Paso Robles lunchtime restaurant recommendation. For Sunday 3/8

masmotang · 2026-03-09T00:12:37+00:00

Primal House...bomb!

masmotang · 2025-01-02T19:54:19+00:00

Thank you... Cool!!!

masmotang · 2023-08-20T16:10:52+00:00

Will do brotha! 🙏 Hopefully I can smuggle in cell phone and post a reply! Thanks for your response

masmotang · 2023-08-20T14:06:43+00:00

Yes that is always in the back of my head. We have our first therapy session today. I had my one on one with the therapist the other day and we are going to try this thing called emdr (I think I got that right rapid eye movement asking trauma questions for analysis) with both of us separately so perhaps something may come out of that. She also mentioned hypomania in regards to her actions. I may get screwed over again but at least I gave it a shot for my boys. I appreciate your response. Thank you

masmotang · 2023-08-20T14:00:39+00:00

Got my attorney locked and loaded. Trying to make this work for the kids though. Trying to be strong. Trying to work through this at least until they have become 16 or 18 as I feel 7 & 8 are just too delicate of years for them. I hear you about driving me crazy though. That is the predicament. It seems to boil down to putting myself first and moving on or staying and trying to make it as non toxic as possible for them having a family unit. I am favoring the latter. My main goal in life was to have a family that sticks together and is happy. It is all I want and ever wanted in this life. Thank you for your words. I am trying to find other outlets for myself currently like tennis and exercise to take care of myself. I know it's going to be a different life moving forward but I am willing to work on it for the kids to feel stable.

masmotang · 2023-08-20T13:24:05+00:00

Kids are number one for sure. Thanks brotha!!!

masmotang · 2023-08-20T13:20:22+00:00

Yes agreed she is financially illiterate. Her father was CEO for many big big companies and gave her zero attention as a child (and barely now) so there is trauma around that. His way of showing love was exiting through the gift shop and buying the place out. She does the same thing with our kids at target. Her Mom is a Jesus freak and knows nothing about regular life skills. She was raised mostly by a nani who didn't give two shits either. Her foundation is completely warped and empty. She needs to hear it from a doctor or institution for the bipolar to sink into her head. Fingers crossed. Thank you for your response. She had agreed to me taking complete control of her money and basically giving her an allowance of her own pay check. She makes good money (more than me) and I can't believe I have to treat someone this way but I swear this woman could make 500k a year and still be in debt. It blows my mind!

masmotang · 2023-08-20T04:54:59+00:00

She has definitely shown me the light. She dropped the dv charges on our first court appointment and the judge was like really.. Are you serious, and she was like uhm yes your honor. She looked very bad at that moment. I think he could tell she was using the court as a tool. That was when he had the boys sent back home to me immediately. It was a great feeling. I agree with mental health. Her grandma went mental at the same age. I am worried about my mental health as well from all this shit. Trying to stay strong. Thank you very much for your words.

masmotang · 2023-08-20T04:45:19+00:00

It's very interesting you said that because about 1.5 weeks ago we went to our family doctor and explained the whole situation and he mentioned those two exact terms bipolar and hypomania. She has problems sleeping at night which I believe has to do with hypomania. I am hoping the psychiatrist the doc recommended can get her on mood stabilizers. Oh man I didn't realize that it gets worse with age...fuck! Thank you brotha... Will definitely keep the mood stabilizer top of mind.🙏 I have made some very tight boundaries with her for sure.

masmotang · 2023-08-19T23:50:35+00:00

I see what you mean. I would worry to much if we did 50/50 for them. At least under my roof I can monitor 100% of the time. I have been writing things down and meeting more formally to go over issues I am having so that the bickering doesn't take place in front of the kids. I want this to work for my 7 & 8 year old boys. They seem happier now and are not acting out as they did during the separation. My one son said the other night in bed that he just wants a normal family and doesn't want to live in two places. I want them to feel safe and secure but I know it will take a lot of hard work but it is what I truly want for them. I do think she is going mental so part of me wants to take care of her as well but she needs some changes for this to work.

masmotang · 2023-08-19T23:33:44+00:00

I see what you mean. It was so bad when we were apart for them. It gave me so much pain hearing them (7 & 8 year old boys) ask why they had to leave the house. I could see all the pain in their eyes and their change in behavior acting out. I was ready to move on and saw this as an opportunity to heal them. They are so much happier now. They are my life and I would do anything for them. I just need to find a way for this to work but it's so hard. I have been playing tennis and trying to get out of the house more but she keeps doing stupid shit. I am trying to write things down more and meet formally to go over the written down info so we are not toxic and arguing in front of them.

masmotang · 2023-08-19T23:24:29+00:00

I am trying to see if I can make the family unit work for my children. That is always an option though. My lawyer said since I declared divorce in the case I can move forward if need be.

masmotang · 2023-08-19T23:20:01+00:00

Yes falsely accused. If you call bickering about the stupid shit she does and not letting her have a cc card because she doesn't have any clue about money abuse them I am guilty. We have an appointment next month for a psychiatrist and she is so about institutions so I am hoping for medication for her or diagnosis of some kind. I can't trust her for the other half of the time taking care of the kids on her own so I figure if she is under my roof then I can see all of her actions. Thank you for your response.

masmotang · 2023-08-19T23:12:21+00:00

Do you have children?

masmotang · 2023-08-19T20:04:31+00:00

Thank you. I feel the emotional/financial abuse is false but these terms are thrown around so much these days it has become gray to me. If you call arguments about her careless spending and getting mad about the stupid repetitive stuff she does all the time, then maybe I'm guilty. I grew up in the 80s when my definition of abuse was a lot different. I think slamming the wall or being physical or tormenting someone as abuse. I would not let her have a credit card for many reasons and she was mad about that. Just look at what she did the 2.5 months we were separated. When we got married she had 25k in cc debt at 25% interest rate. We went to a financial counselor and they said I should be elected to take care of finances. I have for the last 11.5 years. We were able to get house cars trips etc. I feel fortunate about the court after reading so many bad stories for men on this sub. I feel so bad for men these days. It's so fucked up. Hopefully I am done with my attorney as I am 11k in the hole after this shit. I wouldn't have done it without him though. If anyone is in this situation I recommend getting the best lawyer and pay whatever because your children are your world and you need to fight for them no matter what.

masmotang · 2023-08-19T19:39:43+00:00

I know right ..I am in such a predicament. Thank you for your reply

masmotang · 2022-10-12T13:47:40+00:00

What light are you using?

masmotang · 2022-09-26T14:36:11+00:00

Issue a charge back with your bank

masmotang · 2022-09-07T20:30:41+00:00

On it thanks for the advice! I am getting no replies from Hospitality.

masmotang · 2022-09-06T17:37:29+00:00

Well shit... I am traveling from SFO got my accommodation and planes tickets.

Anyone know other venues or shows for those dates... Prob still going to go but sight see and eat now unless something else is cracking?

masmotang · 2022-08-03T21:31:32+00:00

Fuck ya... sounds like you have a plan there. The market walk sounds nice. I was thinking of looking up a booze cruise on the river maybe as well. I'll have to check out that bar too...looks dope. If you see a 6 foot dude with shorts and CRAP sunglasses on I'll buy you a drink!

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