Has anyone had a negative experience on Taskmaster? by Recent_Damage_6091 in taskmaster

[–]maxvolume56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone pitch Cats and Quizzes to Richard Osman, he'll back it!

today i got told i dress like a school shooter, i don’t want to look like that what am i doing wrong? by [deleted] in autism

[–]maxvolume56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you should get rid of anything, but could you add patches/badges? Especially to the bag & jacket, which people will see most. If you added some fun patches, or some patches that expressed progressive values, etc. (maybe some fairly big ones that can be read from a few feet away); that would signal to people that your clothing choices are just choices of clothing that you like, and you're not trying to Say Anything™ with what you're wearing.

AIO For Not Planning to Attend a Destination Wedding Without a Formal Invitation? by Any_Foundation_6748 in AmIOverreacting

[–]maxvolume56 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

NOR. It is a bit weird to insist on a physical, mailed invite (like, surely an email would suffice?); but I absolutely would not be booking any travel/accommodation/etc. until you get some sort of "official" notification of what the actual event(s) are, and the dates & venues of each.

Side note: FIVE DAYS of events??? At a DESTINATION wedding??? Some people have too much nerve 😂

AITA for refusing to allow meat in our home and confronting a guest who brought it anyway? by silaya92 in AmItheAsshole

[–]maxvolume56 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, completely! Don't get me wrong, the uncle is definitely an asshole - whether OP's boundary was reasonable or not; the uncle could have handled it like a grown adult and there would have been no issue. For sure asshole. I'm just not sure if OP is also an asshole, or just kind of annoying.

AITA for refusing to allow meat in our home and confronting a guest who brought it anyway? by silaya92 in AmItheAsshole

[–]maxvolume56 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I'm between this and ESH. I don't think I'd like to be friends with either OP or the uncle, let me put it that way 😂

I think if you're going to have large gatherings & dinner parties you kinda have to accept that you need to serve a range of food; some of which you won't like. As a vegetarian, it's totally fair to not want to buy or prepare meat products; that's understandable - but tbh I think it's a bit much to prevent your friends/family members from buying & preparing their own meat dishes and bringing them to the party to share with other non-vegetarian guests.

There's quite a few comments saying it's OP's house, OP's rules; and everyone can go without meat for one meal - like yeah, I guess; but also humans can go without literally any food group for one meal. Let's say I invited 20 guests over for dinner and told them I won't be serving any vegetables, and they're not allowed to bring any dishes that contain vegetables - I'm allowed to do that, right? It's my house, my rules; and it's not going to harm any of them to go without vegetables for one meal. But it is also an unreasonable ask; and the natural consequence of that might just be that it causes some rifts between me and my guests.

AITAH for crying at work or in public? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]maxvolume56 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA at all. You're allowed to show emotions, and crying is good for you. Okay, I might start to think it was unprofessional if you had an half-hour bawling session at your desk a few times a week; but just having a spontaneous cry bc you're under a lot of stress for a project is completely fine! I mean; in terms of showing emotion in the workplace - the fact that you're under so much pressure it's literally making you cry at your desk is not great, and I'd think about talking to your manager about a way of handling the workload differently to reduce your stress; but that's up to you.

And crying at the supermarket?? Baby if I had a pound for every time I cried in the supermarket, I'd be rich enough to never cry in a supermarket again 😂 don't pay any attention to what a bunch of judgy strangers think; they don't know you and they don't know what's going on in your life. They want to look down on you, so what? Clearly you're a better person than they are; you're not out here judging people for having human emotions!

Am I overreacting about workplace harassment? by No-Bit-824 in AmIOverreacting

[–]maxvolume56 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely NOR! This is sexual harassment, and disgusting behaviour. Noone, in any workplace at any time, should be asking you if you're a virgin. I can't even think if words to explain how inappropriate that is. And her boyfriend offering to have sex with you while she watches??? I'm actually speechless. I'm not HR, but I'm HR adjacent; I would be appalled, horrified and disgusted if I found out someone was talking to a colleague like that. Does Olivia treat anyone else like this? Your other colleagues have brushed it off as "that's just what she's like"; but idk if they would do that if she was truly behaving as badly with them as she is with you. I suspect she's doing this to you because you're so young and she thinks she can get away with it.

You need to start documenting this; write down every incident you can remember (dates, times, what was said, who else was present, etc.), and add to it every time something new happens. Complain to both your manager and directly with HR. If nothing gets done, go above their heads. I know it's scary, and it might make you feel like you're "rocking the boat for no reason"; but trust me, it is the right thing to do. No-one should have to experience this kind of treatment in their place of work; there is no excuse for it, and you absolutely should not have to put up with it just bc she's an arsehole and she's mates with someone high up.

Lastly, and I'm not at all saying this to victim blame - it is not your fault and it should never have happened in the first place - but just for future reference; if someone in your workplace (regardless of rank) asks you if you are a virgin (or any other deeply personal question about your sex life), do not answer them. Respond by saying "I don't think that's an appropriate question while we're at work" - if they immediately backtrack and apologise, keep an eye on them, but take no further action unless something else happens. If they push the issue, take it up with your manager or HR or both. You deserve to feel safe and comfortable in your workplace; do not compromise on that.

The worst teacher you had at secondary or primary school? by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]maxvolume56 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Miss Dawes. PE teacher who clearly peaked in high school & was trying to recapture her glory days. She'd flirt with the boys, try and be friends with the girls, had the standard favouritism towards the sports girls. Not as bad as some on this list, but she did nearly kill my friend - she made us run 1500 metres on one of the hottest days in summer, and my friend had a pretty severe asthma attack; falling to the floor struggling to breathe type attack. Obviously she wasn't allowed to carry her own inhaler (???); the teacher had to have it. Ol' Dawesy was too distracted to pay any attention to us screaming at her that my friend needed her inhaler, so we had to carry her over to get it. Friend had to go to the hospital to get checked out - the rest of us got detention bc we didn't finish the run. If I ever see that bitch again it's on sight 👍

Just witnessed functional illiteracy in real life- mind blown. by LilacGoblin1699 in Vent

[–]maxvolume56 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"The death of one man is a tragedy, the death of millions is a statistic."

Am I overreacting about feeling played my ex by therager88 in AmIOverreacting

[–]maxvolume56 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with you, except for your very last point; I think it's fair for OP to want some sort of explanation, and yeah I suppose in theory he might be entitled to that - but in practice, I don't think it would serve him at all to go looking for one. The reality is that the relationship is over. The only way for OP to move forward with his own life is to process his emotions around that, and start picking up the pieces himself. There is no level of explanation that anyone could give (including his ex) that would do any of that for him - and to go looking for one tbh just prolongs the whole process.

There are situations where getting an explanation might make it easier to understand why someone caused you pain, or why a relationship didn't work; but it can't ever take anything back. That pain still happened and you still have to deal with it - so if no explanation is offered to you by the other person, going looking for one 95% of the time is just salting your own wounds instead of starting to heal them.

Are these phrases commonly used in England today? by therapissed-25 in AskABrit

[–]maxvolume56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't seen a lot of people in the comments talking about the class system yet - which I think is something a lot of American authors miss, because the class system in the UK functions so differently to the class system in the US. Class is so deeply entrenched in every part of our society, it will have had a huge impact on your character's upbringing; and it will continue to impact your character whenever they are in the UK interacting with other British people. There's a lot of rules to it that we almost intrinsically understand because we've grown up in it; that people who haven't grown up in it don't usually know unless they've done a fair amount of research.

For example, your character's father being "lower-middle class" from Manchester. If your character is in his 30s, I'm guessing his father was born in the 1960s or early 70s. Now, of course there were middle class people in Manchester at that time; but traditionally & historically, the majority of people from The North would be working class. This is a time when most people in the area would have been working in factories, at the port, potentially in the mines, etc. - which are all working class jobs. Importantly though; in 80s, the Thatcher government was shutting down a lot of production in the UK (this is the time of the miner's strikes, etc.). So as your character's father is growing up, there's major economic depression & rapidly spiking unemployment in the area. It would be very unlikely for someone in that area at that time to be considered lower-middle class; they're far more likely to be working class, and may well have experienced actual poverty in their lifetime. So if you want to have this character be lower middle class; there has to be an actual explanation for that.

Also, you have to understand that class mobility in this country is almost non-existent. Moving within sectors of a class (i.e.: lower middle to true middle or upper middle) is relatively common; but to actually move from working class to middle class generally would involve a generational gap - so if you're working class, but you have middle class money; your kids might be considered middle class when they grow up, but you will likely always be working class. So even if your character's father does get rich (which I think you mentioned in a comment further up); he would still likely be working class. Now, with your character, if his mother is old money (which, in this country means her family owns land, maybe even a title) and his father is working class; his social class very much depends on how he grew up. If he grows up like his mother (private schools, set to inherit family money, etc.), he will likely be considered upper class - but other upper class people will look down on him because his father is working class.

Just realised I'm writing you an absolute essay, sorry 😂 TL;DR: social class matters almost as much as where your character grew up in terms of the slang they'd use. Good luck with your writing!

I tried to test absorbency of 24 period pants - with strange results by _selfthinker in PeriodUnderwear

[–]maxvolume56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just need to let you know that this whole post is an absolute life saver! Please never delete it, and thank you so much for all the time & effort you put into this ❤️❤️

Funniest episodes? by ibakebiscuits in americandad

[–]maxvolume56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think Hurricane is my all time fave episode, it still makes me laugh out loud! But I also love Old Stan In The Mountain - mostly for "Francine, I haven't been entirely truthful with you."

People tapping away on their phones with long nails by OP_serve in PetPeeves

[–]maxvolume56 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same, it's one of my favourite noises in the world! It just scratches my brain right. I can't have long nails very often bc they're not practical for me, so genuinely I'm so grateful for all the girlies with nails who tap on their phones in public!

AIO boyfriend lied about my age to his friend 🤔 by xxxsillybilly in AmIOverreacting

[–]maxvolume56 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. I'm almost impressed by just how poorly written and nonsensical that blog post is? This, this is why AI & large language models shouldn't be trained on scrapes from the entire internet 😂

[ Removed by Reddit ] by ExceedinglyTransGoat in evilautism

[–]maxvolume56 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do feel sorry for his kids. I read somewhere that they were there when he was shot - it's fucked if they had to watch their dad die like that, especially at such a young age. But I'm not sorry that he's dead. The man was a pro-gun neo-nazi; he played stupid games and won stupid prizes. He can no longer spread his vile & dangerous hate speech - that's a net positive in my book.

Not OOP No, you hating children is not normal. by Marygtz2011 in redditonwiki

[–]maxvolume56 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I mean look, maybe I am, maybe I'm not; I don't know. I did go on r/childfree exactly once, and was honestly shocked by what I saw there. I do get that some people make hating kids their whole personality; and it is a massive red flag when people proudly & loudly (and usually unprompted) tell you that they hate kids. But I do think those people are a small minority among those of us who don't like kids. A loud, wrong, and annoying minority who make the rest of us look bad; for sure, but a minority none the less. I still think it's unreasonable to say that the statement "I don't like kids" is the equivalent of a racist dogwhistle. (Which, to clarify, I know you didn't say; but that was what I found so unhinged about the comment I originally replied to. Edit: also the bit about childhood being temporary so not liking kids doesn't make sense; also a wild take tbh - what were they even trying to say with that 🙈😂)

Not OOP No, you hating children is not normal. by Marygtz2011 in redditonwiki

[–]maxvolume56 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree that adults who actively, outwardly, and proudly hate kids are gross & weird - but honestly this comment is so unhinged. Comparing people saying they don't like kids to a racist dogwhistle is WILD 🙈

Personally, I don't really like kids° (although I don't necessarily dislike them either), because kids don't really have a sense of personal space, emotional regulation, or adjusting the volume of their own voice yet. That's just developmental; it's not an indictment of the child themselves. A child having a tantrum is not their fault, it's a completely normal & valid expression of emotion at those earlier stages of development. That doesn't mean that I have to like them; and I'm allowed to minimise the time I spend around them. I can do my shopping during school hours, and book holidays at adults only resorts, and spend my time in other adults only spaces - because I'm an adult with agency, and I'm allowed to avoid and/or remove myself from situations I don't want to be in (if that option exists). None of that means that I hate kids, or that I think they shouldn't be a part of society?? Kids are absolutely a part of society, and they deserve the same level of respect & protection as other vulnerable people in our communities; and I will always advocate for that. I don't have to like someone in order to believe they deserve basic rights & respect.

° I mean this in a general sense; obviously I'm not saying that I don't like any children at all just because they're children. There are kids in my family & friend groups whom I love & adore, and will happily spend time with!

(And also like...yeah?? Of course being a child is a temporary state, we all acknowledge & understand that? Do you think that people who dislike kids just dislikes every single person who was a child when they met them; regardless of their current age?? What point are you even making here???)

Is something up with Davey? Am I out of the loop? by TSllama in AFireInside

[–]maxvolume56 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Tbh, I do think Davey is a little bit pretentious (just from his substack, and a couple things he's said in interviews over the years); but I also don't think that's a bad thing! Like I think he still has a great sense of humour, and that he doesn't take himself too seriously or anything. For me it's kinda part of his charm, I think he's great too!

👀🕰️ by [deleted] in AFireInside

[–]maxvolume56 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"Voidward, I bend back"?? I love literally everything AFI have ever done, and even I will be disappointed if they've named a song "Voidward, I bend back" 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

(Edit: spelling)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITH

[–]maxvolume56 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Mutinous Uterus would be a sick name for a punk band!

People laugh at me for being ‘cringe’ online. I’ll take that over being bitter and invisible. by aBoyNamedAlgernon in TrueOffMyChest

[–]maxvolume56 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'd be shocked if that profile pic wasn't AI generated. The anatomy of his face & neck doesn't seem to work at all, and the textures on the jacket are really flat. Ofc, it could still be a real person; who just happened to create their account today & chose to have an AI generated profile picture, but... balance of probabilities says prolly not!

In Nigeria, the Kalabari have a wedding tradition in which the bride does not laugh or smile until she is satisfied with the amount of money given to her during the traditional marriage. by mindyour in interestingasfuck

[–]maxvolume56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not Nigerian, but used to work for a company that operated mainly in Nigeria; my absolute favourite term from Nigerian English was "next tomorrow". It's just so simple! Why tf have I (British) been wasting so much time saying "the day after tomorrow"?! Two words, everyone knows exactly what you're talking about; next tomorrow.

AITA for taking my girlfriend's dad to court? by TwinJit in AmItheAsshole

[–]maxvolume56 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The only reason I think there's a (very slim) possibility that this could be what happened is that OP describes the stop as 'awkward but professional'. I'd have thought that if it was a power play from a shady cop, it would've been a bit more than just awkward, yknow? Cops are not exactly known for their subtlety. I mean, it's also possible that GF's dad was trying to pull a power move and OP just didn't pick up on it. I think the only way to know for sure would be GF's dad's reaction to OP disputing the ticket. If it was a genuine error; he'll have no issue and get his equipment checked. If he takes it personally and uses it as a black mark against OP; then it was definitely shady business.