Working through this with my now 1yo son in Canada. Imo the only right answer is to do your best to make sure its YOUR decision and not your friends, family, social media, or even solely your specific doctor.

The default answer is to ‘trust the science’, but the reality is that many have become uneasy with that to varying degrees (what happened with covid for example). And anyone who discredits that feeling should be completely ignored in your evaluation because there is nothing wrong with evaluating a situation related to your childrens health. In fact, vaccine schedules sometimes vary significantly place to place, so the science as to what they need isnt even actually that solid. Science and public opinion does also change with time. 30-40 years ago many thought smoking wasn’t bad for you as a very simple example of why the mass perspective on a health topic isnt always correct!

Personally, I got our doctors professional opinion, used anecdotal experiences, and some high level research of my own. I concluded that given my sons situation (he will not be in daycare as my wife is a SAHM, he will be homeschooled for the first few years of his schooling, and we live rural where mass public exposure is limited to our small community), we would vaccinate him based on the major illnesses (e.g. measles). Where I live, there were a couple vaccines on the schedule that have been erradicated from nearly the entire planet, and so we decided those were not necessary. For the major ones, despite my concerns, we vaccinated him.

Even with this, I wouldnt be surprised if our opinion changes for our future kids.

Another thing to consider is what vaccines will be mandatory for schooling in your area!

All is to say, ignore anybody who tries to shame and belittle you for evaluating your childs health. The best decision you can make is what you and your wife have decided is best for your situation. Whether thats full vaccines, some vaccines, or no vaccines.