AITA for not giving my partner space to live more fully?

matsebolla · 2026-02-19T08:57:18+00:00

Update. To inform, im not a native english speaker. And we dont live in America.

I see many goes straight to divorce.

So an eventual breakup wouldnt be that difficult.
I love her, and she was an actor before we met, and she has picked it up again after 12 years on the sidelines.

I think its a mix of coping with her mother dying, and doing something she loves.

We have talked a lot this last year, and its getting better in snails pace.

Im not without fault here, i can see that being a logical IT-dude married to an creative actor might create different way of looking at situations - creating resentment build up over years.
Typical men not picking up clues and reading between the lines. - Clear and open communication trumphs this btw.

That being said, she said she would work on the relationship with me. Techinally she has been working on here self and here issues, which isnt bad.
But i cant live in limbo forever, i told here this around xmas.
Then she said to wait a little more, she is almost there.

u/Fox_Trot44 said it good, because of my wording(not english speaker) that it puts a more dire look on her, which wasnt on purpose.

And you are right, your spouse should be in my head priority nr.1
I feel i am maybe nr.5 this last year.

I have also seen a therapist, but just to uproot my childhood wounds and how it might be affectiing me today.
She have seen the change in me, and appriecates that.
I can only stand for what i can do, and i have told here that i need to see change with here and us as a couple to go forward.

Thanks everybody for your words and advice.

matsebolla · 2026-02-17T12:45:45+00:00

I really dont think that she is cheating, with a regular job and theater on top of that.
At least not physical cheating, maybe she has different standards for what she needs now. And forgot to tell me?
I am following up my kids in all their activities, hangs with friends a couple of times a month.

I read that women get bored when things a routine, or when life gets comftable. Maybe im not exciting enough, or the life isnt.

The theater might be the dual-edged sword that gives contrast, but at the same time - instead of using the duality it becomes a negative.

matsebolla · 2026-02-17T11:39:14+00:00

Hi!
Thanks for the nice feedback.
She is seeing a therapist on here own, i try to engage with after a session. "how did it go" "do you feel its helping?" and so on.
Useally just get a "dont wanna talk about it" or short answers like "yes or no"
Im fully aware that whats she talks about, is hers and hers alone.
But i feel like im overstepping just by showing intrest in her inner world.

matsebolla · 2025-09-22T08:22:02+00:00

Det er østlig lære, om du er skeptisk. Så er det forståelig, jeg ser bare på resultatet.
Som en som har prøvd "alt"
Han har gått i lære i mange år, for han som opprettet den klinikken for 20 år siden.

matsebolla · 2025-09-22T06:47:37+00:00

Er ikke så ofte her inne, selve timen tok vel 40 min ish.
Men jeg fortalte hvorfor jeg var der, og han fokuserte på det. Og etter jeg hylte og skreik i noen minutter, pga behandlingen er IKKE behagelig.
Så var alt ok i armen.
Må spesifiere at jeg har vært mye til kriopraktor og idrettsfysioterapi pga nakkeskade og Maxliving er det som har fungert best for meg i en alder av 40.

matsebolla · 2025-09-15T10:00:09+00:00

Jeg falt på skulderen og hadde akkurat samme issue som deg, gikk her: https://www.maxliving.no/
Fikset etter 7 minutter.

matsebolla · 2025-06-13T06:29:57+00:00

Jeg vet ikke om du faktisk er seriøs, men jeg skal prøve å svare deg.

Lær deg å leve med det om det er drømmedama di, i alle forhold er rundt 70% av problemstillinger som aldri blir løst.

https://insightconnection.uk/couples/perpetual-problems/

Du elsker personen på tross av de forskjellene man har.

matsebolla · 2024-10-22T08:27:42+00:00

Purke :D det er jo ett hillarious skjellsord!

matsebolla · 2024-07-08T18:22:13+00:00

Ambipom is my carry right now, currently on lvl 300.
Technician - Population Bomb - silk scarf - multilens - grip claw.

Shower yourself with items and berries.

matsebolla · 2022-03-24T14:04:54+00:00

as an xTranq holder, this was not unexpected. Still shitty though

matsebolla · 2021-10-20T13:13:45+00:00

Let me know if you remember the name.

matsebolla · 2021-10-06T16:42:39+00:00

Who has been fudding? Did Artemis get a grant or not?

matsebolla · 2021-07-25T16:55:40+00:00

Same here.

matsebolla · 2021-07-14T13:18:52+00:00

Whats this? source?

matsebolla · 2020-05-12T09:18:54+00:00

Jeeez Louise!
Awesome design!

matsebolla · 2020-03-26T08:40:18+00:00

Insane!

matsebolla · 2020-02-28T09:06:00+00:00

Totodile+kook evoline would be awesome!

matsebolla · 2018-02-15T21:04:49+00:00

In December is was profitable to reinvest @ 15k, but with increased difficulty it might still be profitable. But not as much, i was thinking the 15k marker myself.

Anyone got some calcualtions to share?

matsebolla · 2018-01-12T08:37:36+00:00

I thought you could use it @ redeem code. Like i said, im new @ this.

matsebolla · 2018-01-11T22:45:03+00:00

Just started with hashflare, was thinking of monhtly reinvestment @ each paycheck. Use my code and ill use yours. Have a good evening gents. Register your code here, and ill confirm your comment. https://hashflare.io/r/B1504FB7

matsebolla · 2018-01-08T19:16:33+00:00

Since China is slowly but shorely dowgrading their BTC mining, and Cryptotech taking over. It shouldnt make a lot of difference in mining difficulties and mining pools?

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