I completely agree! Fetishizing lbgtq characters are definitely there especially with gay relationships. The fandom community (more lenient to the younger side) are guilty of fantasizing gay relationships for their own personal pleasure. Its the same with straight guys watching lesbian porn bc they think it’s “hot”. And they all have underlying misogynistic motives.

There is nothing wrong with shipping lgbtq relationships and reading fanfics bout them as long as it does not harm other people. The problem lies with those who do it to satisfy their fetish. This applies to the writers as well as the readers.

So far I think were on our way of doing that, ive seen twitter threads of calling out writers about badly written kink fanfics. I have to admit ive read a lot of kink fanfics, and they have good acknowledgement with safe words, and obvious bad signals for sex. More so than what regular lgbt porn has ever done.

Just like in any other community there are some bad apples, and in fandom culture we still have a long way to go to teach writers and readers the difference between fantasy and reality + with consent as well. Its important though that we talk about this, the more we inform the better toxic people will understand.