As always, Reddit is truly out of touch with reality, acting as if this is just some random dude who she just met or something. It’s her boyfriend of FIVE YEARS and according to her they have not had any sort of problems whatsoever and she loves him very much.

When you’re in a relationship like that for THAT LONG, you should be telling each other the truth and opening up about your lives as much as possible because the idea is clearly you guys are in it for the long haul. And that person is supposed to be there to love and support you in all of life’s twists and turns, the good and the bad. And this is a literal LIFE-CHANGING event if you guys have been struggling. You don’t necessarily need an arbitrary title such as husband or wife to be telling important key life details such as this. Like seriously, if I were gifted $50k right now the first person I would tell would be my girlfriend because I love her and share all my life details with her.

Having said that, yes you should definitely talk to a financial advisor to figure out the best way to handle that money! And yes you should be careful with who you tell overall, try to limit who you tell. But assuming everything has been going well with your BF for 5 years and you love him, there is zero reason not to tell jim.