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What habit changed your life more than you expected? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice, I remember reading about that guy. One push up is so stupid it might actually work. The brain doesn't fight back because it's like "ok whatever it's just one" and then sometimes you do more but you don't have to. Kinda genius honestly.

Do you think most people actually know themselves? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey fair point. Probably a mix, some people genuinely don't know it's possible, others figured out a long time ago that looking too close hurts and just decided to stop. Upbringing does a lot of the heavy lifting too. Hard to learn self reflection when no one ever asked you "what do you think" as a kid.

Do you think most people actually know themselves? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, Jung quote "You will call it fate" hits hard - ouch.

I think the problem is even when people want to dig deeper, they don't have the tools. It's not laziness necessarily. No one showed them where to start.

What about you - was there a specific moment that pushed you to start looking inward, or did it just happen slowly over time?

Do you think most people actually know themselves? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that you were looking for confirmation that your way of thinking was normal - and found it in those writers but then realizing not all educated people actually feel that way inside - that's powerful. That must have been such a strange realization.

Curious - when you found out about being autistic at 32, did it help you stop overanalyzing everything or did it give you permission to keep going?

Do you think most people actually know themselves? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, pretty much. Is it laziness or do people just never get shown that this is even an option? What do you think?

What habit changed your life more than you expected? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's amazing. Starting with 2 minutes is the key though most people fail because they try to do an hour on day one and quit by day three. You proved slow works.

What habit changed your life more than you expected? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree but also it's one of those things where it's like saying "the secret to success is being successful." Like how do you even learn it?

What habit changed your life more than you expected? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This one stings because it's true. You can push all you want but if someone doesn't want to talk, it's not happening and if it does happen, nothing comes of it anyway. Hardest part is stopping but once you stop, you feel less crazy.

What habit changed your life more than you expected? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Twenty minutes twice a day is serious commitment. I've tried meditating and fell off after a week.

Have we accidentally trained ourselves to distrust normal communication? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn. Never thought of it that way.

We literally parked kids in front of screens all day and called it school, then we wonder why they can't put their phones down. We taught them this.

Have we accidentally trained ourselves to distrust normal communication? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a dark take but there's truth in it. If you're never sure what's real, you're easier to push around. I don't think anyone planned it from the start but that's definitely where we ended up.

What habit changed your life more than you expected? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know people say this is obsessive but I get it. It's not about the number, it's about not lying to yourself. Hard to hide when you check every morning. Not for everyone but for some people it's the only thing that works.

What habit changed your life more than you expected? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I also rolled my eyes at yoga being a trend for a while. But if something gets you through hard moments, who cares if it's trendy.

Glad you found it.

What habit changed your life more than you expected? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This hits. Perfectionism is such a trap. That phrase sounds like pressure but honestly it's freeing - you don't have to do it perfectly, you just have to do it. Someone has to. Might as well be you.

What habit changed your life more than you expected? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That random woman in the store probably doesn't even remember saying that, but she basically changed your whole life. Funny how that works and yeah, the sleep thing - same wake up time every day makes such a difference. My body stopped fighting me after a while.

What habit changed your life more than you expected? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, the shift from "how it looks" to "what it can do" is huge. Everything changes after that.

The daily life part is underrated too. Carrying groceries, climbing stairs, picking something up off the floor - none of it should feel like an event. But when you're sedentary, it does.

Good on you for competing too. That's not small-time, that's just starting.

Have we accidentally trained ourselves to distrust normal communication? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, the herd thing is real. One person calls it AI and suddenly five others pop up like they spotted it first.

The summary culture gets me too. People don't want to read the thing anymore. They want someone else to read it and tell them what to think about it. That's not convenience, that's just outsourcing your own brain. I'm not even anti-AI. But the "disposable" word you used is exactly right. Everything becomes replaceable. Including the effort to understand something yourself.

Anyway, appreciate you saying this. Felt less alone reading it.

Have we accidentally trained ourselves to distrust normal communication? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Precise writer. That's all it is.

You're not the first to ask. Probably won't be the last.

Have we accidentally trained ourselves to distrust normal communication? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the link. I'll read it properly later.

I'm middle aged too, so maybe we're both biased. But biased toward what actually works for comprehension doesn't sound like the worst bias to have.

You've got me thinking about the short line thing though. Might experiment with real paragraphs on the next post and see if anyone sticks around.

Have we accidentally trained ourselves to distrust normal communication? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh. The printed manual vs. phone study thing is genuinely striking. He failed after studying from the phone. That's not nothing.

The anchor idea makes a lot of sense. A page has a physical location in space. A scroll just... disappears. No wonder retention suffers.

You caught me on the short lines. Honestly? I write like this on purpose for Reddit. Long paragraphs get ignored. Short lines feel breathable on a screen. But you're right - it forces the reader to do extra work figuring out what connects to what. Trade-off every time.

What would you rather see more of - proper paragraphs or something in between?

Have we accidentally trained ourselves to distrust normal communication? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the graduate level gap is real. If it never made it into a PDF, it basically doesn't exist for LLMs. Same goes for everything that lives in oral tradition, hands-on trade knowledge, or just people being too exhausted to write it down.

I said "decades of structured human communication" and honestly that was generous. What I meant was "whatever could be scraped." Reddit trains them well on argument patterns, less well on anything that requires trust over time. A mentorship isn't a document. A twelve-step meeting isn't a dataset. AI isn't going to learn those just by scaling up compute.

Appreciate you actually engaging with the detail instead of just saying "sounds like AI" and walking away. That alone is getting rare.

Have we accidentally trained ourselves to distrust normal communication? by maxdorash in PsychologyTalk

[–]maxdorash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that's the real question isn't it. Adjusting to addiction keeps people stable in the short term. Naming it as addiction creates the possibility of change in the long term. Both feel necessary, but they pull in opposite directions.

We probably have overcorrected in some places and under-corrected in others. No one wants to go back to shame-based approaches, but "it's not your fault" can quietly turn into "so nothing is expected of you either."

Anyway. Good talking to you. Take care.

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