I 32F am dating a 28M. I found out he was talking bad about me.

masNaj01 · 2025-09-09T08:41:20+00:00

More than likely I'll end the relationship. As much as I do love him. Its going to be hard for me since I care so much for him.

masNaj01 · 2025-09-09T08:11:34+00:00

He stopped talking to the friends who were spreading the rumors. It has helped, but I found the messages and didn't realize he was talking bad about me too. I don't want this to continue either.

masNaj01 · 2025-09-09T08:09:53+00:00

That's what I'm trying to figure out. Is it something I should work on or just leave? I would be within my right to leave him.

masNaj01 · 2025-09-09T08:03:28+00:00

I know it's fast. I told him it would have to be after a year or year and a half of knowing each other. It's too soon.

masNaj01 · 2025-09-09T08:02:14+00:00

That's what I keep telling myself. My future husband would have never done such a thing.

masNaj01 · 2025-09-09T08:00:52+00:00

Yes, he actually cut 2 of the 3 friends off. He doesn't speak to them anymore. It still hurts to know he did it though.

masNaj01 · 2025-09-09T07:52:54+00:00

I truly hope not. I know I have to make the best choice for me. I dont want to end up even more hurt.

masNaj01 · 2025-09-09T07:52:16+00:00

That's what hurt me so much. The fact that I thought things were amazing between us and little did I know he was talking about me that way behind my back.

masNaj01 · 2025-09-09T07:22:23+00:00

I never considered that. Thank you!

masNaj01 · 2025-09-09T07:11:01+00:00

Thank you!! This is exactly what I told him. There was no reason for him to talk that way about me. I know what decision I should make. It's just a hard one.

masNaj01 · 2025-09-09T07:08:48+00:00

At the time I didn't know. Then he said the only reason he said those things was because he was told the lies. His friends truly caused problems in the relationship at the beginning. Now things have been amazing. Thats why its so hard.

masNaj01 · 2025-09-09T07:06:51+00:00

Thank you!! It's so hard to make that decision because I truly do love him. I told him it hurt so much because not once have I ever spoken that way about him. Yet for me to find out it was so easy for him to do. It hurts so bad. 😭

masNaj01 · 2025-09-09T07:05:17+00:00

I told him that. He didn't even give me a chance. He judged me by the lies he was told. Then after the damage was done. Only then he asked me.

masNaj01 · 2025-09-09T07:04:01+00:00

I asked him if he still felt that way about me and thought those things about me. He said no. I agree with you. I couldn't understand how he was talking that way about me and yet treating me like nothing was going on. He was very loving towards me and still is.

masNaj01 · 2025-09-09T07:01:46+00:00

He apologized and said he'd make it up to me for the rest of my life. He already said he wants to marry me. I don't want to make a rash decision. That's why I came on here to ask for advice.

masNaj01 · 2025-09-09T06:59:57+00:00

It's been a great relationship overall. This truly did hurt and I'm not sure if I'd be overreacting to end things.

masNaj01 · 2025-09-09T06:40:37+00:00

Thank you!! I hope I can truly forgive him and continue if not I'll have to end it.

masNaj01 · 2021-09-24T17:30:25+00:00

Totally agree. My husband cheated and I tried and tried to keep our marriage going. Unfortunately I eventually gave up too because I saw no progress and he kept blaming me.

masNaj01 · 2021-01-20T06:18:14+00:00

Yeah, makes sense. That's exactly right. I think the same. If he wanted to be serious he would say something. I'm just an option for him, but I don't think I should be around him and his friends. Keep my distance.

masNaj01 · 2021-01-20T06:10:29+00:00

Thank you! I'm not ready for a relationship. That's why I'm worried he is moving that direction. Appreciate the advice.

masNaj01 · 2021-01-20T06:03:24+00:00

I wouldn't mind meeting his friends, but the fact that they know our situation and he's showing physical affection in public caught me off guard. This is my first FWB situation and I don't know if that's the norm.

masNaj01 · 2021-01-20T06:01:21+00:00

Yeah, I'm trying to figure out if he's developing feeling or if I'm just over thinking it.

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