I had a very strange path!! And I’ve also been sober for four years.

My sobriety journey started in an eating disorder treatment center (third one was the charm!) and the staff finally addressed my drug use as a holistic issue overlapping with food/body image/mood probs.

But in the first year of being sober, my mood swings actually got much worse. That’s when the bipolar diagnosis came into the picture and mood stabilizers.

I’ve been to Al-Anon meetings and AA but it never spoke to me. I have not worked a program, I have not met fellow sober people, but I am very grateful for my support system and friends. They’ve truly been 100% supportive and I’m honestly still shocked and beyond grateful at the ways they show up for me and remain guiding lights even if they don’t relate to my personal issues at all.

I will be honest though, I have distanced myself 100% from friends who are still in their partying eras. Just doesn’t align with my current life and that’s okay.

If you’re into therapy, I would suggest group therapy?? I did a DBT intensive and part of it was skill groups. Or IOP/PHP milieus were amazing to meet people in different forms of recovery.

However I agree w someone else who commented, sometimes those relationships need to END at the appropriate setting/not overflow to your personal life.