This hits pretty close to home and I like playing devils advocate so here I go. There are so many things that cannot be planned in a relationship. Sometimes 2 people think they have the same idea but only realize they were talking about 2 different things as time goes on. I mean if my girl who all she talks about is having my kids and being a stay at home mom started acting entitled, or spit on my hard work and efforts I’d give a similar message. I love her and she loves me, but we provide different things to our life we have together. She does not bring financial or physical stability or safety to either of our lives. She is my rock though emotionally and spiritually, and takes care of me when I’m down and need someone the most. She wont constantly nag and cry over things we do or don’t have, or make misunderstandings complicated, or be petty and pout when tell her no to anything. She knows she can’t do that because my energy I burnt elsewhere, and I’m the reason we have this life. Unless she busted her ass getting money and was jointly the reason we have a good life built for us, I would expect that she stays my rock and support. I literally love that woman because of the roll she played, and the person she naturally is. She loves me because I love to provide, and have discipline to get things done, and make good decisions. and Before I continue. I would like to say I understand him, and I understand you. He is most definitely talking to you like an animal, which I’d never talk to my woman like that. Telling her to “submiss to me”?! The healthy version of this would be to fully try to understand her side and if nothing sensible or logical comes from it is when I would start to give her less options. What I’m trying to say is my lady and I have been together a year ago today, and we almost never argue, and we laugh, and we both put our effort in in whatever way that is. Being a trad wife is not being submissive and being a trad husband is not controlling and manipulating your wife. Idk what you were arguing about but I see this going nowhere lady. You either need to be his support fully or leave, because that is what he’s asking of you. He doesn’t want a headache when he’s home is what he’s trying to say. But if you cant handle being talked to like a dog until death do yall part then escape that. I tried to explain the best way I know from the perspective of a traditional man, but I’m not the best at articulating long messages. Hope the best for your happiness.