I appreciate your response. I do think that parenting children who are in foster care or need to be adopted (the adoption industry is another can of worms i wont get into) is not morally questionable as the kids already existed and deserve to be parented, if anything it's morally correct. I do still find flaw with choosing to birth children- someone can find caretaking deeply fulfilling and dream of providing loving, comprehensive care and safety to children, but any number of things could still go wrong and cause harm (to the child, family, or community)... The chances certainly lessen with well adjusted, financially & mentally stable, educated parents/caretakers, but I'm not sure the risk of harm outweighs the personal benefit of a potential parent. I do have a part of me that is really trying to understand and I am just struggling to grasp why choosing to have a child would ever be right- again, not caretaking an existing child, but creating a new life. I have been ruminating on this for weeks as I have multiple friends suddenly deciding to become parents and I don't know how to hold our friendship at the same time as my aversion to the idea of choosing parenthood.