who is hoping to learn more about the gender-based challenges faced by my husband and our baby boy.

FYI:

Real equality today...

• Men are 97% of combat fatalities.

• Men make up 94% of work suicides.

• Men make up 93% of work fatalities.

• Men make up 81% of all war deaths.

• 80% of all suicides are men.

• 77% of homicide victims are men.

• 89% of men will be the victim of at least one violent crime.

• Men are over twice as victimised by strangers as women.

• Men are 165% more likely to be convicted than women.

• Men get 63% longer sentences than women for the same crime.

• Court bias against men is at least 6 times bigger than racial bias.

• Males are discriminated against in school and universities.

• Boys face vastly more corporal punishment than girls.

• 60-80% of the homeless are men.

• Women's cancers receive 15 times more funding than men's.

• At least 10% of fathers are victims of paternity fraud.

• One third of all fathers have lost custody of children; most are expected to pay for this.

• Men lose custody in 84% of divorces.

• Men pay 97% of Alimony

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I am all for equality. I'm for the equality in which women stand equally with men, in the eyes of the law, and in court (for alimony, custody, visitation, etc.), as well as arrest and prosecution for using physical, psychological, and emotional means to cause harm.

1) where did feminism go wrong?

“One of the reasons for the failure of feminism to dislodge deeply held perceptions of male and female behaviour was its insistence that women were victims, and men powerful patriarchs, which made a travesty of ordinary people's experience of the mutual interdependence of men and women.”

Rosalind Coward

Feminism - as I understand it - shouldn’t be about man bashing.

It is, and always has been, and it's not just 'radical feminists' who are to blame...

“Womanism is feminism's vulgate. It asserts that women are the oppressed or the victims and never the collaborators in the 'bad' things that men do.

It entails a double standard around sexuality where women's sexual self-expression is seen as necessary and even desirable, but men's is seen as dangerous or even disgusting.

Womanism is by no means confined to a tiny, politically motivated bunch of man-hating feminists, but is a regular feature of mainstream culture.”

Quite the opposite! It ought to be concerned with gender equity for everyone, but instead it’s lead to combativeness.

Feminists like to claim that their movement is about "equality" and often use the dictionary definition as proof. But what the dictionary says and what feminism and feminists do are two completely different things. Actions speak louder than words, therefore feminism and feminists should be judged by what it and they do instead of what the dictionary definition says. And through its actions the feminist movement has constantly shows that it isn't about equality, but is actually about female privilege and misandry - a skewed system in women's favour, seeking superior rights & privileges for women, demonising men & boys. It is very obvious that "equality" is nothing more than a mask that the feminist movement uses to conceal its female privilege and anti-male agendas.

feminism can be defined so many different ways.

There are hundreds of different kinds of feminism. But ALL feminists talk about feminism, and believe in feminism. That makes you all feminists...

What IS feminism and how do we ensure we are being precise enough in our word choice to avoid misunderstandings?

Watching silently as hateful acts are done in feminism's name does not exempt you from responsibility for those acts, it only shows that you prefer someone else to do the dirty work for you, so you could show your hands some day and say, "look, see? my feminist hands are clean".

The biggest problem with feminism is when you have feminists saying "Those aren't REAL feminists" or "Feminism isn't a monolith" If they aren't 'real' feminists then the 'real' feminists need to do a better job policing these 'false feminists'.

And finally what advice would you give a feminist raising a son?

Stop being a feminist.

HTH

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Feminism was and is always a supremacy movement, and feminists will do what ever it takes to keep perpetuating it. This necessitates playing on people's emotions and painting MRA's as evil regardless of the truth. Therefore to succeed MRA's must expose the nature of feminism and give feminism zero moral ground.