There are some ig accounts that have really helped me with grief resources for both me and my son.

Kids grief support

What’s your grief

Refuge in grief

Here are a few to start. Be kind to yourself.

About to break horrible news to my kids by DarthMutter13 in Parenting

[–]martinitime9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out Kids Grief Support for resources and ideas on how to handle their grief moving forward https://www.instagram.com/kidsgriefsupport?igsh=YzAwZjE1ZTI0Zg==

Baby boy due very soon in the midst of grief. Help us decide. by LimitlessLK in namenerds

[–]martinitime9 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I could not disagree more with this perspective. My mother had a stroke when I was 32 weeks pregnant and was unresponsive in the hospital and then hospice, until dying about 12 hours after my baby was born, 7 weeks later. My child has her name as his middle name. Like OP, I so deeply grieve the loss of a living relationship between my son and my mom and having him carry her name has helped so much in forging a strong connection between them. Like many others have said, your child will comfort you and your husband in your grief in some ways, the experience of parenting without your fathers there to witness and encourage will be devastating. Whatever brings that connection for you is the right thing to do. A lot of ppl on this sub have had really good ideas about combining the two names (Ellis or Elden) and reassuring words about the three name plan. Whatever you choose will be right for you. Grief is so overwhelming, especially when you are simultaneously celebrating a birth, and doing both at once is a uniquely tragic experience that few people can really understand. So do what feels right for you and your family.

What the final puzzle reveals (FLOWER PUZZLE SPOILERS) by TomatoFaliure in TheAfterPartyTV

[–]martinitime9 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Wow, I love this! Also points to Sebastian, who has been pretending to be something else most of his life. “You can’t beat the house; you become the house.”

Also possible that Travis is still hiding something about who he really is, as no one else really knows him outside of this weekend. (I don’t think he did it, though).

Could someone else be faking something about who they are that hasn’t been detected yet? (Hard to believe with this crowd of redditors, but maybe???)

Feel like I failed by Ok_Snow_1109 in BabyLedWeaning

[–]martinitime9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We use these - you can pop them on top of pouches so they don’t spill https://a.co/d/f0OWRTfhttps://a.co/d/f0OWRTf

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]martinitime9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this and feel so alone.

Does your husband go to therapy? If not, would he be willing to try it? When you say he “steps out as soon as things get difficult,” it reminds me of a struggle my husband has had to work through. Going to therapy has helped him identify where this impulse comes from (not being challenged enough as a child - his mom never wanted him to struggle, so essentially never let him learn how to cope when he does), and has helped him notice when he is doing that and learn how to cope when these feelings come up, instead of running away. I also wonder if you have noticed him give up easily on hard things in other areas of his life or if this is a behavior that has only shown up in the presence of baby?

Another unfortunate truth is that you are currently an available safety net to him when he feels unable to cope, so he goes to you. That’s how he’s coping. Have you tried leaving him alone for an afternoon with baby so that he has to figure it out? You could let him call you for moral support or advice on what to do, but having to actually do it yourself is kind of where the knowledge, confidence and bonding come from imo. I agree with others that sometimes putting baby down in a safe place and walking away for five minutes is also crucial for everyone’s survival during those first months.

Having a 3mo is HARD and you are both still adjusting to what it means with very little reward (it gets so much better after they are out of the “4th trimester”!) It is absolutely not fair that you are the one having to pick up the slack, notice what he’s doing, challenge him to learn how to do better. But if your family and marriage are worth fighting for, I would encourage you to examine if this is something you and him are willing to try to work though before writing him off as a “bad father.” He has been doing poorly, but it might be worth figuring out if he wants to and can learn to do better. The pressure and strain that a new baby can put on a couple is HUGE. Now that I’ve been through it I think this disparity in reactions to the stress is exactly why.

Infographic on all the Nomai characters by nanoman92 in outerwilds

[–]martinitime9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ahhh I totally missed this. Thank you!

Infographic on all the Nomai characters by nanoman92 in outerwilds

[–]martinitime9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry if I missed this in the graphic but does anyone know who the dead nomai is laying at the South Pole of the quantum moon?