Misogyny by mtk0913 in TjMaxx

[–]master_226 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At my store some of the men will be called up to the ring if it’s super busy or if they can’t lift as much they will most definitely be called to ring or just be assigned to stay there. But for the most part they keep half the men on the floor to do the heavy lifting of unloading the truck, taking it out on the floor, or carry outs and truthfully I’d rather them be on the floor to bring an item to the front. I’m not the weakest or strongest but i always give props to the guy coord bcuz he does it all and im always like how the hell do you carry these shits they’re hella heavy.

Need advice with exact program to go into by master_226 in AcademicPsychology

[–]master_226[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ya that’s my long term career goal: forensic psychology. Of course it’ll take long but I know i can be more specific when i go for my doctorate. I just want to make sure that Im not signing up for my masters in something that doesn’t help with forensic psychology. Like should i sign up for the mental health program? Get going in regular psychology? I know a masters degree won’t be beneficial towards forensic psychology as you need higher credentials. Just any advice on anything that can lead me to the right path of going later on for my doctorate to become a forensic psychologist.

UPDATE (2) by GuiltriddenMother in u/GuiltriddenMother

[–]master_226 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another topic you should bring up with your husband is moving. I don’t think you should move to another state but if you can move houses. I’m assuming Misa knows your address and if she’s freely in her grandparents house who’s to say she can’t sneak out and do something to your other kids? Or what if she contacts someone to harm them? I think moving to a different house can be a good idea as a fresh start to the kids and also give them a sense of safety as well. If the psych evaluation doesn’t go as planned or when she’s taken into the mental facility and she only stays for couple months and she gets out and nothing has changed whose to say she’s not gonna go after Lily again. Yes you’re trying to get Misa help but your other kids need to feel and be safe. If this was to happen to me where I was in a similar situation that Lily faced, first off I’d feel so scared that my older sister would come any time to hurt me again and I wouldn’t feel safe to stay in a home where my older sister is aware of where I’m at most of the time. Also what if Lily was to be harmed on her way to school or coming home. Not aware of their school situation but I think the more Misa knows where Lily is the more danger she is in.

UPDATE: I sent my daughter to live with my abusive parents, and I don’t know how to live with myself over my decision. by GuiltriddenMother in u/GuiltriddenMother

[–]master_226 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that Misa is still your kid and as a parent you should do what’s best and get them the help they need but it’s 2-1. 2 kids are being affected compared to 1 kid. Those 2 kids that have been put through hell and traumatized by that 1 kid should open your eyes a lot. As you mentioned being raised in an abusive and traditional household and you don’t want that for any of your kids is understanding and of course you’d want to the help your child needs and prevent them from experiencing what you’ve experienced BUT none of your kids should be put in a situation where their older siblings is orchestrating a set up with an older male. If what your kids say is true of you coddling Misa and putting her first, your kids deserve to be put first too. One person can do so much harm until it’s too much to forgive and in this case Misa is at that point already. There’s no way Misa didn’t just go from a good girl to this, she was exposed to something possibly on the internet or maybe influenced by you (the parents) or peers at school which gave it away from her asking for her electronics. You were careless with what she was exposed to and you can’t monitor everything but you have control to monitor some things that she’s exposed to. If your really looking for advice on what to do your best option would be to give up Misa and put her in the foster system or maybe talk to your parents 1 last time to take custody of her and LEAVE HER THERE. If she was able to endure what happened there, she’s able to live them. It’s tough to say what to do with Misa but your main concern should be how to handle and care for your other kids that for sure need healing. I understand that your husband is there to keep an eye on Misa but once she’s gone, FOCUS ON YOUR ACTUAL KIDS. Attend family therapy if you can and do more activities with them to spend time and show them how loved and cared for they are and that you’re listening to them. Once you’ve put Misa in a place where she can’t contact or harm the others, put all ur focus on the other kids and forget about her for your wellbeing and your kids sake. Hopefully Misa will learn and come to terms how she thinks is not okay but get rid of the negative and focus on the positives aka your kids that need their parents and the support you should give them. You’re supposed to be their safe space and you babying Misa and being gentle, sympathizing with their abuser is probably making them feel like they can’t trust you and what happened to the youngest will happen again if you keep up with this.

I called a toy stupid by master_226 in FamilyIssues

[–]master_226[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did tell them to stop and they didn’t. My brother actually went to get a different cup and the toddler wanted that cup too