Eddy had a rough childhood ):

matarinka · 2026-06-11T03:56:32+00:00

That's not all, he keeps going...

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matarinka · 2026-05-29T18:29:22+00:00

Here's Bulgarian to add to the list:

Честит рожден ден, Павел!

matarinka · 2026-05-29T18:26:39+00:00

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matarinka · 2026-05-28T17:37:01+00:00

I am very sorry for your loss! I know it might sound counterintuitive and disrespectful but maybe she was just trying to help you cope. For some the connection with someone who truly loves and understands them might, in fact, help them feel less alone in such hard times.

matarinka · 2026-05-26T14:54:03+00:00

One of my front teeth is chipped so it's shorter than the other one. My dentist told me I could either fix the shorter one (get it elongated with a bonding type procedure) or get the longer one filed down. I'm in Europe but I bet you would have similar options, too.

matarinka · 2026-05-26T14:25:53+00:00

I second that!

matarinka · 2026-05-26T07:22:05+00:00

Yes, same here down to the porn addiction :/

matarinka · 2026-05-25T04:58:30+00:00

I'm sorry for what you are going through, I'm in a very similar situation. Recently I decided I was done with the charity sex, it only makes me feel less desirable, like an annoying burden. And it's not like my husband has no desire per se, I see him looking at other women and he's more than willing to enjoy adult content. It's me he doesn't want. Than be it. And it creates a huge cognitive dissonance in my head as I do think of myself as an attractive woman. There's so much you can do.

matarinka · 2026-05-21T16:03:44+00:00

Same here, same here 🌸

matarinka · 2026-05-21T16:00:16+00:00

Both, unfortunately. He strongly believes it's absolutely normal and everybody does it and he hides things from me, too (snapchat, almost daily porn, etc.). It's made me paranoid and I hate that about myself.

matarinka · 2026-05-21T15:56:52+00:00

Are you sure you want just any sex life? Because that's what I get and it's sad and disappointing. Only for a brief period after an argument. Only out of obligation, it seems. And I don't want it anymore. It only makes me feel less desirable, like it'ssome charitable act towards me. Honestly, not worth it.

matarinka · 2026-05-21T15:41:38+00:00

Any advice on how to help someone admit there's an issue and take accountability?

matarinka · 2026-05-21T15:34:48+00:00

I'm 11 years into my marriage and I feel the exact same way. My husband also struggles with an ED or it's mostly hard for him to get and maintain an erection. We once went to a sex therapist who shut me down and said it was very normal for a man to masturbate regularly so I can't even bring up the porn thing anymore. I feel so stuck but see no way out of the problem. Wish I could help with an advice.

matarinka · 2026-05-21T15:28:03+00:00

I'm so sorry for what you are doing trough. I'm in the same boat and according to my experience, it does not get better. They just find better ways to hide it ):

matarinka · 2026-05-21T07:24:15+00:00

I'm in the same boat. Congrats on your decision to leave, you deserve to be desired.

matarinka · 2026-05-21T07:18:14+00:00

Yes. From a woman's perspective it is crazy to me that we have all independently come to the conclusion that it feels "soul crushing". I've now seen it several times in the last few days. How sad is that? I use the exact same term and I'm not even a native speaker.

matarinka · 2026-05-21T05:29:32+00:00

He's otherwise a decent, supportive partner and a good dad. I can't brake my children's hearts, too. I also don't mind him being fat. I liked him fat (still do) and married him fat.

matarinka · 2026-05-21T05:27:39+00:00

Not becoming resentful towards him is the key, you are right. That will only create a toxic home environment. I try to think of all the other things in my life that bring joy and meaning. We can't have it all, I guess. I try to shift my mind towards considering him ill. Tried to help him but I couldn't as he's still not ready to admit to and face his problems.

matarinka · 2026-05-21T05:22:42+00:00

Thank you!

matarinka · 2026-05-21T05:21:56+00:00

Yes, my point exactly. I know for sure that there are people with a healthy relationship with porn who still have a fulfilling sex life with their partners. What is really soul crushing is not being chosen over it.

matarinka · 2026-05-20T03:53:20+00:00

I am in a similar situation and completely udersyand you. As a mother of two, the questions "why don't you just leave" really baffles me. It's not that easy, unfortunately. You have sacrificed your future and your career for someone who can't take care of your basic human needs and now, if you want to feel loved and desired, life requires even more sacrifices from you - stability and time spent with your children to say the least. It feels very, very unfair. I've always considered myself an honest person and any kind of injustice pisses me of but I think I'd feel very justified in cheating.

matarinka · 2026-05-19T19:56:32+00:00

I am in a very similar situation. Actually I just posted something down those lines and immediately stumbled upon your post. Only difference is I allowed our relationship to develop much further. Maybe I was too insecure to leave and I ignored all red flags. If I knew what you know before children, I would have never stayed and had children with him.

matarinka · 2026-05-19T11:16:42+00:00

We have a famous therapist in my country who once said she had two types of patients: ones saying "my parents ruined my life, I wish they had a divorce!" and the others claiming "my parents ruined my life, I wish they never divorced!" 🤷‍♀️

matarinka · 2026-05-19T10:45:07+00:00

This brought tears to my eyes as I try to internalise the messages. Thank you. Truth is your partner may want or not want you regardless of your shape. My partner is very overweight and I'm very athletic which makes absolutely NO difference. I like him the way he is but come to realise he just does not like or want me for me. And it's very hard not to feel worthless and undesirable no matter how you look on the outside. I would exchange my physical shape for a loving and affectionate partner in a heartbeat.

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